Partner thinks I have a problem!

I'm exactly the same. apart from i have had an eating disorder. Have you ever cooked a full meal, dirtied a plate with the foot and then put the food into an outside bin or flushed down the toilet? if not i think you will be fine. i think he's being harsh and shout have said you have a problem when you are clearly doing so well! xx

While it's not technically an eating disorder, being overweight is usually because of disordered eating (ie an emotional relationship with food, rather than a normal relationship with food). I'd say since you've lost 65 already, you're doing something right! So don't fret about it!

This is the problem with "disorders" and psychiatry in general (and I say this as a psychologist) - all they are is a bunch of behaviours that have been lumped together under a label. Most people could probably fit several, but at the end of the day you need to judge if your actions and preoccupations are healthy or unhealthy. Are other people making similar comments??

Some people that are prone to eating disorders do get started by dieting, but it's hard to see the line at times since a lot of it is the same as you would do while dieting.

You'd want to watch out for what keeley mentioned, and also if you start lying to get out of real meals or have trouble eating enough calories to properly fuel your body. You don't have to be wasting away for it to be a problem, but as long as you know you're doing things the right way keep at it. He should only care of you're being healthy or not and it should be okay to have your body the way you like it.

I think it is very easy to get a bit obsessive about food when you are watching your weight and counting calories. I also think there is a BIG difference between being a bit obsessive and having an eating disorder. While it is true that some behaviours are common for eating disorders, they do not equal an eating disorder - which is more about the actual processes your mind goes through when relating to food and your body.

I also think that perhaps (for the sake of his argument) things have been taken slightly the wrong way. For example - if I were to say that an eating disorder patient was likely to not want to eat in front of people, that would be including your other half or your family, not just in front of strangers. Like taking cooked meals into your bedroom to eat privately.

Also, hiding when eating is not necessarily an ED indicator, either. I ONLY eat in front of friends, family and my other half. I don't want them to worry about me. Thankfully, I spend a lot of time alone.

Checking everything you eat is far from obsessed. Arranging canned goods by nutrition content is obsessed. My hubby saves the packages for me to scan so I think it's more than the calorie counting that's the problem. If we listened to everything on tv or radii I'd be on a million medications a day just because the guy on tv said to ask my doctor about it.

Sometimes counting calories and being aware of the amount you are eating can become obsessive and when you think that you are just "counting" the calories you are actually being obsessive about it... i.e not allowing yourself a single calorie over a certain number without needing to burn it off.

I don't know how normal it is to think/obsess about food all day. I don't think thinking about food at all is part of a healthy diet life style. Taking time to eat and eating slow is one thing, cutting things up into tiny little pieces is another. Coming from experience, taking very little bites is an ED behavior. It's more than just eating slower, it's the size of the bites.

Lots of people don't like being in public when they eat. Do you just not like eating in public or do you say you don't want to eat in front of anyone, Including your partner? How often do you avoid eating things using the excuse you don't want to eat in front of someone? Also, how often are you saying you already ate to get out of eating something? Was it just one time? How come you don't just say you don't want any? Why do you have to lie and say you already ate?

Although sometimes people are just being healthier and their partner/family/friends aren't used to it and they get overly concerned over nothing, sometimes it can actually be a problem. I'd say don't freak out of it, but maybe reevaluate things and make sure you are doing things for the right reasons. Make sure you are allowing yourself to live and be happy and you aren't just living to diet/exercise. Don't completely disregard what he is saying either. People are too quick to jump to "omg they are just jealous, you're normal, they don't want you to succeed, keep on counting".

hahaha i do the sme thing and there like omg your like a stick and i am kanna my b m i is 19 super close to 18 underwight butt i know im skinney but i have fat starting so im like ima need to looss fat and everone is like your to young ya i noo its my body and i think my thighs are fat but there like shudup your like a size zero but im actually siz 3 ou 4 errr i wanna be thnnnner im not a anerxic person that doesnt eat i eat junk food every day but a little like i eat luch sometimes never breakfest and then at 4 i eat like probably a 200 clourie luch and i eat like bits off stuff i feel full but when i go sleep my stomch is grolling im like i ate i dont need more stuff but then i reliz my body didnt like what i was doing to eat i never eat helthy when i was in grd 6 and 7 i was a calourie freak everywhere i go im like omg i cant eat that i would of got scared going to super markets but know i dong care will i doo but ima chang this i wanna become anerxic but i dont wanna die its not good starving your self i do alot of reasherch pleaseeeeeee ask me anything i no alot of thing fell free to ask and thanx thats my story peace out brothers and sisters and hommies out there

I have no idea what you just said

It's not really a fine line. People who have never experienced an eating disorder think it's a fine line but it's actually a chasm. Chances are, if you think you're unwell, you're fine.

There is some excellent advice on here. From people who have EDs, anything that is normal for a non-disordered person is fine. Like looking at nutritional content, saying no to cake, exercising regularly. Those are fine things, they are great for someone who doesn't have disordered eating. If you are doing the above things and more because you are terrified of weight gain, you need to control something in your life, you feel this is the only way you can make people care about you, I think that is stepping into dangerous waters. Everyone's ideas and advice are their own and it is fine. But you do have decide for yourself your motivation for losing weight, not your partner.