Men & Baby Names

Krizzle4Rizzle
Krizzle4Rizzle Posts: 2,704 Member
edited October 5 in Chit-Chat
My Boyfriend and I have been together over 4 years. More and more we are starting to talk about getting married and being parents. I find it odd that whenever we talk about baby names he is very flexable when it comes to girl names. But when it comes to boy names he is tough as nail. He has basically said no to every boy name that I have suggested. Anyone go though this with their signicant other?
«1

Replies

  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    Maybe he doesn't have a preference on girl names because he isn't a girl. With boys he can imagine himself having these names giving him a stronger opinion on it.
  • sarah44254
    sarah44254 Posts: 3,078 Member
    I don't think I have ever discussed baby names with my guy. O_o kind of a strange realization there.
  • SugarNtheRaw
    SugarNtheRaw Posts: 191 Member
    Yay for talking about marriage and babies! And yes, my Husband is similar. We have all our names picked out, and finding names for the 2nd girl/boy was the irritating part. Good luck, love!
  • ajbeans
    ajbeans Posts: 2,857 Member
    He might be fighting you on boy names because boys can be merciless if they think a boy has a weird name. I know when we were pregnant with our first, we had lots of girl names, but couldn't find a boy name. Thankfully she was a girl, so it was a non-issue. But it's hard to find one that sounds strong without being overly macho, unique without being weird, and so on.

    Anyway, you don't have any babies yet. You don't have to decide on the names yet. With our second, the name just came to us, even though we couldn't come up with boy names the first time around. Don't stress about it. :)
  • poesch77
    poesch77 Posts: 1,005 Member
    Thank GOD I had 2 girls! With 1st one hubby wanted Dallas for a boy and Celeste ;( for a girl....we agreed on Lauren!! 2nd one he was a little more willing to listen to my sensible names! Maybe he can pick out the middle names!! :bigsmile:
  • KyleB65
    KyleB65 Posts: 1,196 Member
    Note that Spike, Buster, Dude, Clint, Joe, etc, etc, are all great boy's names! :-)
    Actually my wife and I had many heated discussions about what to name our two children. In the end, I caved!
    As the saying goes, Happy Wife, Happy Life.
    In the end my children are awesome, even if they do not have the names I had envisioned.
  • AnneElise
    AnneElise Posts: 4,206 Member
    ha. Mine was the SAME way. Once we actually got pregnant though he changed his mind. He didn't come up with any girls names himself but when I suggested them he had a yes or no in mind for sure :)
  • My husband and I have children from other relationships and we never had one together. (I regret this now.) However, if we did, that poor child would probably still be walking around with no name. He was exactly like your boyfriend when the subject came up. What is that?
  • ellekay22
    ellekay22 Posts: 147 Member
    The EXACT thing! And we are blessed with 2 boys! Naming them was HELL!

    He was stuck on Ernest for BOTH boys (as the first we DID NOT name Ernest - his grandfather). My husband was named after his two grandfathers (Thomas and Ernest) so we named Jamie after his two grandfathers (James and Donald) after about 1000 hours of disagreements. My second, Charlie, is named after about 15 different male relatives on both sides, and Tom finally got his Ernest as a middle name.

    Find out what names he likes. You might be frightened!
  • chuckyp
    chuckyp Posts: 693 Member
    Well it's his son, who will carry on his family name, so I guess I can see him being picky. But I would think you would want to put some thought into it regardless of gender.
    I didn't have that issue. My wife's idea for our son's name sounded so good to me that I was cool with her very first choice.
  • Women go through the pain, women choose the name!!! hahahaha i certainly did!! :)
  • Krizzle4Rizzle
    Krizzle4Rizzle Posts: 2,704 Member
    He might be fighting you on boy names because boys can be merciless if they think a boy has a weird name. I know when we were pregnant with our first, we had lots of girl names, but couldn't find a boy name. Thankfully she was a girl, so it was a non-issue. But it's hard to find one that sounds strong without being overly macho, unique without being weird, and so on.

