Other half rathers me fat :-(

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  • sinclare
    sinclare Posts: 369 Member
    My husband is worried that if someday the world ends and we run out of food, he may need to cook me, and there won't be much left to sustain him for long.
  • Kslice39
    Kslice39 Posts: 146
    I know every time I tried to lose weight before, mine would go out and get donuts or pastries. But this time, I am doing this for me and I am going to lose this weight .:bigsmile:

    UGH! mine does this to me too! :laugh: he doesnt mean it in a bad way, hes actually trying to be thoughtful(even though it has an opposite effect!) and he will go out and buy me a milkshake and surprise me with it:ohwell: (he know i LOVE milkshakes!) and i will thank him numerous time take one bit and say im full and he can have the rest! LOL its a win-win for us both :happy:
  • Kslice39
    Kslice39 Posts: 146
    My husband is worried that if someday the world ends and we run out of food, he may need to cook me, and there won't be much left to sustain him for long.

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • Rose200
    Rose200 Posts: 48 Member
    Who cares what he thinks? Do what you want!

    My husband prefers me with long hair, but if I want short hair, I will not hesitate to cut it. It has nothing to do with him. He does not get a say in my appearance.

    Besides, our appearance is going to change over time no matter what we do anyway. I met my husband when I was 19, and I'm now 29. I can assure you that I don't look 19 anymore and there is no point in me trying to do that. Gravity is going to have it's way with me, and he better like it! I love him now that he's older and his body type has changed, and he loves me too.

    So, there you have it. Do whatever you are going to do, whether or not he's on board with you. I know we all want to be attractive to our partners, but guess what? No matter what, confidence and being happy is more attractive than any specific body type.

    I love this post. :)
  • iKapuniai
    iKapuniai Posts: 594 Member
    I would quit complaining about how your other half prefers you being fat, because, really, it's better than your other half always putting you down because you're fat. If you're happy the way you are, especially if you're thin and healthy, that's really all that matters. To hell what anyone else thinks, feels or says. Besides that, he should love you no matter what, if he truly is your "other half". Just my 2 cents. ;)

    Love and Alohas,
    Ihilani Kapuniai
  • Kylea51
    Kylea51 Posts: 31
    that bites! I know men that loves "large" women. I had a friend that was 300+ lbs . She came into work one day high as a kite cuz she lost 20 lbs!! I was so happy for her! The next day she came in crying saing that her BF said if she looses anymore weight, he would leave her!! a few mths later? SHE LEFT HIM!! She lost over 150 lbs last time i seen her and has a new BF and liking herself again. Do what makes you like yourself.... maybe i should take my own advice?? Anyway-- good luck with this.
  • Promqueen_74932
    Promqueen_74932 Posts: 203 Member
    Thanks guys he's morbidly obese and says he'd rather be happy than on a diet (I have tried to explain its not a diet). I'm doing this for me and the kids but it really winds me up that he can't say a thing nice about all the hard work Ive put in.

    I think you hit the nail on the head here....he's morbidly obese and sees you making a change that maybe he is not yet brave enough to make. Maybe he is insecure that if you get skinny and he is still overweight you will want someone else. It's easier to be fat together than alone. Now, he probably feels guilty when he is indulging in food that you can't or won't eat with him. I think there is probably alot of his emotions going on here.

    I think you definately need to focus on getting healthy yourself, which you have done, and decide when he is ready to join you.


    agreed.

    AGREED
    SLB :flowerforyou:
  • Knvsmom
    Knvsmom Posts: 6
    Just a sad word of advice, DON'T listen to your SO. You looked fine in your pic.
    Every time I tried to diet or exercise my partner would sabotage me. I put on a lot of weight because we were always going out to eat. He dumped me 2 months ago because I was fat and he wanted someone younger and thinner. Stick to your guns and be the best you can be for you!
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    My husband told me that same thing the entire time I was losing weight. It was not insecurity or fear of losing me, he was being honest. He thought I looked good before, of that I have no doubt. Whenever he said anything I just told him that I was not healthy or comfortable at the weight I was and he'd back off (for a bit), because he loves me and wants me to be happy and healthy. He just didn't want me to lose my figure while I'm doing it.

    Now when I mention maybe losing another 10 he says the same thing. Men!!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Does anyone else have the same problem? My other half keeps telling me I'm to skinny (I'm still classed as overweight bmi 25.7) but he says I'm all boney and he liked me like I was before :(

    I'm happy the way I am but it still bugs me that he keeps on about it. Am I alone on this one?

    Mine didn't want me to lose when I was at my highest weight. I told him it wasn't about him, it was about me.
  • christibear
    christibear Posts: 93 Member
    I think people are way to quick to start throwing around that people they never met are insecure with themselves; even if he is obese it does not mean he is unhappy with himself. Maybe he actually does prefer bigger women, some men do. Why don't you just ask him why he doesn't want you to lose any more weight, if he really is your other half there is no reason why you should not be able to have an honest discussion about it; and you might find he is insecure or you might find out he prefers you with a little more weight. Until you know why he acts the way he does there is not reason to guess; talk to him about it.

    BTW there is nothing wrong with refering to someone as your other half, it does not mean that you do not see yourselves as two separate people.
  • Silverkittycat
    Silverkittycat Posts: 1,997 Member
    My husband is worried that if someday the world ends and we run out of food, he may need to cook me, and there won't be much left to sustain him for long.

    :laugh:
    Good thing you can outrun him.
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