Friends with benefits

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  • kmshred
    kmshred Posts: 393 Member
    I have a best friend with benefits... My husband.

    aweeeeee :heart: :heart: :heart: :love: :smile:
  • kmshred
    kmshred Posts: 393 Member
    I always saw Sex as something that was to be spent with the one person once being married. I havent always lived this way and regret every moment of it! But from here on in Sex is something I will be saving untill I am married.

    i respect that! awesome. :smile:
  • CastleMadeOfSand
    CastleMadeOfSand Posts: 432 Member
    Tried it multiple times. I'm an idiot who only learns after more than one failure. I fell hard every single time, and if i knew myself better at the time--it was an easy answer. After I figured this out--my body didn't let me form fwb situations anymore and I'm thankful for it.

    << Too sensitive for his own good...
  • ilookthetype
    ilookthetype Posts: 3,021 Member
    I used to have a slew. Then I messed up and fell in love with one after nearly 6 months. But I've had FWB for years. It's important that both of you have the understanding that it's just sex and nothing else. Ground rules are important. Some of mine were: No cuddling, no discussing personal things IE what went on in our day, how our extended families are etc., no dating activities (going to dinner/movies/concerts).

    Just helped me to keep things in perspective. But then again, I was far more interested in getting laid than getting a boyfriend. Be safe!

    I think we have the same manual...
  • kmshred
    kmshred Posts: 393 Member
    My wife took my man card away...24 years (+ one week) ago!!!! :laugh:

    congratulations! too cool!! :love:
  • Captain_Mal
    Captain_Mal Posts: 945 Member
    So apropo... :laugh:

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  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    The thread is about FRIENDS with benefits, not *kitten* buddies.

    The only FWB I started falling for, we'd been friends for 1 1/2 yrs before we picked up, and I already knew how wonderful he was. 6 months later I had to take a break from seeing and feeling him, because I was in the downward spiral, and he felt the same way. As of right now, we've been off/on (but ALWAYS friends) for over a year now and he's about to move. Neither of us are taking it well.

    As for *kitten* buddies? I grow fond of them, but I don't fall for them. I had one off and on for 4 months and nothing. Another for 8 months and nothing.

    It depends on personality, how well you fit, and whether your heart is ready. (heart, not necessarily you)
  • juanlh
    juanlh Posts: 7
    To be honest, my opinion is that it depends on the situation the guy is in. If he just wants to have dun he will, but if the guy suddenly misplaces his man card he could fall harder for the girl. I know at this point for me, I would want a fwb, but the things I am going thru right now, I would def be the one with feelings.
  • PBJunky
    PBJunky Posts: 737 Member
    So apropo... :laugh:

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    ROFL!!!
  • servilia
    servilia Posts: 3,452 Member
    So apropo... :laugh:

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    Good one!!
  • Alexdur85
    Alexdur85 Posts: 255 Member
    I don't think you can have a FWB without some sort of emotion for that person.
  • RyanDanielle5101
    RyanDanielle5101 Posts: 533
    So apropo... :laugh:

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    LMAO:laugh: :laugh:
  • Troy67
    Troy67 Posts: 556 Member
    I am with Brett. I am a guy who associates sex and love together. If I am not in that place with a woman where we are in love, I can do without the sex. I am about the emotional/romantic aspects, not just the physical act. But being with the right woman, I am all for sex. lol
  • xSophia19
    xSophia19 Posts: 1,536 Member
    May sound like a s.lag here, but i have quite a few freinds with benefits! Ive realised over the last couple of years and beeen in rough relationships, i dont want to be in a relationship just yet because of previous experiences.. Soo i just have friends with benefits, much easier, lesss hassle of actually been in a relationship and you can still have lots and lots of fun ;)

    so yeah, everyone on here go call me all sorts of names, for sleeping around with more than 5 different lads, i really dont care :)
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    You should just ask him if you guys are together or not...you can do it indirectly by mentioning that you would like to go out to eat some ______ and catch a movie. See if he is interested in just hanging out. No sex. See if he pays. See if he is courteous.
  • HeidiMightyRawr
    HeidiMightyRawr Posts: 3,343 Member
    I've never had FWBs.
    I'm the sort of person that can't have sex with someone I'm not in love with.
  • rybo
    rybo Posts: 5,424 Member
    The thread is about FRIENDS with benefits, not *kitten* buddies.

