Brought down to earth with a bump :(

So if you just give up who wins? No one. Your brother isn't looking at it as a win if you fail. Don't let that inner negative voice take control. You are in control. You've been in control of losing 76lbs! You are the driver on your bus! Now take that comment and shove it in the file with all the other crappy things he's said to you, forgive him because he doesn't think before he speaks, and get back in control and achieve everything that you desire and deserve....

Don't give it a second thought... my brother is the same way and I am now 189 pounds and he is 400+ pounds. He has always made fun of my weight. He used to call me Shallow Monica for the movie Shallow Hal... Its just what they do. When I got bells palsy and the left side of my face was paralyzed he called me the Joker from Batman!!! It was sooo mean but coming from him, I knew he didnt mean it and was just trying to be funny. I love my jerk off of a brother, although he will never ever be a sensitive guy, he has always been there for me and he loves me oodles Just brush it off- you can definately see the difference and you are looking super! Great job on all you have accomplished so far

I think brothers are uncomfortable talking about or thinking about their sister's bodies. :ohwell: We are kind of just...there. I can definately see progress in your pictures. Don't let anyone get you down. I was thinking about Eleanor Roosevelt who said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission." I think this is an excellent example of how to use that philosophy. Keep on going girl, no matter what anyone has to say about it. Most importantly don't eat those negative emotions. Rise above the hurt and next year when he comes to pick up gifts you'll have to introduce yourself. :happy:

You look great! How could someone NOT tell the difference between 76 pounds?! I serious think that he's either kidding around, or terribly nonobservant! In any case, keep up the fantastic work!

Your brother reminds me of my sister-in-law, can't seem to ever say something nice to someone. 76 lbs is a great loss and it definitely shows in your picture. Keep up the hard work.

well Ive lost 118 lbs it took me 16 months to lose 115 then its real slow now. But my mother told me I must have done something wrong cause on the biggest loser they lose it alot faster! Then other people in the family in laws included say rude things also. I use it as fuel! Get my motor goin! Anger and hurt are energies so use that negative energy in a positive way! You are doing amazing learn to be your own cheerleader thats a very hard thing that Ive learned through all of this!

I'm sorry, I just about teared up when I read this. I'm sure your brother is a great person and all, but wow, you'd think he'd know you well enough to not make an offhand comment like that, and then follow it up with a "just kidding". All I can say is you're doing wonderfully. I *totally* see the 76 pound difference after checking out your pics and you need to keep it up. He didn't help you one bit to lose even 1 pound and he certainly doesn't need to be the one who determines how proud you are of the weight you've lost so far and will continue to lose.

Amazing progress. Keep it up, and get to your goal, since how you feel about yourself and your success so far, is all that matters. Use his "where" as motivation to push it in his face once you get to where you want to be.

look at it this way, you're almost half way to where you want to be and you're looking and feeling a hell of a lot better. It doesn't matter what others say, you just have to do it for you!

Keep up the good work 76 pounds is huge! Most people cannot even lift that. Also, I can definitely see a difference in your picture, just in your face alone. Your brother is probably like my husband, not very observant. My husband usually doesn't notice until I show him how big my pants are or a side by side picture.

The first time I lost weight (I'd dropped about 90 pounds), my best friend I'd known for 12 years began acting weird. She'd get all cheery when I caved into a temptation or gained a trivial amount of weight back (like 1/2 a pound). But as I got closer to my goal, she began to shun me more and more. I hadn't acted different toward her. She was very obese, but I still loved her like the same friend I'd always been. Eventually she stole my boyfriend away and I had had enough. We're no longer friends. I've forgiven her, but I can't have friends I can't trust. It sounds like it might have been the jealousy talking.

I think someone here has already said it: sometimes those closest to us are the absolute WORST supporters. Your life will change in more ways than you know as you lose the weight.

76 pounds is a LOT! Go to the grocery store and try to pick up 76 pounds of ground beef. I bet you can't do it. =p You're doing great!

Guys are pretty infamous for not noticing things that ladies pick out right away. It's like how they don't notice new haircuts and such unless you point it out. I know how much we value getting support from our family when we're trying verify results in our weight loss but even he'll see it in time. He's just being a guy.

Congratulations on your progress so far! Keep going!

I could be wrong but I assume we all encounter something like this in this weight loss experience. I think sometimes it's a part of our mind that is looking for failure due to fear of success.

The reality of the situation is that YOU LOST 76 POUNDS. The opinion your brother gave was that he didn't see it. No pun intended, well actually maybe one is intended, but what has more weight? He's a human being who undoubtedly loves you, but he screwed up. In an ideal world that would be it and you'd move on and continue the amazing work you've been doing.

Unfortunately that doesn't always happen. Look at the facts of this situation, you're going to get compliments, you're going to get nothing, and sometimes you're going to get criticized. Maybe if we prepare for all three, even from the people who are supposed to love us most, then we can figure out ways of slipping past the horrible feeling we'll get.

The next reality of your losing weight is when you reach your goal there will be no denying the work you've done. Focus on that. I know I've been where you are now, recently in fact. It's not easy but it's not the end of the world or the end of the work you've done.

Good luck

What everyone else said!

Sounds like he was too full of his own modest success to see yours. WE can all see it, of course. Your weight loss shows quite plainly, but you dont need him to see it, or us. You are doing this for yourself, and doing it well. Keep it up, buddy.

I'm not asking for a medal, but a little more support from my nearest and dearest wouldn't go amiss - and for my hubby and 2 daughters who are also on this site, I don't mean you, as you're more than supportive to me and have kept me on the straight and narrow more than once LOL x

Your hubby and daughters are supporting you. That is AMAZING and wonderful. So think about that support, and don't worry about the non-supportive family members.