Why does everyone want an easy way out?

I am relatively new to this website and I read a couple of the posts and forums and I feel as if many of you are still in denial and want an easy way out.

When you gained your wait regardless how you gained it, either through: depression, anxiety, medications, hormone issues, over eating, etc... the fact of the matter is that YOU gained weight.

You as a person need to assume responsibility and first analyze your problem. Figure out on your own what have YOU been doing wrong? If you can't figure it out see a nutritionist and take their advice!

Surgeries are the easy way out and in some cases are needed but in most aren't if YOU, yourself don't commit to it and make that life change. Getting lipo, lapband, or what ever other invasive surgery exsist won't cure the problem it will hide it if you don't eat well.

Being skinny isn't everything. Being skinny and suffering from high blood pressure and cholesterol is not a good look! Daily exercising and healthy eat is the road to be on. No matter how long it takes you to lose weight. 1lb a day is 12 less lbs a year that you have accomplished. I want to see more positivity and less excuses especially near the holidays!

You have the right idea, but my question would be, who wouldn't want an easy way out? If you are talking about what we want, most of us want it to be easy.

Unfortunately it's often pretty hard work. It does get easier over time though.

I completely understand what you are saying... and I find that most people DO indeed think that there is some magic pill, exercise etc. that can instantly slim you:laugh: . What I don't agree with is that those people are HERE:huh: . Since I started reading these posts, I find MOST people saying that there is NO easy way. That's part of the reason that I like it here. Because the majority of these people are doing it right and help to make this "hard as hell" journey a little easier:flowerforyou: .

ps--- I used to feel JUST like you in the respect that the surgery is the easy way out... After reading those people's stories I have to say that I don't believe it is easy at all. Lots of complicated issues, health and mental. I applaud anyone who has the courage to do this and do it in a healthy manner. That's just my opinion. :bigsmile:

I am relatively new to this website and I read a couple of the posts and forums and I feel as if many of you are still in denial and want an easy way out.

When you gained your wait regardless how you gained it, either through: depression, anxiety, medications, hormone issues, over eating, etc... the fact of the matter is that YOU gained weight.

You as a person need to assume responsibility and first analyze your problem. Figure out on your own what have YOU been doing wrong? If you can't figure it out see a nutritionist and take their advice!

Surgeries are the easy way out and in some cases are needed but in most aren't if YOU, yourself don't commit to it and make that life change. Getting lipo, lapband, or what ever other invasive surgery exsist won't cure the problem it will hide it if you don't eat well.

Being skinny isn't everything. Being skinny and suffering from high blood pressure and cholesterol is not a good look! Daily exercising and healthy eat is the road to be on. No matter how long it takes you to lose weight. 1lb a day is 12 less lbs a year that you have accomplished. I want to see more positivity and less excuses especially near the holidays!

You are SO RIGHT!
There is so much excuse making, sniveling and responsibility shrugging. It's pathetic!

And you need to connect with positive, results oriented folks who are totally dedicated to seeing this through.
Hang with the winners!

And KEEP PUNCHING!

All Is Possible...:drinker:

I want an easy way out! I know it ain't gonna happen, but I want it. So instead I roll my @$$ out of bed every morning and hit the road a runnin'.

I am relatively new to this website and I read a couple of the posts and forums and I feel as if many of you are still in denial and want an easy way out.

When you gained your wait regardless how you gained it, either through: depression, anxiety, medications, hormone issues, over eating, etc... the fact of the matter is that YOU gained weight.

You as a person need to assume responsibility and first analyze your problem. Figure out on your own what have YOU been doing wrong? If you can't figure it out see a nutritionist and take their advice!

Surgeries are the easy way out and in some cases are needed but in most aren't if YOU, yourself don't commit to it and make that life change. Getting lipo, lapband, or what ever other invasive surgery exsist won't cure the problem it will hide it if you don't eat well.

Being skinny isn't everything. Being skinny and suffering from high blood pressure and cholesterol is not a good look! Daily exercising and healthy eat is the road to be on. No matter how long it takes you to lose weight. 1lb a day is 12 less lbs a year that you have accomplished. I want to see more positivity and less excuses especially near the holidays!

*stands up and applauds this post!!!!!!!!*

My thoughts exactly!!!!!

I know I gained MY WEIGHT back (40 pounds) and I'm starting to take MY life back and starting to DO THIS!! It certainly NOT easy, but I know it's going to be worth it, I know EVERYONE ON HERE can do it and WILL lose the weight as long as they put in that umph, and I KNOW how hard it is, but it'll be MORE hard if you don't jump on board now, get your life back and open up to "healthy eating" and less "on a diet" talks...

This post hit a cord with me and I'm so grateful I came on here to read your words! Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!!!!!

I am relatively new to this website and I read a couple of the posts and forums and I feel as if many of you are still in denial and want an easy way out.

When you gained your wait regardless how you gained it, either through: depression, anxiety, medications, hormone issues, over eating, etc... the fact of the matter is that YOU gained weight.

You as a person need to assume responsibility and first analyze your problem. Figure out on your own what have YOU been doing wrong? If you can't figure it out see a nutritionist and take their advice!

Surgeries are the easy way out and in some cases are needed but in most aren't if YOU, yourself don't commit to it and make that life change. Getting lipo, lapband, or what ever other invasive surgery exsist won't cure the problem it will hide it if you don't eat well.

Being skinny isn't everything. Being skinny and suffering from high blood pressure and cholesterol is not a good look! Daily exercising and healthy eat is the road to be on. No matter how long it takes you to lose weight. 1lb a day is 12 less lbs a year that you have accomplished. I want to see more positivity and less excuses especially near the holidays!

