Really? You must be joking O_O

It's attention seeking. Some people say the opposite of what they want to hear in an effort to get you to say what they want to hear. My ex-girlfriend used to do this far too much... hence the ex part.

The media tries to convince us that we are never skinny enough. Unless we look like models on a runway, we are not skinny enough. (And then the industry convinces the models themselves that THEY arn't skinny enough.) So yeah, she could be seeking for attention, but I think it's even sadder if she actually believes it, and she actually might.

They just want to hear "No, you're not..."
I hope I don't give that impression to people, but I am working hard even though I'm not really big, I'm bigger than I should be.

Oh gosh yes thats so annoying. I used to have skinny, skinny friends who would complain that they are fat or a picture they took was bad, when it was so untrue. Thats them wanting you to say "Oh my gosh no! You are so skinny!" Or "No way! You are so pretty in that picture!" It justs gives them a boost to their already huge ego. I dropped those friends quick They were fake


Back then I would fall for it and give them exactly what they wanted. Nowadays I would totally say "Oh shut your mouth or shove a donut in it. No-one cares" Although they might get offended by that. Hm,...

You have some pretty rude friends I'd say so. Perhaps you should tell them why it is rude and maybe they will stop. If not then I'd just say ya you are getting pretty fat.

I was in a bad mood until I read the end of this post. Now I'm chuckling like Santa at a comedy festival. Thanks for that :laugh:

I don't think its always attention seeking my nan has been thin her whole life and recently has gained the most minuscule amount of stomach fat but because she's never had it before to her its a massive deal. The rest of us all wonder what she's on about but as I said its not what she's used to.

Then there are attention seekers too but not everyone is.

I agree with this. My cousin is very small, and always has been. She's up to like a size 3 now and complains of being fat. For her, that is "fat". She's out of shape and larger than she is used to being.

To the OP: I wouldn't assume that your friend looks at you with disgust. Most people spend immense amounts of time loathing themselves, not other people. And I imagine that somewhere out there are women who think being your size is nothing to complain about either.

My one friend is really skinny. Recently she went from a size 0 to a 6. Honestly I didn't notice it, she looked the same to me, but she felt awful in her "new body" and would complain about it. I would call her out on it and she explained it nicely, saying that it doesn't matter what size you are, if you are bigger than what you're used to then of course you will think you're fat and complain about it.

Ok so idk but something that really bothers me as someone who is overweight and i have to work really hard to loose some weight is when people who are thin complain about being fat. Like today my 00size coworker said and i quote "omg i need to start working out im getting such a big belly roll i look like an elephant its so gross" the whole time im thinking are you Fu**ing kidding me if you think you look gross and like an elephant i dont even wanna know what you think when you look at me. I have alot of thin friends so i hear this kind of thing alot and its very annoying.

I agree-totally annoying. I would respond with, "Yeah, I have noticed you looked like you were gaining weight"
That should shut her up, haha.

You have some pretty rude friends I'd say so. Perhaps you should tell them why it is rude and maybe they will stop. If not then I'd just say ya you are getting pretty fat.

It's rude to think of yourself that you're not happy in your own body just because someone else "wishes" she was your size?

I think it's rude to not allow people to have their own feelings.

You have some pretty rude friends I'd say so. Perhaps you should tell them why it is rude and maybe they will stop. If not then I'd just say ya you are getting pretty fat.

It's rude to think of yourself that you're not happy in your own body just because someone else "wishes" she was your size?

I think it's rude to not allow people to have their own feelings.

It is rude to call your 3 pounds of fat "gross" when talking to someone who is overweight. You can FEEL whatever you want, but you don't have to blab about it.

You have some pretty rude friends I'd say so. Perhaps you should tell them why it is rude and maybe they will stop. If not then I'd just say ya you are getting pretty fat.

It's rude to think of yourself that you're not happy in your own body just because someone else "wishes" she was your size?

I think it's rude to not allow people to have their own feelings.

It is rude to call your 3 pounds of fat "gross" when talking to someone who is overweight. You can FEEL whatever you want, but you don't have to blab about it.

Like I said in my previous post, MY body image has NOTHING to do with you. That's how she feels about HER body. If the person she's talking to thinks that she's commenting on anything else, that's the problem of the person she's talking to.

I have curly hair. I hear people all the time who also have curly hair talk about how much they hate their hair. Does that mean they hate my hair, too? I guess they're all rude.

You have some pretty rude friends I'd say so. Perhaps you should tell them why it is rude and maybe they will stop. If not then I'd just say ya you are getting pretty fat.

It's rude to think of yourself that you're not happy in your own body just because someone else "wishes" she was your size?

I think it's rude to not allow people to have their own feelings.

It is rude to call your 3 pounds of fat "gross" when talking to someone who is overweight. You can FEEL whatever you want, but you don't have to blab about it.

Like I said in my previous post, MY body image has NOTHING to do with you. That's how she feels about HER body. If the person she's talking to thinks that she's commenting on anything else, that's the problem of the person she's talking to.

I have curly hair. I hear people all the time who also have curly hair talk about how much they hate their hair. Does that mean they hate my hair, too? I guess they're all rude.

Look, if you refuse to have any consideration for other people's feelings, that's your issue. But you know very well that a skinny person saying "fat is gross" to a fat person is insulting. If you choose to be an insensitive person who goes around insulting people, then you should own up to it.

I am guilty of saying similar comments when I was in my early 20s and weighed 102 lbs. But, as someone stated in a previous post, I was skinny fat but, I also had very low self-esteem. So any weight gain that occurred would cause me to freak out. Imagine what happened when I got up to 170 lbs.

Try not to worry about what others think of you (I know, easier said than done) but, seriously, you know what you need to do to be happy with you and focus on that. Tune out your co-worker's comments.

I usually just look at them in digust and say "OMG... you totally are! Morbidly obese even!" Then role my eyes and smack them. IF they are my friends.. otherwise I just ignore it.

Check out this link if you want a laugh and some encouragement. I think Kat Williams sums op SELF-ESTEEM quite nicely.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0865482/quotes