Interesting reason to be dropped as a MFP friend

Sounds like that person needs to keep their diary private if they don't want comments

Well you can add me if you want because I generally keep my list short also. I like to motivate just the ones I can handle. But I like motivation and encouragement along the way myself. So I drop those who don't return it.

That IS too bad, because a friend SHOULD tell you how to make things better for yourself. I agree that their diary should be kept private, because she is going to continue to receive this kind of feedback, especially from the friends that really do care!

I don't always eat 1,200 cals, but it's because 100% of the time, I'm not hungry enough to eat any more. And right now I'm watching my sodium intake. I hadn't realized that my sodium intake was way above my goal, and from what I heard eating a lot of it will stall your weight loss.

and maybe that goal is something her dr set for her. she could be having trouble staying that low and your comments were not helping her motivation

((at least that was the reason my last friend dropped me lol))

I was friends with a girl trying to gain weight and her regular calories were constantly under 1200 with exercise. It was hard seeing everyday that ***** completed their food diary and were under their calorie goal

I have been cursed out by a friend of a friend on MFP for making sure they weren't starving! So I have definitely learned my lesson, I only comment on good progress. If they are under, way under, I don't generally take the time to comment. I don't want anyone to use "starvation" in a positive way, so I keep my positive/negative comments about it to myself. Lol However, if my friends ask for help or as another put it, to keep them in line, I will be completely honest!

Did you look at what this person ate the day before? I know I will sometimes eat over my calories for a day or two and then under for a couple of days. Perhaps that was all this person was doing and it was probably just easier for her to delete you rather than spending the energy on justifying it to you, as someone whom she does not even know. Just my two cents...

there ARE anorexic and bullemics on this site... I was friends with one of them and dropped them for the same reason.

I don't always eat 1,200 cals, but it's because 100% of the time, I'm not hungry enough to eat any more. And right now I'm watching my sodium intake. I hadn't realized that my sodium intake was way above my goal, and from what I heard eating a lot of it will stall your weight loss.

Excessive sodium can cause water retention, but will not prevent you from losing fat or pounds.

IDK about you but it's working for me. I've lost 3 lbs since last week so far just by reducing my sodium.

I feel a bit worried about posting this because I know what way the boards can go sometimes, but as this is something that recently happened to me - albeit on the other side of the coin (not quite the same as I do agree with what you did) but thought it might offer a perspective....

I recently dropped a friend for this reason....not that they were a bad person or I didn't like their way of doing things but I've been here for well over six months and have been in maintenance for about 5+ weeks. My lifestyle doesn't fit having one calorie allowance for every day of the week and I tend to zig-zag eating lower midweek and then eating back collectively (and some) calories at the weekends.

I keep my friend list at around 50 and I have some wonderful people that I love chatting with every day and they know my story, know what I'm doing and know that days I net below 1200 (though definitely eating up to 1600) will be followed by days I net over 2000! It works for me and it fits in with my life and social life. The new friend informed me quite publicly that I was doing terrible things to my body and I was very wrong...so yeah, I defriended her. Sometimes the "you will die if you don't net 1200 in a day" can sometimes go a bit OTT when juxtaposed with eating way above my cals on other days and I felt that I was going to constantly be told off!

I completely agree that using MFP to lose weight unhealthily and with huge calorie deficits is very wrong and people should certainly offer advice like you did to her. I just thought it might be interesting to add an angle from someone that might not net 1200 every day because some of us aren't starving ourselves. xx

Excessive sodium can cause water retention, but will not prevent you from losing fat or pounds.

IDK about you but it's working for me. I've lost 3 lbs since last week so far just by reducing my sodium.

Sodium has no calories. It causes WATER RETENTION.

You may have lost water weight from reducing sodium, but you did not lose fat.

It does NOT matter to me. I lost some type of weight and that's all that I care about.

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I understand. And there's nothing wrong with lower sodium. What I'm saying is that you will not continue to see drops in your weight simply from cutting back on sodium. Once that excess water weight goes, your losses will level off. You have to continue the right calorie deficit to continue seeing losses.

If you continue eating excess sodium, you will still see losses because while you retain water, you'll lose fat. So in that sense, sodium does not affect weight loss. Obviously, if you eat high sodium the day before a weigh-in, you'll see a higher number on the scale, but once you shed the water weight again, you'll go back to normal.

Sorry but adding people does not give them the automatic 'ticket' to criticize anyone's diary.

If you cant stop and ask them if they are the type of person who minds their food logs being reviewed, then you are considered intruding and butting your nose in where it definitely doesnt belong. They dont have to keep it private to theirself if they dont want it reviewed.

Too many people are so damn quick to make assumptions that you are purposely starving yourself and NEVER EVER ask that person whether or not they were sick (Im battling a bad flu and vertigo right now), whether or not they work a job that was so busy they couldnt get a meal break in (I work as a Chef for a living - happens alot), perhaps the internet was down due to the weather conditions (lost power for a couple of days so couldnt track anything)...

I dumped a person REAL fast when they noticed I didnt post anything for a dinner or water. It was during our nor-easter on Halloween and we had no electricity.... when it came back on the next day, I was able to go back and enter it and close it out. The 'friend' came back and said "ohhh you finally decided to eat something huh?" I chewed her *kitten* out.... and told her off. She is now blocked and I dont have to deal with her anymore.

I make it VERY clear on my profile about the type of person I am, what I am here for and the things about people I refuse to put up with here - and people on my friend's list know that under no circumstance do they have the right to cast judgement on anything they see in my food logs NOR post anything telling me what to do about my intake. All friend-requests that come in, I tell them to kindly read my profile and determine whether or not they can respect the things that matter most to me here on MFP.

I wont answer to anyone here about why I only ate 1000 calories - its none of their damn business. That business is between my PCP, my Endocrinologist and myself and so far, they have no problems with everything because they know the whole truth and the whole picture.