    Anyway, you don't have any babies yet. You don't have to decide on the names yet. With our second, the name just came to us, even though we couldn't come up with boy names the first time around. Don't stress about it. :)

    THIS could be the issue. I like kinda unique names. I was in love with the name Oliver for years. He basically told me over his dead body...
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    Well it's his son, who will carry on his family name, so I guess I can see him being picky. But I would think you would want to put some thought into it regardless of gender.
    I didn't have that issue. My wife's idea for our son's name sounded so good to me that I was cool with her very first choice.
    What? It's her son too you know!
  • Krizzle4Rizzle
    Krizzle4Rizzle Posts: 2,704 Member
    The EXACT thing! And we are blessed with 2 boys! Naming them was HELL!

    He was stuck on Ernest for BOTH boys (as the first we DID NOT name Ernest - his grandfather). My husband was named after his two grandfathers (Thomas and Ernest) so we named Jamie after his two grandfathers (James and Donald) after about 1000 hours of disagreements. My second, Charlie, is named after about 15 different male relatives on both sides, and Tom finally got his Ernest as a middle name.

    Find out what names he likes. You might be frightened!

    This is very true. He told me he liked Herschel. I told him I would leave him. lol.
  • thedreamhazer
    thedreamhazer Posts: 1,156 Member
    We both agreed on boys' names instantly: Bruce and Clark. If there needed to be a third name, then James (Jim). The nerdy origins of each name is the reason why we chose them.

    Girls' names which much trickier. I like Olivia, Viola, Guinevere (Guin), Evelyn, Anjali, Aurora. He thinks these are horrible. We have agreed on only one girl name for sure: Wendy.
  • immacookie
    immacookie Posts: 7,424 Member
    He might be fighting you on boy names because boys can be merciless if they think a boy has a weird name. I know when we were pregnant with our first, we had lots of girl names, but couldn't find a boy name. Thankfully she was a girl, so it was a non-issue. But it's hard to find one that sounds strong without being overly macho, unique without being weird, and so on.

    Anyway, you don't have any babies yet. You don't have to decide on the names yet. With our second, the name just came to us, even though we couldn't come up with boy names the first time around. Don't stress about it. :)

    THIS could be the issue. I like kinda unique names. I was in love with the name Oliver for years. He basically told me over his dead body...

    Awww! One of my good friends named her little guy Oliver... aka "Little O". This will be his first "real" christmas, last year he was only a few weeks old.
  • AZTrailRunner
    AZTrailRunner Posts: 1,199 Member
    Maybe he just wants to be sure his son has a "strong" name. I can understand.

    <---- Logan Connor
  • Krizzle4Rizzle
    Krizzle4Rizzle Posts: 2,704 Member
    He might be fighting you on boy names because boys can be merciless if they think a boy has a weird name. I know when we were pregnant with our first, we had lots of girl names, but couldn't find a boy name. Thankfully she was a girl, so it was a non-issue. But it's hard to find one that sounds strong without being overly macho, unique without being weird, and so on.

    Anyway, you don't have any babies yet. You don't have to decide on the names yet. With our second, the name just came to us, even though we couldn't come up with boy names the first time around. Don't stress about it. :)

    THIS could be the issue. I like kinda unique names. I was in love with the name Oliver for years. He basically told me over his dead body...

    Awww! One of my good friends named her little guy Oliver... aka "Little O". This will be his first "real" christmas, last year he was only a few weeks old.

    Aww so cute. I just love that name. I bet he is adorable.
  • Krizzle4Rizzle
    Krizzle4Rizzle Posts: 2,704 Member
    Maybe he just wants to be sure his son has a "strong" name. I can understand.

    <---- Logan Connor

    I like the name Logan..but our good friends named their son that. That's what happend when you wait. Everyone starts takin the good names lol.

    And I LOVE Connor. My last name is O'Connor..so I thought that could be a throw back to my family..but of course..he said no.
  • sarah44254
    sarah44254 Posts: 3,078 Member
    Maybe he just wants to be sure his son has a "strong" name. I can understand.

