Was my boyfriend lying?
softsculptor
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I have put on 10 lbs in the course of a year, and he says he hasn't noticed.I don't know if he is trying to not hurt my feelings or what. He noticed that I've lost weight...so clearly he is paying attention.
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10lbs is very small in the sense of a gain over a year, I'd believe him saying he didn't notice the gain
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When you see someone every day its really hard to notice a small gain like 10 lbs
I think he was telling the truth. 0 -
Don't mean to sound rude but does it really matter? Seems like he is happy for you that you lost weight and not commenting on the fact that you gained. Maybe you should just be happy that he is like that? 0
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When you see someone every day its really hard to notice a small gain like 10 lbs I think he was telling the truth.
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I agree with the others, I assume it was the truth0
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Believe him. Mine didn't notice until I got so angry at him and I showed him a picture then he looked shocked. Men don't always notice. He probably notices the weight loss because it is important to you?0
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Maybe not. When you are around someone a lot they don't notice things like that. He might have noticed a slight increase but, nothing that would say " shes gained 10 lbs". Same with loosing. He can see you have lost but he wont really be able to see a difference. I know that doesn't make much sense lol but my fiance tells me the same thing. He can tell I am loosing weight but, cant see that big a difference even though I have lost about 23lbs. When I gained weight...he barely noticed lol men0
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babe..my boyfriend didn't notice that i lost 40 lbs lol like others say its hard to notice when you're with someone everyday xx 0
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I doubt he was lying. Like others have said, when you spend every day with someone you rarely notice small changes. 10lbs over the course of a year isn't major.
Had you moved away from him 6 months ago and come back 10lbs heavier he may have noticed a small change. I noticed you losing weight because you mentioned the weight gain, he then consciously looked and now he can see that you're happy each day you are lighter!0 -
I don't think it really matters tbh0
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its hard to notice when you gain weight when you lose it, its easy to see. I don't believe he noticed since it happened slowly.0
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mat
Don't mean to sound rude but does it really matter? Seems like he is happy for you that you lost weight and not commenting on the fact that you gained. Maybe you should just be happy that he is like that?
No, ultimately it is not a big deal, which is why I haven't gotten angry about it. I would just like to know what is going on inside in terms of whether or not he finds me less attractive since I've gained weight.0 -
Hon, 10 pounds is very little when it comes to weight gain, especially over a year. I personally didn't notice when I gained it!0
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Go with your gut...easy people telling you what they think but all that matters is, whether you believe him or not! When you see someone all the time, you don't tend to notice these things as much!0
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babe..my boyfriend didn't notice that i lost 40 lbs lol like others say its hard to notice when you're with someone everyday xx
Whoa! I guess that makes me feel better! I can't believe that....really shocking.0 -
babe..my boyfriend didn't notice that i lost 40 lbs lol like others say its hard to notice when you're with someone everyday xx
Totally agree! My husband says that I am not fat in his eyes. And it takes A LOT for him to notice/say something when I lose weight too. Others notice right away, and I get compliments on my hard work from others, but he will say he doesn't see it until I show him pictures.
I wouldn't worry too much about it. 10 lbs is a low number, and you caught it now you can do something about it before it turns into 20 or more!0 -
He sounds lovely and supportive.
Would you rather he commented on the weight gain and never mentioned the loss?
He no doubt noticed the spring you have in your step now you've lost some weight and how good it makes you feel. Thats all.0 -
He sounds lovely and supportive.
Would you rather he commented on the weight gain and never mentioned the loss?
He no doubt noticed the spring you have in your step now you've lost some weight and how good it makes you feel. Thats all.
He is lovely, which is what worries me. He is TOO nice! I am afraid he wouldn't be honest for fear it might hurt my feelings. The thing is, when I ask a direct question, I want a direct answer...0 -
cheeksv, I find your answer more believable. I think he noticed, but didn't register it as a big enough gain to say anything.0
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I really doubt he noticed. 10lbs is quite small and when you see someone every day it gets even harder.
