Using hubby's insensitivity to my advantage...

naugustyniak
naugustyniak Posts: 836 Member
edited September 19 in Fitness and Exercise
I posted awhile back about hubby not being supportive and bringing junk in the house even though I ask him not to. You guys were great and very supportive. Anyway, my anniversary was yesterday and he is in Nebraska working. I had hidden his present in his suitcase before he left. He calls me yesterday and tells me happy anniversary and says "if you want a gift you will have to go buy it yourself". He knows I hate that cuz all I really want is something that he picks out that he puts some thought into (never happens btw). So today I went and bought a Polar F6 HRM. That'll teach him:laugh: :laugh:

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  • naugustyniak
    naugustyniak Posts: 836 Member
    I posted awhile back about hubby not being supportive and bringing junk in the house even though I ask him not to. You guys were great and very supportive. Anyway, my anniversary was yesterday and he is in Nebraska working. I had hidden his present in his suitcase before he left. He calls me yesterday and tells me happy anniversary and says "if you want a gift you will have to go buy it yourself". He knows I hate that cuz all I really want is something that he picks out that he puts some thought into (never happens btw). So today I went and bought a Polar F6 HRM. That'll teach him:laugh: :laugh:
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
    I would have gone and bought a porsche.

    I'm mad on your behalf. The least he could have done is say- we'll celebrate when I get home. Did he thank you for the present?
    :grumble: :explode:
  • czewwhat
    czewwhat Posts: 8,715
    Anyone besides me thinking tennis bracelet? Oh go ahead and get the matching earrings too!
  • réalta
    réalta Posts: 895 Member
    :explode: i would have been so mad when he said that!

    good on you for buying your HRM, i love mine! lol

    oh and happy anniversary! :flowerforyou:
  • mncardiojunkie
    mncardiojunkie Posts: 307 Member
    Anyone besides me thinking tennis bracelet? Oh go ahead and get the matching earrings too!

    Yes, this and matching necklace and ring!
  • naugustyniak
    naugustyniak Posts: 836 Member
    Good ideas but I got something I REALLY wanted and knowing it will help me with my new lifestyle will piss him off more than anything else. And he did thank me for the gift in a "by the way" thanks for the present thing. No biggie.....I got better things to obsess about...:wink:

    He never takes me out to celebrate anything (birthdays, anniversarys) so I really don't care about that. I kinda don't want to go anywhere with him anyway....long story.
  • czewwhat
    czewwhat Posts: 8,715
    He is probably afraid you will get fabulous and dump his mean *kitten*
  • hiddensecant
    hiddensecant Posts: 2,446 Member
    Happy anniversary. Husbands can suck sometimes without even knowing it. Hopefully he starts to appreciate you more once he realizes that you're evolving without him.
  • naugustyniak
    naugustyniak Posts: 836 Member
    He is probably afraid you will get fabulous and dump his mean *kitten*


    :laugh: :laugh:
  • czewwhat
    czewwhat Posts: 8,715
    I posted awhile back about hubby not being supportive and bringing junk in the house even though I ask him not to. You guys were great and very supportive. Anyway, my anniversary was yesterday and he is in Nebraska working. I had hidden his present in his suitcase before he left. He calls me yesterday and tells me happy anniversary and says "if you want a gift you will have to go buy it yourself". He knows I hate that cuz all I really want is something that he picks out that he puts some thought into (never happens btw). So today I went and bought a Polar F6 HRM. That'll teach him:laugh: :laugh:

    as far as the junk food, smile, then throw it in the trash can right in front of him! Men hate to waste money!
  • naugustyniak
    naugustyniak Posts: 836 Member
    I posted awhile back about hubby not being supportive and bringing junk in the house even though I ask him not to. You guys were great and very supportive. Anyway, my anniversary was yesterday and he is in Nebraska working. I had hidden his present in his suitcase before he left. He calls me yesterday and tells me happy anniversary and says "if you want a gift you will have to go buy it yourself". He knows I hate that cuz all I really want is something that he picks out that he puts some thought into (never happens btw). So today I went and bought a Polar F6 HRM. That'll teach him:laugh: :laugh:

    as far as the junk food, smile, then throw it in the trash can right in front of him! Men hate to waste money!

