Question for people who have lost

Ready2BEthin
Ready2BEthin Posts: 133 Member
edited October 5 in Success Stories
I read an article on Jennifer Hudson her weight loss and she said that people were nicer to her... and I was wondering for those of you who have lost 50+ pounds, a dramtic loss, have you experienced people treating you better after you lost the weight? This is something I was just wondering. Thank you
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  • shamr0ck
    shamr0ck Posts: 296 Member
    Yup. I've lost right at 50 pounds, and the change is amazing. People are more friendly, especially men.
  • clarech82
    clarech82 Posts: 244 Member
    I have found people are more friendly and say morning/afternoon to me in the street. I put it down to my new found confidence because I now walk around with my head held high not looking at my feet and I tend to smile at people more lol.
  • jendarlin
    jendarlin Posts: 184 Member
    Yup. I've lost right at 50 pounds, and the change is amazing. People are more friendly, especially men.


    ^^ This! It's true.
  • aaleigha1
    aaleigha1 Posts: 408 Member
    oh yes definitely
    now due to ill health the weight has come back and again I notice a difference
    this time when I lose it it WILL NOT be coming back
  • flimflamfloz
    flimflamfloz Posts: 1,980 Member
    Random girls I meet everywhere are nicer, since I am more attractive... (I am a man btw)
    I feel more confident and thus am more "approachable", this makes people nicer too.
  • AZKristi
    AZKristi Posts: 1,801 Member
    I think the process of eating better and improving my fitness level by working out has made me a happier, more confident individual (endorphins ROCK)! I think this is what people notice and respond to, more than just the change in my appearance.
  • skfj5
    skfj5 Posts: 70
    Unfortunately...yes. I wish I could say that I would be judged by something other than my weight...my personality, perhaps? I wonder how it will be when I have lost the last 40 I have to go...
  • wanda007
    wanda007 Posts: 16
    Hey I figure if they didnt want to talk to me while I'm fat I sure won't waste my time on them when I'm thin!
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    I think the process of eating better and improving my fitness level by working out has made me a happier, more confident individual (endorphins ROCK)! I think this is what people notice and respond to, more than just the change in my appearance.

    I agree with this comment! I have lost a total of 42 pounds now (3 before MFP) and haven't really noticed that I am being treated differently, but even when I was at my heaviest, I am still a naturally confident person so I think people in general picked up on that regardless of my weight!
  • Givemewings
    Givemewings Posts: 864 Member
    Yes, strangely.
  • katesbeach
    katesbeach Posts: 38 Member
    I've definitely noticed people being nicer to me since I've lost weight. And I've gotten a lot more attention from men. Although like clarech82 said, I'm hoping at least some of it's due to the fact that I'm a much more confident than I've ever been before.
  • fionarama
    fionarama Posts: 788 Member
    Its true. I only lost not even 5 kgs but now people talk to me at the gym. Before not so much. Now the men all start to work out around me so they can gawk at my bottom when I do squats!!!! It is definitely true that you can be a bit invisible to the male population unless you are good looking. Which in our culture means slim.
    So you won't change that, but its a good reason to change as it s something you can control - why hold yourself back with people by staying big?
  • TheFitHooker
    TheFitHooker Posts: 3,357 Member
    I'm still well over weight, with at least another 40lbs to go, but yes I don't feel like I'm looked at as a piece of crap instead I feel like people treat me like a person. I even see people in my own family treat me better.
  • Ready2BEthin
    Ready2BEthin Posts: 133 Member
    Its not something I ever thought about really until I read that article. A friend of mine told me that Gwenth Paltrow said in an interview once that when she was prepareing for the role in "Shallow Hal" she wore the "fat suit" on the street to truely experience being obese, and she said people barely spoke to her, and she got stares vs. when she is just her thin self. I havent really experienced people treating me too bad, but I thought wow, wonder how ill be treated at a healthy size. And just wanted to hear experiences from people who have lost. Thank you all for your post.
  • Vaanja
    Vaanja Posts: 163 Member
    Unfortunately, no...they wish I would stfu about caloric limit and cardio and scales. :(
  • tjames719
    tjames719 Posts: 136 Member
    I've seen some change in people's attitudes, but there is also a change in my attitude. So yeah things are different. :wink:
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    I haven't noticed much difference in how other people treat me, but I know I'm a lot nicer to myself. :flowerforyou:
  • lacroyx
    lacroyx Posts: 5,754 Member
    I sometimes notice people of the opposite sex smiling more.
  • AshinAms
    AshinAms Posts: 283 Member
    Yes, much nicer. In fact, as far as men go - too nice. I was very naive before I lost weight and was totally unprepared for what was waiting for me. But in general, I was shocked at how much more authority one has as a slimmer person - you can complain about things in stores for eg and people actually listen. I also think it was paired with taking much more care of how I looked etc though.
  • tcdawley78
    tcdawley78 Posts: 69 Member
    I've always been a confident person, but people are definitely nicer to me since I've lost 100+lbs!! It irritates me more often than not... I guess since I don't judge people based on outside characteristics, I don't like being confronted with the fact that so many people do.. :-(
  • FearAnLoathing
    FearAnLoathing Posts: 4,852 Member
    Ive lost 60 and people treat me the same as they always have,I have never had any negitive experiances in the way someone treats me due to my weight
  • momcindy
    momcindy Posts: 194 Member
    I don't know...I'm still about 100 pounds overweight but people seem to be nice to me regardless. I'm a lot harder on myself than others are toward me. I wonder too if it is because I'm older - complete with more white hair than brunette these days - and remind people of their moms or grandmas. Plus, I'm usually pleasant with other people, asking how they are doing, etc., so maybe that offsets any initial judgment they may have had.

