Help me make a decision please? :D

BeautyFromPain
BeautyFromPain Posts: 4,952 Member
edited October 6 in Chit-Chat
big decision. i only have enough time and money for one. either go visit my Nan and Pop I have not seen in years and miss dearly... or go to the coast with my bestie. oh yes, did i mention going to the coast with my bestie would mean i would have to pay for everything for her..Which would you choose?
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  • IronSmasher
    IronSmasher Posts: 3,908 Member
    My family has been dropping like flies lately.
  • BobbyClerici
    BobbyClerici Posts: 813 Member
    bye bye bestie...lol
  • fathewell
    fathewell Posts: 3
    Save some money and see the people you are missing.
  • Hayesgang
    Hayesgang Posts: 624
    Family first!!

    See if friend wants to go with you.
  • thatlittlebit
    thatlittlebit Posts: 46 Member
    Definitely family!!!
    I'm not saying yous hould always go see family but this situation definitely!
  • hoppinglark
    hoppinglark Posts: 213 Member
    My Father has Alzheimer's.
    I wish I could go back and spend more time with him when he was well.
    Don't end up like me.
  • JWOOLEY85
    JWOOLEY85 Posts: 6 Member
    I vote for Nan and Pop, just imagine how happy they would be to see you.
  • xxsmoochesbabyxx
    xxsmoochesbabyxx Posts: 11
    seriously, nan and pop seems like a no brainer.
  • katkins3
    katkins3 Posts: 1,359 Member
    Ever since my Mom passed away I've wished I had spent more time with her and got to know her better as an adult. She was a fun person and I miss her very much.
    I vote see your family and take pictures and save up good memories. You can see your bestie anytime.
  • AmandaJoi25
    AmandaJoi25 Posts: 50
    See the people you are missing please! You can go to the coast next year.
  • jocraw66
    jocraw66 Posts: 52
    I can't believe you really even have to think about this...

    At any rate, family should always come first. See if your friend would like to come with you.

    My parents are elderly, I live out of state because my husband is in the military. Not a day goes by that I don't wish I could spend time with them.
  • RAFValentina
    RAFValentina Posts: 1,231 Member
    How is that even a choice for you!? ... Nan and geandpops always. family first. especially if the best mate is a pikey scamming so and so.
  • BeautyFromPain
    BeautyFromPain Posts: 4,952 Member
    sorry i wanted to ask a question, no need to be rude. PS sorry people have been brought up different to you.i was not brought up to see family first, through many abusive situations (my immediate family) are not my fave people to be around. i see friends as my family as those people actually care, although I do care deeply for my grandparents.
  • kristarablue
    kristarablue Posts: 702 Member
    Well it sounds from your wording you know exactly which one you want, it is just telling beastie no. Besides which one will you know you will never regret....you will make the right choice, it is already in your words.
  • mnwalkingqueen
    mnwalkingqueen Posts: 1,299 Member
    Family first plus you miss them.
  • caitlinsmom07
    caitlinsmom07 Posts: 37 Member
    Nan and Pop! Life is too short! If she is truly your bestie, even though she may be a little bummed at the cancelation, she will understand and be excited for you!
  • bjberry
    bjberry Posts: 665 Member
    "i see friends as my family as those people actually care, although I do care deeply for my grandparents."
    You just said it yourself---Please go see your grandparents. You miss them.
    Hugs, BJB
  • oma5
    oma5 Posts: 37 Member
    Beauty,
    Like you I grew up in a very abusive family relationship, however I tried to make peace with my past and particularly my mother when she was dying but to no avail. She was miserable to the end, still verbally abusive. I can't believe that I miss my mother and think of her often now that she's dead I wish it could have been different. You have grandparents whom you love and miss, go see them and have a great time with them. As for your friend, plan the trip next year and in the meantime open a bank account together and BOTH deposit a certain amount of money in it each week/paycheque. When you have enough money accumulated then go to the coast and have a great time. At least you would be equal and not feel taken advantage of, and she would have some self respect and not be mooching off of you. Whatever you decide enjoy your vacation.:drinker:
  • ineednapkin
    ineednapkin Posts: 151
    I would choose family, it's very important to spend time with them :) I have been spending more time with my grandparents lately, and it has been well worth it. :)
  • Newf77
    Newf77 Posts: 802 Member
    I agree with the consensus but because I am a budget concise person.
  • Marywithchildren
    Marywithchildren Posts: 1
    This is a no brainer, the coast will wait, it is not going anywhere. Go see Nan and Pop.
  • BenderFitness
    BenderFitness Posts: 349
    Nan and Pop. :) Mine are gone. I wish I could see them.
  • gazz777
    gazz777 Posts: 722
    Well it sounds from your wording you know exactly which one you want, it is just telling beastie no. Besides which one will you know you will never regret....you will make the right choice, it is already in your words.
    ^^ This ^^
    I miss my parents, grandies, etc. I miss them.
  • debswebby
    debswebby Posts: 326
    I wouldn't even have to think about that one. Grandparents are so special. Enjoy every second you can with them. I lost my Nana last week. Even though she lived in Ireland, I made sure I saw her as often as I possibly could.
  • 1953Judith
    1953Judith Posts: 325 Member
    Nan and Pop. Agree that friends can be family too. But it sounds like you and friend are in same locale and Nan and Pop are far away.
  • Signia
    Signia Posts: 21
    The coast will always be there, Nan and Pop not so much. Go see Nan and Pop.
  • thor1god1of1awesome
    thor1god1of1awesome Posts: 481 Member
    first off i really see no rude comments but maybe i didnt see them, anyway you will have time for your bestie later (plus if you got to pay for her that sounds like a bad deal to me but just IMO) and i say enjoy your grandparents. The ones I was close with past away and I do have another set but I have I have nothing to do with them but that for personal reasons. So if you got a good relationship with them and love them i say this is a no brainer.
  • kt2007
    kt2007 Posts: 302 Member
    ok I see where you could think ppl were being kinda rude. Dont think they were trying to but it did come off like that. You got some choices to make here. 1st thing how much time you got to travel with? How far is nan and pops house? Whats the cost difference between the 2 trips? Can your friend go to nan and pops? make answers for all ???s from both trips and than put them in a row for good and not so good reasons to go do them.

    This is just my $.02 if you want to see family and you have to pay for everything for your friend to go to the coast than if your paying it shouldn't matter to your friend where shes going it dosnt cost her any thing. I myself would go see the family for the holiday and try to make it a cheap trip and save some money and plan a trip with the friend maybe spring break or something.
  • kt2007
    kt2007 Posts: 302 Member
    Hey I noticed on your profile that the coast trip was a reward for making it to your GOAL weight. Are you jumping the gun on that? If your doing that at the end of this journey than I would save that goal so you got something to look forward to.
  • gailashton
    gailashton Posts: 292
    Family for sure!
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