Please help, feel self destructive.

Have a beer and take the day off.
Come back tomorrow and be better.

Have a beer and take the day off.
Come back tomorrow and be better.

I agree with the second part but emphatically not the first part. Alcohol, besides have a lot of calories is a depressant and will make you feel worse. If you want to have a treat and take the day off, I suggest chocolate :laugh: which is good for your heart and has some positive psychological effects (seriously). But a nice walk or other light exercise would be GREAT - exercise releases endorphins.

Spoil youself in a way other than food. Give yourself an at home pedicure (or if you can, go out and get one professionally done). Walk to the movie store and rent one of your favourite movies, or treat youself to a yoga class.
I hope your day starts to look up.

I got some bad news this morning and feeling self destructive. what I should do is eat something light then go out and work out, but I am feeling like just sitting on the couch and eating everything in sight. I have reached my goal, and accomplished a lot. I have been able to maintain my weight as well so far. I think I am more up to listening to this feeling of self destruction because I have reached my goal and been doing so well, I really need someone to help encourage me to do the right thing for me because I deserve it. Please help!

Working out will help better than anything and you know that, just get into those sweat pants and go for it!

Yep I agree I would pour myself an extra large glass of red and phone my friend and put the world to rights. If I was to depressed staying in I would turn up un invited and she would give me a huge plate of sheppards pie and another glass of red. On days like today you need to give yourself a huge cuddle and a extra large bar of milk chocolate :O) xxx

Give yourself a well deserved break x

You can overcome anything. Look at all you have accomplished!--It's still a new day. Just because something bad happens you don't have to wait til tomorrow to try to repair things that have been broken. Open a window, focus on the things you love about yourself that no one can take from you. You can do it. And no matter what--be nice to you! Listen to your body and ask it what it really needs and then try to help yourself out. It will be ok. Things will get better.

Hi Teagin2002,

Honey, do you deserve to hurt yourself? Do you deserve to self-destruct? You're right angel, go workout and have something light to eat. If you have a friend close by, go visit them or let them know you need em. It's best to get your hurt out than in. That way you will minimize all those nasty hurts. Why do you want to punish yourself? By wanting to sit on the couch and eating everything in sight tells a tale of self punishment. Self punishment is a horrible horrible habit, even more difficult to kick than say a physical habit like eating, alcohol or drug abuse, because it's always there. Stop and think right now, do you really deserve to punish/hurt yourself?

You need to think logical right now, but i need you to love yourself right now. I need you to acknowledge your pain/emotions, and then accept it. Don't deny the emotion, but at the same time don't end up hurting yourself either. That is why there are friends and family and tears, tears is a way for us to get our emotions and hurt out without damaging ourselves physically or emotionally. It cleanses the soul, washes away the negativity.

Please hun, take care of yourself...you deserve only love right now, even if it only comes from yourself right now.

I hope you get through this girl. I'm thinking of you and I know the Angels will carry you on their wings.

Whenever I get bad news, I blast the angry music and work my butt off. The endorphins will help lift your spirits, and at the same time, you'll get a great workout out of it. I hope everything works out for you Hang in there!

maybe just go for a short walk to clear your head?

I just give advice of what I would do. Perhaps it is a depressant.
I just know if I half try to be healthy, and an in a funk, its doomed to failure for the day. Why even try?

The point is to just deal with whatever is up today, and put eating on hold. 110 is Amazing!! ok, so your brain is wrecked, so what is that worth? To me, I'd go for +1 or 2 pounds. That's a beer, or whatever. I also use beer or drinking because I rarely do it, so I'm not tempted to constantly go back for more. If I say, one handful of chips, or one peanut butter cup.. its not going to be just one. It will be 1 beer.

Also Kathleenf stated, you are a skinny person now. 110 is awesome. Don't freak out!

This incredible journey that you're on is full of ups and downs and I bet you'll doubt yourself and or want to throw in the towel more than 50% along the way. Cherish your accomplishment and let yourself be proud of your success and celebrate this every day... life events are out of your control, and you might want to find someone trustworthy to talk to, if not, seek professional counseling if necessary. I'm sorry to hear about your unfortunate situation, but I know that you will get right back into groove again. If you can achieve the incredible weight loss, you have the confidence to overcome anything! Keep it up, girl!

Call a friend, and go for a nice relaxing walk, get away from the house. Just to get your mind off everything. You don't have to go spend hours in a gym, just get away from the temptation, and I have always found that venting to someone helps. Hope this helps, and keep up the good work. YOU CAN DO IT!

*Hug* I really hope you are ok. How about taking some you time. A nice relaxing bath with lavender always makes my troubles feel less. Im here if u ever need to talk

First, congrats on your huge accomplishment!!! You clearly worked so hard to get where you are and you must be fighter! So, I'm sure you can conquer the feelings that were brought on by whatever news you got today. I don't know you, but your ticker tells me that you can! Second, food won't bring the kind of comfort you need right now. Get away from the temptation. Go out and walk and appreciate the strong muscles you worked so hard to achieve. Be grateful for all that you have given yourself. And if you want to treat yourself, go out and do it properly. You deserve the best!