When I was living at home and my Mum was trying to lose weight, she would say to me "Do you think I've lost weight?" and I'd say "I don't know" because I couldn't notice and I didn't see the point in lying. I think sometimes she'd be hurt by that and would say she has, but I just used to try and tell her that I see her everyday, if she has, that's great but I'm not going to notice so easily as the change is gradual, and to ask someone else who doesn't see her regularly and I'm sure they'll see a change.
I think of it like TV series sometimes. One time I bought a boxset of 5 series. Watched them all really quickly in a matter of weeks - obviously the actors aged quite a bit from young teenagers to adults and changed a lot but I didn't notice at all. It wasn't until I went back to series 1 and was like "Whaaatt? How young did they look there??"0 -
Us men are simple beings...we don't always notice when gfs get hair cuts!
If you didn't notice yourself gain 10 lbs, why would he?0 -
When you see someone every day its really hard to notice a small gain like 10 lbs I think he was telling the truth.
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Us men are simple beings...we don't always notice when gfs get hair cuts!
If you didn't notice yourself gain 10 lbs, why would he?
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Truth. Why would he notice that?
He will def notice if you lose weight from your boobs, though.0 -
Hon, 10 pounds is very little when it comes to weight gain, especially over a year. I personally didn't notice when I gained it!
Same here. I didn't notice any difference. I thought my jeans just shrunk in the wash. 0 -
When I had braces mine didn't even notice that I got them off! LOL so I doubt anyone would notice 10lb gain! Boys are silly. =-)0
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mat
Don't mean to sound rude but does it really matter? Seems like he is happy for you that you lost weight and not commenting on the fact that you gained. Maybe you should just be happy that he is like that?
No, ultimately it is not a big deal, which is why I haven't gotten angry about it. I would just like to know what is going on inside in terms of whether or not he finds me less attractive since I've gained weight.He sounds lovely and supportive.
Would you rather he commented on the weight gain and never mentioned the loss?
He no doubt noticed the spring you have in your step now you've lost some weight and how good it makes you feel. Thats all.
He is lovely, which is what worries me. He is TOO nice! I am afraid he wouldn't be honest for fear it might hurt my feelings. The thing is, when I ask a direct question, I want a direct answer...
Frankly it does kinda sound like you are looking for if you can be mad at him. If he did notice he probably doesn't want to make you feel worse...you probably asked in a way indicating you don't like the weight gain and if he cares he isn't going to notice. Anyways, he cares about you so he isn't going to notice/care about the weight gain, unless it is something that impacts your health.0 -
mat
Don't mean to sound rude but does it really matter? Seems like he is happy for you that you lost weight and not commenting on the fact that you gained. Maybe you should just be happy that he is like that?
No, ultimately it is not a big deal, which is why I haven't gotten angry about it. I would just like to know what is going on inside in terms of whether or not he finds me less attractive since I've gained weight.
You need to be more secure in your relationship, if you think 10lbs of weight would make you less attractive to him, you are wrong. When you care about someone 10lbs is nothing. It doesn't even blip on the radar to them. Add in the fact most guys aren't the most perceiving at that kind of thing. It's not on our radar of cares. It's something women get to talk about :-D
Men are simple, we get together... Food..Grilling...Sports/Football........weather.....Beer....work...and etc..
If I ever heard one of my guy friends say.. "OH hey, did you see Kevin I think he gained 10lbs..." or "OH WOW Did you see Sarah she's put on at least 11 pounds" I'd give him a backhand upside the back of his head and he'd thank me for it later.0 -
Hon, 10 pounds is very little when it comes to weight gain, especially over a year. I personally didn't notice when I gained it!
Same here. I didn't notice any difference. I thought my jeans just shrunk in the wash.
Best part about this site is now I think the dryer is stretching my pants out!0 -
No, he's not lying. 10lbs is not significant at all, except to ourselves.0
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