I have daddy issues.

xoAmyxo
xoAmyxo Posts: 110
edited October 6 in Chit-Chat
So this is gonna be a bit of a frustration post about my *kitten* friend. lol Today i was talking to one of my friends telling her about this guy I've been talking to & she asked how old he is i said..28 fixin to be 29 in march..she goes "are you serious" i said yes, what? & in a snotty tone she goes " you have daddy issues " Now I wanna know how the hell she gets that judgment from?? I am 21 years old! I dated a guy for three years who was only three years older then me..dated one guy who was 30 and i was 20/21..now im getting to know someone & hes only 28. Since when is talking/dating someone whos a tad bit older then you having daddy issues? Im friggin 21 not 11! .its not like he can be my damn dad! It hurt my feelings that she said it to me like im f*cked up in the head. & like i said i dated someone for THREE years who was only three years older then me..this is only my second older man that i've ever been interested in..& since when is 21 & 28 so bad??? ugh just had to get some of my frustration out.
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  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    Has your friend shown prior evidence of being a crazy person, or is this an isolated incident?
  • xoAmyxo
    xoAmyxo Posts: 110
    lol, just this one time.
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    It was a really odd thing for her to say. It's weird to date someone 7 years older than you? I don't get that at all.
  • xoAmyxo
    xoAmyxo Posts: 110
    I guess i outta start calling him DADDY! lmfao.
  • sandrinamsilva
    sandrinamsilva Posts: 651 Member
    I'm 31 and my ideal guy would be about 38 so I think you are good. all it matters is that you are happy and he treats you right. :love:
  • _Timmeh_
    _Timmeh_ Posts: 2,096 Member
    She sounds jealous!
  • dreamgurl2324
    dreamgurl2324 Posts: 191 Member
    my parents are 8 years apart and they have been happily married for 27 years.
  • Lozzielol
    Lozzielol Posts: 78
    My parents have 7 years between them. My partner and I have 4. What's the issue? I'd just ignore that comment.
  • wildcard29
    wildcard29 Posts: 322 Member
    I'm 32 and my fiancee is 40 and our relationship is amazing...she's dumb lol
  • MissO﹠A
    MissO﹠A Posts: 906 Member
    I believe she might not understand puberty and at approximately what age it occurs.
  • shanolap
    shanolap Posts: 1,204 Member
    Then I must have teenager issues.
  • JeepsMcCreeps
    JeepsMcCreeps Posts: 19
    My boyfriend is 24, I'm 19. We get this all the time. I love him to pieces and everyone who knows us knows we're pretty damn perfect for each other. Don't listen to that bs.
  • Tiggerrick
    Tiggerrick Posts: 1,078 Member
    Age is just a number. Life experiences cause maturity to happen - or not happen. Saying you have Daddy issues based solely on age is actually kinda dumb. You could be with someone younger than you and still have Daddy issues. Tell your friend 'whatever' and let it go. Don't let it hurt your feelings.
  • wickedcricket
    wickedcricket Posts: 1,246 Member
    ok you're very young (I don't care about the daddy thing) but I'm gonna throw this out there for what it's worth. Life is too short to waste it on ppl who make you feel bad.
    Friends who attack you (you feel attacked, you're defending yourself) or make you feel bad about yourself IN ANY WAY are NOT true friends.
    Dump her & keep the daddy
    That's my advice for life for what's it's worth

    Merry Christmas
  • xo_jewel_xo
    xo_jewel_xo Posts: 696 Member
    I'm 11 years older than my huband, he doesn't have Mommy issues, i may or may not be a cougar. Go for it! 8 years is nothing. Good luck
  • lizzybee84
    lizzybee84 Posts: 8 Member
    I married my husband when I was 21 and he was 28. We have been married for 7 years and we have never been happier.
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    Age is a number, mentality and maturity are proper things to gauge interest on.
    For example, a couple of my favorite people? 33(I think), 42, and 28. I am 26.
    But really?
    Who gives a *kitten*.
  • engineman312
    engineman312 Posts: 3,450 Member
    nooooooooooo, call him Papi!!
  • messyinthekitchen
    messyinthekitchen Posts: 662 Member
    Perhaps your friend is jealous that a man who probably has himself established or is on his way there is interested in you. I find *****y things like that always come from a place of jealously. Unless shes just *****y in general.
  • messyinthekitchen
    messyinthekitchen Posts: 662 Member
    Perhaps your friend is jealous that a man who probably has himself established or is on his way there is interested in you. I find *****y things like that always come from a place of jealously. Unless shes just *****y in general.

    b*tchy sorry forgot no swearing.
  • engineman312
    engineman312 Posts: 3,450 Member
    Perhaps your friend is jealous that a man who probably has himself established or is on his way there is interested in you. I find *****y things like that always come from a place of jealously. Unless shes just *****y in general.

    b*tchy sorry forgot no swearing.

    you are canadian. i expect better from you.
  • fromaquasar
    fromaquasar Posts: 811 Member
    One of my best friends is 43 (I'm 24), when I was 18 I dated a 31 year old for 9 months (that's 13 years difference). Age is just a number. Tell your friend you are happy and she should be for you!
  • poisongirl6485
    poisongirl6485 Posts: 1,487 Member
    LOL. My father is the most honorable man I know. I ended up marrying someone 8 years older than me. We met when I was 19 and he was 27. No 'daddy issues' here as my father was always there for me (my parents are still married after 29 years) and he's the best man I know.
  • coyoteo
    coyoteo Posts: 532 Member
    Huh. That really is an odd thing for her to say. I think that's a totally normal age difference...not that I am concerned about the norm....there's 27 years between my husband and I....and I don't have daddy issues! :)
  • autumnridge
    autumnridge Posts: 97 Member
    It sounds as if your friend is the one with issues. My parents were 7 years apart. My daughter is 38 and is with a guy who is 45. Her first husband was 2 years older than she and an abusive ****** who I am happy to have out of the picture. The one who is 7 years old is kind, considerate, has a great sense of humor, a good father, but most of all, he really loves our daughter. Be happy with your older guy and he's not THAT much older!
  • hofdog
    hofdog Posts: 269 Member
    I dated a girl 15 years younger than me for the past three years, I am 41 now. We were great just had different goals at this point so went our separate ways but stay friends.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,024 Member
    I'm 47 and my DW is 37. And yes I'm daddy.:laugh:

    Don't get advice from your friend.


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  • dakitten2
    dakitten2 Posts: 888 Member
    I would call it green envy, yellow-eyed monster. And she is your friend? LOL It's not the physical number, it's the connection you make with someone.

    My Granddaddy was 22 when he married my Grandmother at 13. She had 2 kids, one at age 14 and another at age 15. Of course this was way back when. He died just 6 months short of their 60th wedding anniversary. She's now 90 years old and still going. I believe if this had happened in today's time it would have been considered rape. Just goes to show you tho that you never know who, when, how old, etc that your soulmate might be.

    And pfffffffffftttttttttt your age differences is nothing! Now if you were eyeing Hugh Hefner, we might rethink this convo. LOL

    Just do what you wanna do and be yourself!
  • servilia
    servilia Posts: 3,452 Member
    Don't worry about her, she sounds crazy!
  • HeidiMightyRawr
    HeidiMightyRawr Posts: 3,343 Member
    Ugh, I don't even see how 7 years is that big of a deal, I wouldn't listen to her. At all.
    I'm 21 and my partner is 25 so not a big age difference but I wouldn't have a problem if he was older than that (not at my age now anyway) as long as we still had things in common. You're a fully grown adult! :/ Some people never cease to amaze me in the things they come out with LOL
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