why does my cousin pay..

someonelikemyself
someonelikemyself Posts: 192
edited October 5 in Chit-Chat
for everything..??? i'm not used to hanging out with cousins but recently, i have. I went out with my cousin who i only got to know recently but met in childhood. ( around 6-10 years)

he's 15 and i'm 18 so i'm older trust me no feelings ... but he always insists on paying WHYY? it just confuses me a lot.
hes a boy and im a girl

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  • cjpg
    cjpg Posts: 433 Member
    I wouldn't pay it too much attention. Money between family shouldn't be an issue.
    If it bothers you, then don't let a 15 year old out-insist you! Don't be mean or anything, but be firm and tell him "You paid last time, I am paying this time".

    Done deal.
  • poisongirl6485
    poisongirl6485 Posts: 1,487 Member
    LOLWUT?
  • cjpg
    cjpg Posts: 433 Member
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  • nicksaysnever
    nicksaysnever Posts: 38
    It sounds like he has a very traditional frame of mind (the man always pays for the woman), and it also might be that he wants to show off how mature he is by taking the responsibility on himself. (I know at that age I was a bit obsessed with finally having my own money.)

    If it bothers you the only real solution is to assert yourself and insist on paying your share.
  • Hirundo
    Hirundo Posts: 148 Member
    I wouldn't pay it too much attention. Money between family shouldn't be an issue.
    If it bothers you, then don't let a 15 year old out-insist you! Don't be mean or anything, but be firm and tell him "You paid last time, I am paying this time".

    Done deal.

    this !
  • snowfox92
    snowfox92 Posts: 100 Member
    You sound really weird putting too much emphasis on age and gender there for cousins....just saying. It shouldn't matter what ages and genders you are if you're just cousins and you shouldn't have to say no feelings.
  • NoAdditives
    NoAdditives Posts: 4,251 Member
    As a young woman, you should get used to it. And you certainly should enjoy it!

    It sounds like your cousin is traditional and is being chivalrous. His parents have probably done a good job raising him. If he wants to pay, I say let him. It's his money, he can do what he wants with it.
  • koosdel
    koosdel Posts: 3,317 Member
    I thought this was customary in Alabama?
  • someonelikemyself
    someonelikemyself Posts: 192
    I wouldn't pay it too much attention. Money between family shouldn't be an issue.
    If it bothers you, then don't let a 15 year old out-insist you! Don't be mean or anything, but be firm and tell him "You paid last time, I am paying this time".

    Done deal.

    hm i didnt look at it this way but it's just that i'm not used to it so i found it weird!

    thanksss!! btw i did tell him i'm paying before a million times he just didnt accept but trust me i wont stop trying
  • someonelikemyself
    someonelikemyself Posts: 192
    It sounds like he has a very traditional frame of mind (the man always pays for the woman), and it also might be that he wants to show off how mature he is by taking the responsibility on himself. (I know at that age I was a bit obsessed with finally having my own money.)

    If it bothers you the only real solution is to assert yourself and insist on paying your share.

    omg this makes so much sense and sounds so much like him... good one! thanks.
  • someonelikemyself
    someonelikemyself Posts: 192
    You sound really weird putting too much emphasis on age and gender there for cousins....just saying. It shouldn't matter what ages and genders you are if you're just cousins and you shouldn't have to say no feelings.

    haha don't worry trust me i see him as family. But people online come from different cultures and have different mentalities so when asking about anyones opinion " online" you need to include all the details to not give space to questions.
    I'm mentioning the gender because i mentioned "no feelings" didn't want people to get confused also because to lay out all possibilites. :)don't worry please/ Lol
  • poisongirl6485
    poisongirl6485 Posts: 1,487 Member
    I thought this was customary in Alabama?

    :drinker:
  • Gary1977
    Gary1977 Posts: 804 Member
    I thought this was customary in Alabama?

    LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:laugh: :bigsmile:
  • skinnnyxoxo
    skinnnyxoxo Posts: 210 Member
    Just showing maturity and kindness :)
  • snowfox92
    snowfox92 Posts: 100 Member
    You sound really weird putting too much emphasis on age and gender there for cousins....just saying. It shouldn't matter what ages and genders you are if you're just cousins and you shouldn't have to say no feelings.

    haha don't worry trust me i see him as family. But people online come from different cultures and have different mentalities so when asking about anyones opinion " online" you need to include all the details to not give space to questions.
    I'm mentioning the gender because i mentioned "no feelings" didn't want people to get confused also because to lay out all possibilites. :)don't worry please/ Lol


    makes sense :)
  • someonelikemyself
    someonelikemyself Posts: 192
    You sound really weird putting too much emphasis on age and gender there for cousins....just saying. It shouldn't matter what ages and genders you are if you're just cousins and you shouldn't have to say no feelings.

    haha don't worry trust me i see him as family. But people online come from different cultures and have different mentalities so when asking about anyones opinion " online" you need to include all the details to not give space to questions.
    I'm mentioning the gender because i mentioned "no feelings" didn't want people to get confused also because to lay out all possibilites. :)don't worry please/ Lol


    makes sense :)

    :D! .... i also agree with people saying maturity and kindness thats so true about my relatives whom i haven't seen for a while i think each one wants to show his or her better side after a long time of not seeing each other. i came up with this conclusion after realizing i do the same too ha.

    thanks every1!
  • paulaGetshealthy
    paulaGetshealthy Posts: 464
    I'm 21, my cousin is 22, I'm female, he's male. He always pays, and I don't mind ONE bit. lol :)
  • someonelikemyself
    someonelikemyself Posts: 192
    I'm 21, my cousin is 22, I'm female, he's male. He always pays, and I don't mind ONE bit. lol :)

    hahaha i like the girl power! :) i don't think i "Want" to pay attention anymore (A)
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