Question for people who have lost

davewiard · November 2011

It probably has a lot more to do with how you behave around those people than how they behave around them. Your weight loss makes you happier, more confident in yourself, more energetic, and more outgoing. Instead of holding your head down you hold it upright and everyone else notices, consciously or subconsciously. With your head held high, you are far more approachable. You join conversations and engage those around you more freely. So what seems like "other people are nicer now" might have always been there but you never recognized it because of your own behaviors. I've lost over 45 pounds since I was at my heaviest but I've seen virtually no difference in how people treat me. But even at my heaviest I never put my head down.

JStarnes · November 2011

Yup. Not that they were 'mean' to me before, but I've noticed when I go to company meetings at headquarters now, more people speak to me, introduce themselves. BUT that may because I come off more confident than I used to, I'm not the silent fat girl in the back of the conference room anymore....I'll sit up front now, speak and show that I'm not afraid of being seen.

joeygirl84 · November 2011

I have lost 75 lbs now. In a way, I feel some do respect me more... because of the devotion I have shown to meeting my goal. I think it shows strength they hadn't seen in me, and it just builds respect.

AshinAms · November 2011

I've always been a confident person, but people are definitely nicer to me since I've lost 100+lbs!! It irritates me more often than not... I guess since I don't judge people based on outside characteristics, I don't like being confronted with the fact that so many people do.. :-(

I agree so much with this! I find it hard to make new friends now and the ones I am most comfortable with are my old ones that knew me when I was very overweight, because I know for sure that they liked me for 'me' and not what's on the outside.

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