Brought down to earth with a bump :(

well Ive lost 118 lbs it took me 16 months to lose 115 then its real slow now. But my mother told me I must have done something wrong cause on the biggest loser they lose it alot faster! Then other people in the family in laws included say rude things also. I use it as fuel! Get my motor goin! Anger and hurt are energies so use that negative energy in a positive way! You are doing amazing learn to be your own cheerleader thats a very hard thing that Ive learned through all of this!

I'm sorry, I just about teared up when I read this. I'm sure your brother is a great person and all, but wow, you'd think he'd know you well enough to not make an offhand comment like that, and then follow it up with a "just kidding". All I can say is you're doing wonderfully. I *totally* see the 76 pound difference after checking out your pics and you need to keep it up. He didn't help you one bit to lose even 1 pound and he certainly doesn't need to be the one who determines how proud you are of the weight you've lost so far and will continue to lose.

Amazing progress. Keep it up, and get to your goal, since how you feel about yourself and your success so far, is all that matters. Use his "where" as motivation to push it in his face once you get to where you want to be.

look at it this way, you're almost half way to where you want to be and you're looking and feeling a hell of a lot better. It doesn't matter what others say, you just have to do it for you!

Keep up the good work 76 pounds is huge! Most people cannot even lift that. Also, I can definitely see a difference in your picture, just in your face alone. Your brother is probably like my husband, not very observant. My husband usually doesn't notice until I show him how big my pants are or a side by side picture.

The first time I lost weight (I'd dropped about 90 pounds), my best friend I'd known for 12 years began acting weird. She'd get all cheery when I caved into a temptation or gained a trivial amount of weight back (like 1/2 a pound). But as I got closer to my goal, she began to shun me more and more. I hadn't acted different toward her. She was very obese, but I still loved her like the same friend I'd always been. Eventually she stole my boyfriend away and I had had enough. We're no longer friends. I've forgiven her, but I can't have friends I can't trust. It sounds like it might have been the jealousy talking.

I think someone here has already said it: sometimes those closest to us are the absolute WORST supporters. Your life will change in more ways than you know as you lose the weight.

76 pounds is a LOT! Go to the grocery store and try to pick up 76 pounds of ground beef. I bet you can't do it. =p You're doing great!

Guys are pretty infamous for not noticing things that ladies pick out right away. It's like how they don't notice new haircuts and such unless you point it out. I know how much we value getting support from our family when we're trying verify results in our weight loss but even he'll see it in time. He's just being a guy.

Congratulations on your progress so far! Keep going!

I could be wrong but I assume we all encounter something like this in this weight loss experience. I think sometimes it's a part of our mind that is looking for failure due to fear of success.

The reality of the situation is that YOU LOST 76 POUNDS. The opinion your brother gave was that he didn't see it. No pun intended, well actually maybe one is intended, but what has more weight? He's a human being who undoubtedly loves you, but he screwed up. In an ideal world that would be it and you'd move on and continue the amazing work you've been doing.

Unfortunately that doesn't always happen. Look at the facts of this situation, you're going to get compliments, you're going to get nothing, and sometimes you're going to get criticized. Maybe if we prepare for all three, even from the people who are supposed to love us most, then we can figure out ways of slipping past the horrible feeling we'll get.

The next reality of your losing weight is when you reach your goal there will be no denying the work you've done. Focus on that. I know I've been where you are now, recently in fact. It's not easy but it's not the end of the world or the end of the work you've done.

Good luck

What everyone else said!

Sounds like he was too full of his own modest success to see yours. WE can all see it, of course. Your weight loss shows quite plainly, but you dont need him to see it, or us. You are doing this for yourself, and doing it well. Keep it up, buddy.

I'm not asking for a medal, but a little more support from my nearest and dearest wouldn't go amiss - and for my hubby and 2 daughters who are also on this site, I don't mean you, as you're more than supportive to me and have kept me on the straight and narrow more than once LOL x

Your hubby and daughters are supporting you. That is AMAZING and wonderful. So think about that support, and don't worry about the non-supportive family members.