    The only FWB I started falling for, we'd been friends for 1 1/2 yrs before we picked up, and I already knew how wonderful he was. 6 months later I had to take a break from seeing and feeling him, because I was in the downward spiral, and he felt the same way. As of right now, we've been off/on (but ALWAYS friends) for over a year now and he's about to move. Neither of us are taking it well.

    As for *kitten* buddies? I grow fond of them, but I don't fall for them. I had one off and on for 4 months and nothing. Another for 8 months and nothing.

    It depends on personality, how well you fit, and whether your heart is ready. (heart, not necessarily you)

    I'm suprised only one person pointed out this difference. I've had a few FWB, but never a true FB.
    An FWB or a FB is a great situation as long as both parties realize what the deal is.
  • Secret_Agent_007
    Secret_Agent_007 Posts: 1,082
    I doubt I could separate the two relationships. Then again, I don't recall ever being single for more than a month in my whole life. Maybe if I had gone through a long stretch of being single in my early 20's I'd have a better perspective.
  • niknak0508
    niknak0508 Posts: 425 Member
    This will cost me my man card, but I can't go there if I don't have feelings in the first place.

    I don't think that's costing your man card!! That's what a REAL man should do. My boyfriend would say the same thing. GO YOU!!
  • Shausil82
    Shausil82 Posts: 218 Member
    It's interesting. Most of the relationships I've had, I thought were relationships. Turns out I was THEIR FWB, and they didn't tell me. I would fall for them and then they would be gone afterward, and I would be left hurt. I was told it was because guys don't fall for fat girls.
    Guys have never had genuine feelings for me. It's something you get used to. You realize that if it hasn't happened yet, it probably never will.
  • theberg
    theberg Posts: 80
    My wife and i started as friends with benefits.... now we're just friends...
  • theberg
    theberg Posts: 80
    Double
  • theberg
    theberg Posts: 80
    Triple
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    So far in this thread, I've seen two references to the theory that if you're actually in love with the woman you're sleeping with, you aren't really a man. This saddens me.
  • mrmarius
    mrmarius Posts: 1,802 Member
    So far in this thread, I've seen two references to the theory that if you're actually in love with the woman you're sleeping with, you aren't really a man. This saddens me.

    thats not true at all.. ive been both in love with the person and ive not had feelings for the woman i slept with. sex isnt as emotional for men as it is for women, for instance before i got married and was "sewing my wild oats" there was one girl that never would sleep with me, we dated spent hours on phone etc, i had strong feelings for her and never did have sex with her. then there were women i had sex with quickly and had no emotional feelings other than i considered them friends. but now that im married of course i have stronge feelings aka in love or whatnot with the woman im sleeping with... its really case by case
  • _Timmeh_
    _Timmeh_ Posts: 2,096 Member
    The thread is about FRIENDS with benefits, not *kitten* buddies.

    The only FWB I started falling for, we'd been friends for 1 1/2 yrs before we picked up, and I already knew how wonderful he was. 6 months later I had to take a break from seeing and feeling him, because I was in the downward spiral, and he felt the same way. As of right now, we've been off/on (but ALWAYS friends) for over a year now and he's about to move. Neither of us are taking it well.

    As for *kitten* buddies? I grow fond of them, but I don't fall for them. I had one off and on for 4 months and nothing. Another for 8 months and nothing.

    It depends on personality, how well you fit, and whether your heart is ready. (heart, not necessarily you)

    I'm confused. Is a *kitten* buddie someone you don't know? Why would you not be friends with them?
  • KatieJane83
    KatieJane83 Posts: 2,002 Member
    I'm another person who has had no experience with this. I've never had a FWB or FB. Honestly, since college I haven't been single since I met my husband in college and got married the summer after graduation. I'm now divorced but personally, for me, I really have no interest in having a FWB or FB. I'd much rather have sex with someone I really care about/love. Just makes it better IMO.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    I'm too old. When I was young enough to *kitten* around, we didn't have a cool politically correct acronym.
  • chocolateandvodka
    chocolateandvodka Posts: 1,850 Member
    honestly, i have never developed feelings for any of my fwb's. and there's a particular one i had for 8 months. seriously.
  • chocolateandvodka
    chocolateandvodka Posts: 1,850 Member
    this thread is making me miss my fwb....
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