    The only place I've ever encountered a negative response due to my weight was once when I went into a boutique clothing store to look at their handbags and jewelry and the first thing out of the clerk's mouth was, "We don't carry your size here." I responded, "But you do have accessories, right?" She recovered and said "Yes, we do. Can I help you with anything?"

    I headed for the door and said, "Not today. I'll do my Christmas shopping somewhere else."

    It was my Pretty Woman moment.
  • Namaste1983
    Namaste1983 Posts: 603 Member
    Yes, much nicer. In fact, as far as men go - too nice. I was very naive before I lost weight and was totally unprepared for what was waiting for me. But in general, I was shocked at how much more authority one has as a slimmer person - you can complain about things in stores for eg and people actually listen. I also think it was paired with taking much more care of how I looked etc though.

    SERIOUSLY AGREE
  • unmitigatedbadassery
    unmitigatedbadassery Posts: 653 Member
    Honestly I'm not sure if I'm treated differently (it seems so) or if it's just my confidence has been boosted and I'm more likely to engage in a conversation with people now. Either way - winning!
  • nighthawke
    nighthawke Posts: 45 Member
    Yep, I've actually experienced both sides of this. I lost 130ish pounds, a lot of people had better reactions to me, and then the reverse was true when I gained it back.

    However, this isn't all peoples reactions to us, psychologically speaking people reflect back a portion of our own attitude unconsciously, so if you have a poor self image and are not presenting yourself to others well, it's more likely to come back to you in other peoples attitudes then if you were totally self confident and sure of yourself.
  • madubil
    madubil Posts: 131 Member
    I have found people are more friendly and say morning/afternoon to me in the street. I put it down to my new found confidence because I now walk around with my head held high not looking at my feet and I tend to smile at people more lol.


    I agree completely with this- I think when we feel badly about ourselves- its projected to the people we encounter- and when we feel good about ourselves- that projects as well.
  • JetzGurl
    JetzGurl Posts: 213 Member
    I have found people are more friendly and say morning/afternoon to me in the street. I put it down to my new found confidence because I now walk around with my head held high not looking at my feet and I tend to smile at people more lol.


    I agree completely with this- I think when we feel badly about ourselves- its projected to the people we encounter- and when we feel good about ourselves- that projects as well.

    Absolutely! I believe confidence has a lot to do with it. One of the earliest things my husband said to me was that he thought my new found confidence was incredibly sexy :blushing:
    I've also started to get more attention at work.
    Of course, it also has a lot to do with the fact that I've completely replaced my wardrobe and take more notice of my appearance now. Some of it is vanity, but most of it is that, now, I can actually find nice clothes...THAT FIT ME!!!
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    A bit more attention from females, nothing major. In fairness, I'm notoriously oblivious to such advances.
  • pattycakes726
    pattycakes726 Posts: 348 Member
    I've noticed it, but I'm not sure if they are reacting to my appearance or to the fact that I'm more confident and outgoing now.
  • elo83
    elo83 Posts: 97 Member
    Most definetly! I lost 60 lbs and got a promotion at work!
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