UK friends - help me! :)

_SpeshK_
_SpeshK_ Posts: 496 Member
edited October 5 in Chit-Chat
OK, English folks! I've always been fascinated with the UK...and recently at my job (I work in a hotel), I have met the most intriguing and attractive man from Croydon. Needless to say I am quite taken with this Englishman...any suggestions on charming him?? LOL....I'm laughing but I'm dead serious.
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  • luvbwfc
    luvbwfc Posts: 107 Member
    Standard man advice, show up naked, bring beer!

    Good luck!
  • _SpeshK_
    _SpeshK_ Posts: 496 Member
    LOL! Well we all know nudity is the universal language. I was just wondering, as an American, what kind of differences there may be, culturally, to help me snag this man! HAHAHA.
  • clioandboy
    clioandboy Posts: 963 Member
    Standard man advice, show up naked, bring beer!

    Good luck!

    love your response and agree, I wonder is that luv bolton wanderers?
  • stephm112
    stephm112 Posts: 297 Member
    haha Croyden. All you'll need is a pint, a shot of tequilla.

    no in all seriousness just be yourself. if he's a decent bloke he'll try just as hard with you. good luck x
  • luvbwfc
    luvbwfc Posts: 107 Member
    Standard man advice, show up naked, bring beer!

    Good luck!

    love your response and agree, I wonder is that luv bolton wanderers?

    It is indeed OCSWA!
  • luvbwfc
    luvbwfc Posts: 107 Member
    LOL! Well we all know nudity is the universal language. I was just wondering, as an American, what kind of differences there may be, culturally, to help me snag this man! HAHAHA.

    In some ways we are quite close culturally, as we get a *kitten* ton of US television over here. As I understand you can see our stuff on BBC America or similar.

    From what I can tell dating culture is a little different. You would tend to be dating one person at a trime in the UK, but I think until it gets serious you can be dating several in US?
  • stephaniezoundi
    stephaniezoundi Posts: 1,148 Member
    football/soccer! As a Canadian living over here (near Croydon actually!) its obsessive with the male form and some of the female....other than that be yourself!
  • dhakiyya
    dhakiyya Posts: 481 Member
    I'm british and married to an American. Just be yourself, but be prepared for some cultural differences.

    And avoid conversations like this :p (you'll have to imagine the sarcastic tone, which btw is a lot more subtle in British English and Americans often miss it and think Brits are being serious when we're not)

    him: *knocks on the bathroom door* Are you in the tub?
    me: No I'm not, I'm in the bath.

    me: That's not a sidewalk, it's a pavement. THIS is a sidewalk. *walks sideways*

    him: That's not a jumper, it's a sweater. THIS is a jumper *jumps up and down*
  • _SpeshK_
    _SpeshK_ Posts: 496 Member
    Eh. I guess in America, you would call it, "dating around" with a few people if you wanted...until you are "exclusive" with someone.
  • beccyleigh
    beccyleigh Posts: 846 Member
    I live 10 min drive away from Croydon. Just be yourself. Doesn't matter when he is from, if you have to change yourself to attract him then it's not worth it.

    That said, english lad from round here tend to be quite relaxed & like a laugh, having a beer, watching football so just be friendly & have fun.

    Good luck.
  • beduffbrickie
    beduffbrickie Posts: 642 Member
    hhhhhhmmmmmmmm......... being a hardcore born and bread specimen from the English Empire, what would I like an American women to do to win me over......... Well for one dont pick up bad habbits from English Ladies like:- nagging, moaning, spending every penny on clothes, taking to long to get ready, wee with the door open, list goes on :tongue: , I would show him how American girls role, might be a nice change for him, shame we dont get any american women in Warwickshire :wink: .
  • karenjoy
    karenjoy Posts: 1,840 Member
    Cultural issues only come later when you live together.....

    And as an English woman, you mention spending every penny on clothes and weeing with the door open...God help me I would NEVER do either of these...ever..EVER

    And I am not a nag or a moaner...
  • beduffbrickie
    beduffbrickie Posts: 642 Member
    And as an English woman, you mention spending every penny on clothes and weeing with the door open...God help me I would NEVER do either of these...ever..EVER

    And I am not a nag or a moaner...
    [/quote]

    yea right!
  • LilMissFoodie
    LilMissFoodie Posts: 612 Member
    I would probably say try not to focus too much on the fact that you are from different countries.

    Oh, but if something seems really odd to you then keep in mind that it could be a complete misunderstanding...

