I have daddy issues.

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  • california_peach
    california_peach Posts: 1,809 Member
    I believe she might not understand puberty and at approximately what age it occurs.

    This. It can't be a daddy thing if he could not possibly be your daddy.
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    ok you're very young (I don't care about the daddy thing) but I'm gonna throw this out there for what it's worth. Life is too short to waste it on ppl who make you feel bad.
    Friends who attack you (you feel attacked, you're defending yourself) or make you feel bad about yourself IN ANY WAY are NOT true friends.
    Dump her & keep the daddy
    That's my advice for life for what's it's worth

    Merry Christmas
    That's a bit harsh. If you start throwing away people for making stupid comments, you aren't going to have many friends left.
  • JediMaster_intraining
    JediMaster_intraining Posts: 903 Member
    Maybe she wants the guy you are dating or just has issues with the age difference which isn't that much a big deal. I've been on a few dates with people who are 10-15 years older than me when I was 18. Whats the big deal? Don't listen to her! My friends think I'm a weirdo for even going on those dates but I just don't listen! Do what makes you happy! :wink:
  • littlesis412
    littlesis412 Posts: 314 Member
    She's just being a b*tch. That's not much of an age difference. I think over 20 years old, you're mature enough to level with each other. Under that and each year can make a huge difference IMO. Two of the happiest couples I personally know have a huge age gap. One couple the husband is 20 years older. They have 3 wonderful children (one my best friend) and are very successful together. The other couple, the husband was actually a year older than the wife's father. The family of course had issues with it but the couple were immensely happy. I don't think there was a mental issue in either case. It's who they fell in love with, they can't control when the person was born.
  • mustang3
    mustang3 Posts: 68 Member
    Well if it makes you feel any better I am 27 and my boyfriend is 33.
  • Rayman79
    Rayman79 Posts: 2,009 Member
    This is a classic example of what I like to call 'salon psychology'. Chances are we're all familiar with the stereotype of the woman seeking an older man in a relationship for reasons related to the shortcomings in their relationship with their father.

    The problem is that this idea gets taken by a few people, may be shown in popular media (Dr Phil is great for empowering the uneducated to self-diagnose for example) and all of a sudden everyone is a therapist diagnosing others issues with no basis or real understanding of human psychology.

    I would think there was not likely a lot of malice in her comments, just a lack of understanding of what she was actually saying.
  • MercenaryNoetic26
    MercenaryNoetic26 Posts: 2,747 Member
    I only have ever fallen in love with older men. I never went over 7yrs age difference. Just coincidence. The first older man was a total loser, but funny and good in bed. The 2nd older man is now my husband, is not very funny, but great in bed and far from Loserville. During a two year split I even tried dating younger men. One was cute, smart, NOT good in bed. LOL, Glad I got my OLD man back and we're married. It's all GOOD! Your friend is HATIN'. If you're older than 18 you can choose how OLD you want your men. If he's as old as say, Hugh Hefner, then you just a GOLDDIGGA!
  • adjones5
    adjones5 Posts: 938 Member
    She is incorrectly incorporating psychoanalytical theory into your situation. She is not only extremely jealous of you, but she is also extremely uneducated. Tell her to **** off.
  • Bahet
    Bahet Posts: 1,254 Member
    I met my hubby in 1988 when I was 19 and he was 25. We married 4 years later - still going strong. :heart:

    I'd ask her what kind of back @$$ward town she's from that 7 yr olds are fathers.
  • deadstarsunburn
    deadstarsunburn Posts: 1,337 Member
    I'd LOVE to date someone that much older than me! He would already have finished college have a stable job and know who he is. What about that isn't desirable??? Guys 19-23 most likely haven't gotten to all that. My parents are 6 years apart and have been married 20 years their relationship is great. I'd tell her it's none of her business who you date and saying things like that only make her look bad. I see only pros in dating a guy older so ignore her. =]
  • deadstarsunburn
    deadstarsunburn Posts: 1,337 Member
    I'd ask her what kind of back @$$ward town she's from that 7 yr olds are fathers.

    LOL!!!!
  • hellotina
    hellotina Posts: 147 Member
    she's just being a *****..i'm 26 (almost 27) & i have the biggest crush on a man who's 38 LOL so i don't see anything wrong with that & i def don't have "daddy issues" =) go for it!!! if she's your friend she will be supportive if he is a good guy!
  • pumpkinmoccasins
    pumpkinmoccasins Posts: 24
    My husband is 8 years older than me and I definitely DON'T have daddy issues... your friend is trippin
  • artemis222
    artemis222 Posts: 390 Member
    Ask her if she thinks Johnny Depp [or any other older male actor] is hot.

    Then ask her how she deals with her Daddy issues.
  • red_hatorade
    red_hatorade Posts: 166
    She is probably jealous for some reason. I met my fiance when I was 18, he was 26. It is a fact that men are less mature than woman of their same age. Women who want a responsible, grown man often have to go older to get this. A 26 year old man and a 26 year old woman are two totally different creatures.
  • runs4zen
    runs4zen Posts: 769 Member
    As long as daddy is giving baby everything she needs...what's the problem?

    :drinker:
  • Becca_007
    Becca_007 Posts: 596 Member
    Someone with 'Daddy' issues doesn't necessarily have to do with a certain age frame. It's how the relationship works with the other person. If it's more of a daddy/daughter thing than it's not balanced and it could actually be a daddy/daughter situation.

    Sometimes it can be a younger girl with older mate but not necessarily.

    Ask HER what she meant by her comment? She's likely to have far more idea than those of us on here guessing. :laugh: :flowerforyou:

    Hey don't worry about it, you know if you do or if you don't, no one usually has to tell someone else if they do.

    Have a good night & really, don't worry about it, if you and your bf have a balanced relationship that you're both happy with, that truly is what's most important Hon:flowerforyou: :heart:
    As long as daddy is giving baby everything she needs...what's the problem?

    :drinker:
    Exactly..:laugh: OP..this cracked me up but not because of your post simply the way the poster shared it made me smile. :flowerforyou: .
  • Becca_007
    Becca_007 Posts: 596 Member
    ok you're very young (I don't care about the daddy thing) but I'm gonna throw this out there for what it's worth. Life is too short to waste it on ppl who make you feel bad.
    Friends who attack you (you feel attacked, you're defending yourself) or make you feel bad about yourself IN ANY WAY are NOT true friends.
    Dump her & keep the daddy
    That's my advice for life for what's it's worth

    Merry Christmas
    That's a bit harsh. If you start throwing away people for making stupid comments, you aren't going to have many friends left.
    Aw...but the ones you have will be worth keeping! No point in hanging around negative ppl, life is far too short!:wink::smokin:
  • hazelnut861
    hazelnut861 Posts: 390 Member
    Has your friend shown prior evidence of being a crazy person, or is this an isolated incident?
    Right right lol. I guess I have daddy issues too
  • JellyJaks
    JellyJaks Posts: 589 Member
    Aww geez if you've got daddy issues I don't know what's wrong with me. My husband is 11 years older than I am. No one ever believes me when I tell them since he still laughs at fart jokes but I will be 28 tomorrow and he's 39 :laugh:
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