I need advice on motivating someone else.

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wellbert
wellbert Posts: 3,924 Member
edited October 2024 in Motivation and Support
She was particularly motivated when we did all of our exercise together. I've sort of run off and left her in the dust since I've become pretty active lately and sticking strictly to my calorie goals.)

Now she doesn't want to exercise with me anymore because she feels like she's being patronized since I'm in much better shape. I don't point it out, I don't blow by her when we're riding bikes, I run her speed when we're doing couch to 5k. I'm not sure what else to do.

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  • michiganderrdh
    michiganderrdh Posts: 151 Member
    She's feeling guilty. Just ask her what can you do to help her.
  • kelseyhere
    kelseyhere Posts: 1,123 Member
    Yeah, she's probably just beating herself up on the inside and feeling jealous. It's not personal. Don't give up on her. Maybe suggest doing to a different workout that you know she likes, but you aren't so enthusiastic about. It will give her a boost to feel better than you (competition is just part of human nature).

    Assuming your a male, maybe surprise her by going to a zumba class (it's a dance cardio class offered at many gyms). You willingness to have a little fun (and possibly look a little silly in a class full of women) will definitely make her feel good.
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,401 Member
    Unfortunately, you can't motivate others to become healthy. They have to want it or it won't work. You could suggest doing things that are active, but don't initially seem like a workout- maybe a hike to see something scenic? Or if she has female friends to work out with maybe that would be better for a while?
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