    Flashback to 2008 when my (now) husband's mother got him a hoodie for Christmas that said 'Got root?' on the front. Apparently this is some geeky computer reference but I was incredibly offended by it and thought it was really bizarre that his Mum would buy it for him. See, in Australia 'root' is an incredibly derogatory term for sex so a hoodie that said 'Got root?'... well, I think you get it! After weeks of arguing over the damn thing we finally realised that we were talking about different things altogether! And he gave the hoodie to his work colleague :P
  • karenjoy
    karenjoy Posts: 1,840 Member
    .yea right!




    I think you should speak to my Husband then, he will agree with me. But if you get nagged and moaned at, maybe you need it.
  • Ant_M76
    Ant_M76 Posts: 534 Member
    Just be yourself!
    Maybe the guy is in the States because he likes American girls ;-)
  • LilMissFoodie
    LilMissFoodie Posts: 612 Member
    Just be yourself!
    Maybe the guy is in the States because he likes American girls ;-)

    haha I'm totally picturing the guy from 'Love Actually' who goes to America now :P
  • bigfluffyjujubird
    bigfluffyjujubird Posts: 36
    i agree, just be yourself! if he doesnt like you for you then i dont think he is worth knowing!

    by the way its jam not jelly. jelly is something else entirely, this also goes for chips ;0) hahahaaaa
  • beccyleigh
    beccyleigh Posts: 846 Member
    and fanny :laugh:
  • karenjoy
    karenjoy Posts: 1,840 Member
    oh god yes, don't use the word fanny lol
  • kyle4jem
    kyle4jem Posts: 1,400 Member
    Now what can I say about Croydon... well I've only worked there the last 10yrs :laugh:

    You could mention the trams, the NLA tower (a.k.a. the 50p building) near East Croydon Station, Crystal Palace football club (that's soccer!), Doughmasters (the best fast-food outlet in the world and exclusive to Croydon) Fairfield's Hall, the Clocktower Library & arts cinema, the Whitgift centre and Centrale (the two shopping malls in town) and at least if you did hook up and decided to move back to the UK, the immigration office is located in town so you wouldn't have far to travel to register as an alien :laugh:)

    In then end, just be yourself and if it's meant to me, nature and love with take its course :bigsmile:
  • peacheywoo
    peacheywoo Posts: 52 Member
    See the differences as part of the fun...I have some good US cyber friends and we've had great online laughs figuring out the subtleties of language issues etc - just be you!
  • InstantSunshine
    InstantSunshine Posts: 355 Member
    Isn't Kate Moss from Croydon?

    Just ask him out (not to be confused with OFFERING him out, which means going outside the pub for a fight).

    Have a great time with the language thing - pants/trousers, fanny (haha that still makes me laugh when respectable old American ladies go "I fell on my fanny", I am so juvenile), jam and jelly, crisps and chips, oh and for god's sake don't say nut butter. Ahem.

    He'll think it's brilliant that you found out some stuff about Croydon (from the previous poster who's wearing a rubber ring in his pic) and at the very least, you'll have a good night!

    And we want to know what happens. :flowerforyou:
  • _SpeshK_
    _SpeshK_ Posts: 496 Member
    What am I missing with this fanny thing? Fanny means your butt in America.....what on earth does it mean in England?
  • _SpeshK_
    _SpeshK_ Posts: 496 Member
    OK So here's the main issue. I work for an extended stay hotel, and he is in the states for around 6 months with his company. I am the Assistant GM of the hotel...so essentially...any problems that may arise I deal with. On top of the fact that I work the reception desk 3-4 times a week so I see him often, even if it is just in-and-out type of interaction. NOW, if I ask this man on a date, and he is not interested...then that means quite a long time left to endure awkward passings by.

    Atop the fact that I do not know how to interpret the man. He is generally very reserved and quiet..very meticulous and organized. Occasionally he opens up and has a laugh, but usually a very private person.

    I'm torn!
  • yesiamaduck
    yesiamaduck Posts: 531 Member
    British people are into irony, do some irony.... then again that might just be my generation... everything in my generation is ironic! It either has be really bad or really good stuff.... also another tip : American Humour doesn't tend to work on British people.

    Approach him wearing an old Neighbours t-shirt or something
  • Ant_M76
    Ant_M76 Posts: 534 Member
    What am I missing with this fanny thing? Fanny means your butt in America.....what on earth does it mean in England?

    Front bottom!
  • _SpeshK_
    _SpeshK_ Posts: 496 Member
    What am I missing with this fanny thing? Fanny means your butt in America.....what on earth does it mean in England?

    Front bottom!


    OMG! Seriously??? That's freaking hilarious!
  • IronSmasher
    IronSmasher Posts: 3,908 Member
    Sorry, I thought this was a UK post, not English specific.

    I'm offended by all of this generalisation. Couldn't he be from a Muslim culture, being English and from Croydon?
  • beccyleigh
    beccyleigh Posts: 846 Member
    jog on troll
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