    <---- Logan Connor

    But but... Logan is Wolverine (strong guy!) and Connor reminds me immediately of the Terminator struggles (strong guys vs strong guys!)
  • rossi02
    rossi02 Posts: 549 Member
    If my husband and I had girls.. they still wouldn't have a name! :laugh: It's so hard finding names that you both agree on. We have completely different styles. With our first son I wanted to start discussing names as soon as I got a positive pregnany test and it nearly drove me crazy that we didn't settle on a name til I was 6 months along. It was so much easier the second go around.
  • AZTrailRunner
    AZTrailRunner Posts: 1,199 Member
    Maybe he just wants to be sure his son has a "strong" name. I can understand.

    <---- Logan Connor

    But but... Logan is Wolverine (strong guy!) and Connor reminds me immediately of the Terminator struggles (strong guys vs strong guys!)

    Our list of girl names was looooooooong.... like 15-20 solid names. Our list of boy names was 6 - 8.

    I had simple criteria:
    1. Easy for the child to spell.
    2. Hard for other kids to modify for teasing.
    3. Short and easy to pronounce.
    4. Not be a name in the family.
    5. Not be a name of a previous pet (I train dogs, so we've had a lot of great people names bestowed upon our dogs).

    Another boy name on our list was "Hunter". Could be used for a daughter too.
  • chuckyp
    chuckyp Posts: 693 Member
    Well it's his son, who will carry on his family name, so I guess I can see him being picky. But I would think you would want to put some thought into it regardless of gender.
    I didn't have that issue. My wife's idea for our son's name sounded so good to me that I was cool with her very first choice.
    What? It's her son too you know!

    I understand that, but his son is his family legacy because his last name lives on. With a daughter, the last name is lost as soon as she gets married. Not saying that's the reason, but it's possible.
  • chuckyp
    chuckyp Posts: 693 Member
    Maybe he just wants to be sure his son has a "strong" name. I can understand.

    <---- Logan Connor

    But but... Logan is Wolverine (strong guy!) and Connor reminds me immediately of the Terminator struggles (strong guys vs strong guys!)

    Our list of girl names was looooooooong.... like 15-20 solid names. Our list of boy names was 6 - 8.

    I had simple criteria:
    1. Easy for the child to spell.
    2. Hard for other kids to modify for teasing.
    3. Short and easy to pronounce.
    4. Not be a name in the family.
    5. Not be a name of a previous pet (I train dogs, so we've had a lot of great people names bestowed upon our dogs).

    Another boy name on our list was "Hunter". Could be used for a daughter too.

    My wife wanted a name that was easy to say and couldn't be shortened to a nickname or for teasing. She liked the name "Carter" which I also liked and that's what he is named. Of course the first time I called him "Carter Farter" I blew her whole teasing theory out of the water. Might as well get him used to it now, because you know it's coming later when he gets into school! Hahahaha
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    I was just the opposite. If we had a girl together, she was going to be named Holland. I've known that for the last 35 years. I told my wife she could name a boy anything but Michael Jr.

    It was a girl. My wife had no say in the matter.
  • chocolateandvodka
    chocolateandvodka Posts: 1,850 Member
    This is very true. He told me he liked Herschel. I told him I would leave him. lol.

    PAHAHHAHAHAAHHAHAA poor you!
  • Ezada
    Ezada Posts: 207 Member
    8 years into our relationship and my husband and I have FINALLY narrowed down 2 boys names that we both agree on.
    I to believe Moradin and Cthulu were both on his list till I nixed them.

    Girls names are going to be tough though, we are still bickering about them lol.
    Thank God we have a few more years till we start trying. lol.
  • AZTrailRunner
    AZTrailRunner Posts: 1,199 Member
    Moradin and Cthulu


    Poor kids would forever have to spell their name to every single person who heard it. :-(

    I'm sure they have noble meanings though. :-D
  • Ezada
    Ezada Posts: 207 Member
    Moradin and Cthulu


    Poor kids would forever have to spell their name to every single person who heard it. :-(

    I'm sure they have noble meanings though. :-D

    Cthulu is a creature created by HP Lovecraft that, if you utter his name to many times, will rise from the Ocean and destroy the world.

    Moradin was his Dungeons and Dragons Character name. Though the character was very noble :D
  • mrimike
    mrimike Posts: 139
    My wife and I were kicking names around and we came with one together kind of at the same moment so it worked out just fine:) we named her Gwendolyn Brooke. Both names had meanings to us and it felt like it was meant to be.
This discussion has been closed.