Lost all my friends

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  • Hourglass25
    Hourglass25 Posts: 340 Member
    I do delete people who havent logged in a while or who dont show support. I mean whats the point of having pals if they never log in or dont give you words of encouragement, feedback, tips, etc?...

    I also feel this way, unless I know that they are on a break for whatever reason
  • KateHubb
    KateHubb Posts: 366 Member
    I do a friend sweep once a week and delete everyone who has gone over 10 days without logging in. It's nothing personal, I just choose to only keep friends that are active on the site and serious about losing weight. There have been times where someone will post a status saying they are going out of the country, taking a break, etc and if I know what's going on, I won't cut them. It's just something I do to keep my list manageable.
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    It happens. I have some friends I would never, ever delete. But I would be concerned if they stopped logging in. Others, if they didn't tell me they might not be around so much, I'll delete. I try to keep track of all my friends. I have a Q system...
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    Definitely not rude. You can delete someone whenever you like, actually, and there's nothing rude about it.
  • ilookthetype
    ilookthetype Posts: 3,021 Member
    It happens. I have some friends I would never, ever delete. But I would be concerned if they stopped logging in. Others, if they didn't tell me they might not be around so much, I'll delete. I try to keep track of all my friends. I have a Q system...

    I second all of this. Except for the last bit, I don't have a Q system.
  • WillieEverlearn
    WillieEverlearn Posts: 87 Member
    I'm even more brutal. If I get the "so-and-so hasn't logged on for three days" message, my finger is hovering over the delete button. I want a friend list of people who are active in every sense of the word: getting in workouts, logging their calories, updating their successes (and struggles), and so on.

    There's another place where I can keep up with a group of friends who sign on every couple of months. It's called Facebook.
  • kmbrooks15
    kmbrooks15 Posts: 941 Member
    I defriend people who haven't logged in for more than about 30 days. If they tell me ahead they are taking a break, though, I'll leave them there until they come back.

    You can feel free to friend me if you want. I won't defriend you if you leave if you just warn me! LOL
  • Shash27
    Shash27 Posts: 172
    I usually delete people after they do not log on for 3 months.

    There is only a limited number of friends you can have on MFP so if someone is not logging on, what is the point in having them take up the "friend space"?

    3 months is about my limit too. Anyone who hasn't logged on in that long I unfriend, unless they are a close real life friend or family member.

    I delete after 1 month unless they said something prior. Even my close friends are subject to this rule. I want to support people who are serious and a month with no log ins shows me they are not...
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    I delete anyone who hasn't logged in for more than a month that I don't know irl unless they say something beforehand, and anyone whose posts annoy me. Yeah, that second part may sound ****ty, but if one of my mfp's perpetually TYPES IN ALL CAPS they're cut . . . in my head when I see that I FEEL AS THOUGH THEY'RE YELLING and I have a 2 year old so I get all the yelling at me that I need.
  • jam3114
    jam3114 Posts: 250 Member
    To be honest I'm surprised I've got any friends left because I'm not that consistent so sometimes I'm logging in expecting to have no friends.

    On the other hand I have a number of friends who haven't logged in weeks, some even months but it doesn't bother me so they just stay there in the hope that they come back.

    If you need a friend just send a request :smile:
  • SMarie10
    SMarie10 Posts: 956 Member
    I deleted my sister a few months back - she never mentioned it so I know she hasn't been back on the site, and really doesn't care.
    I have other friends that told me they were going to be quiet and while logging in, would not be posting. One is a great person and i have no intention of deleting her.

    Just like in real life - you make and lose friends for various reasons. Time to reach out and make some new connections.
  • JulieSD
    JulieSD Posts: 567
    I totally cut people after 3 days! For real. If I go through my friends list and I see that you've hit 3 days or you're on your 4th....you're gone.

    Unless....

    You have said something is going on...I recently had a friend move across country and she didn't log on for 3 weeks. I had another friend that was really busy with school, I keep her around because I know she is serious but really busy (and she is a great friend to have!)

    and if you have become someone really important to me I'll keep you around for ever and ever.

    So, I don't see it as rude. I just want this to be the best place that I can make it...and making and keeping great friends takes consistency and dedication.
  • huckahe
    huckahe Posts: 11
    Hello! I only have 1 friend on MFP but am looking for more ;-) No judgement here! Welcome back!
    HH
  • missana221
    missana221 Posts: 46 Member
    I had that happen to me to. I left for just ONE day and this one girl defriended me! Pshhhh! Friend me if you like :)
  • surfrgrl1
    surfrgrl1 Posts: 1,464 Member
    I have a 30 day limit, then I delete. (Unless I know the person 'in person', or I know they are going to be out for a while.)

    I am here to give support and to get support, if I'm not getting feedback from those that I provide comments on, their fate rests in their own hands. Most likely they will be deleted too---- Syanara!
  • sdwelk11
    sdwelk11 Posts: 825
    I give my friends 6 months to log in and then i send a message asking where they are and that I have missed them .. If within that week they don't log in then I de-friend them because obviously they either dont want or need to be on MFP anymore. I give motivation just like I need motivation and if you arent around then how will this happen?
  • AlexzKT
    AlexzKT Posts: 131 Member
    Aw! See, I kept you as a friend for a long time, but then I figured you were probably done with MFP! I even checked your profile to see if you had said that you were going to take a break... but I didn't see anything. It was nothing personal! I just thought you'd moved on. If you're back in, I'd love to be friends again! I was sad to see you go :(
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