    Actually what I did do the last time was just leave it on the counter until it got moldy (it was angel food cake) so it didn't take long. :laugh:
  • ktthegr8
    ktthegr8 Posts: 479
    He is probably afraid you will get fabulous and dump his mean *kitten*
    That wouldn't be a bad idea. You deserve someone who supports you and that is going to take you places to show off your new fabulous body! Good for you for getting the Polar. I would have gotten one in every color.:wink:
  • pixiestick
    pixiestick Posts: 839 Member
    regardless of marital strife, the Polar F6 is an amazing tool... you are going to be so happy you got it. I can't even think about exercising without mine. Definitely worth every penny. :explode:
  • melaniewalker63
    melaniewalker63 Posts: 16 Member
    Wow! That sounds real insensitive for sure!!! I'm sure he'll sit up and take notice though when you keep losing weight and put on that sexy dress and flaunt it!!! Keep it up:wink:
  • naugustyniak
    naugustyniak Posts: 836 Member
    He is probably afraid you will get fabulous and dump his mean *kitten*
    That wouldn't be a bad idea. You deserve someone who supports you and that is going to take you places to show off your new fabulous body! Good for you for getting the Polar. I would have gotten one in every color.:wink:

    Working on the dumping thing. He has really messed with my self esteem for so many years and I am just getting to where I am feeling somewhat better about myself. My son graduates next year and I will be 50 in 2 years so I am thinking I might just lose 165 pounds of dead weight (meaning hubby, that is his weight btw :laugh: ) and give myself a divorce for my 50th birthday then head off to have a fabulous time on a week long vacation somewhere. I have set goals for finances and other things for the next 2 years so I do have a plan. He is an alcoholic and very emotionally abusive and I have been with him for 21 years (20 years too long).
  • czewwhat
    czewwhat Posts: 8,715
    Dr Phil says there is only one thing worse than 21 years with a drunk that is 21 years and one more day!
  • rlw911
    rlw911 Posts: 475 Member
    He never takes me out to celebrate anything (birthdays, anniversarys) so I really don't care about that.

    Yeah, my EX husband used to be like that.

    Congrats on your new HRM. :bigsmile:
  • ktthegr8
    ktthegr8 Posts: 479
    He is probably afraid you will get fabulous and dump his mean *kitten*
    That wouldn't be a bad idea. You deserve someone who supports you and that is going to take you places to show off your new fabulous body! Good for you for getting the Polar. I would have gotten one in every color.:wink:

    Working on the dumping thing. He has really messed with my self esteem for so many years and I am just getting to where I am feeling somewhat better about myself. My son graduates next year and I will be 50 in 2 years so I am thinking I might just lose 165 pounds of dead weight (meaning hubby, that is his weight btw :laugh: ) and give myself a divorce for my 50th birthday then head off to have a fabulous time on a week long vacation somewhere. I have set goals for finances and other things for the next 2 years so I do have a plan. He is an alcoholic and very emotionally abusive and I have been with him for 21 years (20 years too long).
    Wow. That is really too bad. My mom is going through a similar situation right now and I will be thinking of you and sending strength your way:flowerforyou: You can do this! You deserve it! I can't wait to see that ticker jump 165 pounds:laugh:
  • Good for you! As someone who is learning the law and deals with divorces (and I am in fact taking my family law final tomorrow :tongue: ) Too many women dont take charge of their lives when they are in bad situations, and in turn are left with nothing after a divorce, or even worse never leave :noway:

    I commend you for taking the initiative and saving up, oh and getting fabulous as well! Hopefully many other women will follow in your footsteps if they are in situations like yours :flowerforyou:
  • czewwhat
    czewwhat Posts: 8,715
    Sing this to the beat of the William Tell overature next time you think of your future plans with rotten hubby:

    To the dump, to the dump, to the dump, dump ,dump
    To the dump, to the dump, to the dump, dump ,dump
    To the dump, to the dump, to the dump, dump ,dump

    To the Dump!!!!!!! To the Dump! Dump! Dump!!!

    It is catchy and easy to remember! Get fabulous, Get even! Get Free!
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