To be honest with you surgery is NOT the easy way out. It is actually a lot of hard work. Surgery is a TOOL not an instant remedy for the problem. I had WLS surgery and I work my *kitten* off. It keeps me in line and holds me even more accountable. Diets - how many people do you see on here say - here I am again , regained all the weight I lost, yadda yadda yadda.

I had to do surgery because I have MS and even with the weight loss I had already accomplished (started at 320 to 265 when I talked to my MD) my MS was uncontrollable with meds. This had to be an option for me. So really unless you know what you are talking about, dont assume some are taking the easy way out on anything.

There is no "right" or "wrong" way to lose weight. So all I ask is dont make assumptions or judgements on people who do not choose to do it the way you chose to.

Dieter: "Doctor, I want to lose weight."

Doc: "Well, how often do you exercise and what's your typical daily diet like?"

Dieter: "Oh, I never exercise and I live mostly on donuts and coffee, fast food for lunch, and frozen pizzas for dinner."

Doc: "Well, we're talking lifestyle changes here ... we can get you where you want to be in a year if you stick to the program."

Dieter: "But can't you just give me a pill or a special diet? I want to lose all my weight by my class reunion next month!!"

My magic bullet is an actual magic bullet that literally shoots the fat right off of you! Only known side effect is bleeding to death.

Ha!!

Blood lost is weight lost??

There's a great new "magic bullet" for us Floridians. It's called SHARK ATTACK. You just sit on a surf board with your legs dangling and let nature takes it's course... I mean, do you realize how much your leg weighs?

Because no one, I don't care who you are, wants to admit to themselves that they are wrong or at fault. I take full responsibility for gaining weight. And you know what? I AM going to get in shape and I AM going to work hard to achieve the results I want. I fully understand that I will only get out of my body what I put in.

The people who just want an easy way out are too prideful to admit they are the way they are because of their own actions.

I am relatively new to this website and I read a couple of the posts and forums and I feel as if many of you are still in denial and want an easy way out.

When you gained your wait regardless how you gained it, either through: depression, anxiety, medications, hormone issues, over eating, etc... the fact of the matter is that YOU gained weight.

You as a person need to assume responsibility and first analyze your problem. Figure out on your own what have YOU been doing wrong? If you can't figure it out see a nutritionist and take their advice!

Surgeries are the easy way out and in some cases are needed but in most aren't if YOU, yourself don't commit to it and make that life change. Getting lipo, lapband, or what ever other invasive surgery exsist won't cure the problem it will hide it if you don't eat well.

Being skinny isn't everything. Being skinny and suffering from high blood pressure and cholesterol is not a good look! Daily exercising and healthy eat is the road to be on. No matter how long it takes you to lose weight. 1lb a day is 12 less lbs a year that you have accomplished. I want to see more positivity and less excuses especially near the holidays!

You have the right idea, but my question would be, who wouldn't want an easy way out? If you are talking about what we want, most of us want it to be easy.

Unfortunately it's often pretty hard work. It does get easier over time though.

If you look at our society today, it's easy to see why we want an easy way out....convience is in every aspect of our culture

I do not know anyone who is overweight, myself included who hasn't looked for the easy way out. Usually when you first realize that you are overweight, you want it to go away, fast. You don't want to change anything, you just want it to go away! It took me many years to come to the realization that there really truly is no easy way to get rid of this weight, and I'm so happy that I woke up to that fact while I am still (relatively) young and CAN lose the weight the "hard" way and enjoy my life. Everyone has to have their own wake up call, no one can tell them that it's not going to be easy, they have to realize it for themselves.

Just like everything else in life, you have to learn the hard way sometimes!

We are slugs as people. Our culture is designed to give it to me now. Right now. And if I am not satisfied, I will throw a hissy mantrum and tell you why you are a horrible company/business/product/person.

I wrote a blog on this in Oct. Basically as it pertains to weight it comes down to this:

You didn't get to be fat overnight. It took much time of actively pursuing fatdom by not being active, eating bad food, etc...

People will say "but my genetics...." Yes. Yes your genetics. o.O The fact of the matter is, while medical conditions can and DO exist, they are not as common as those that are fat would like you to believe. The fact of the matter is, for most people crying medical condition, the only real medical condition is that they don't feel like working out and enjoy high calorie foods. I'm not saying everyone, so don't get sand all up in your va jay jay and come stalking after me roaring about how unfair I'm being because you have some ultra rare thyroid condition and you eat 1200 calories a day and still gain weight (those exist)... I'm speaking in general.

I have a slow metabolism. It's always been slow. I calculated my BMR and it's about 20% off kilter. I don't know if thats genetics or what it is. I just know that I know that i have to work a little harder to maintain my weight. I didn't get fat overnight. It did take me years of abuse of myself through bad eating and laying on the couch to get me up to 272 lbs.

It took me getting a divorce to drop a lot of that through depression. It took a monumental surge of "ok I'm *****ing done with being a jabba" last summer to get me down to 220 and having a normal blood sugar.

It takes work to get fat. It takes work to get thin. Period. These magic pills, magic diets, etc... they all fail because they are a load of crap. It takes eating proper nutrition (and I am a lover of all things IHop and Pizza... so I know I know... it sucks) and moving moving moving and pushing yourself physically to get back down to where you need to be.

A pill won't magically burn the fat away while you lay on the couch watching tv.

Yes I used a lot of stereotypes in this post, but I remember how I was, looking for the easy way down to a normal weight and nothing worked until I decided to start being active again. I play soccer now. I run. I lift weights. I keep my calories down. I feel a ton better. Fad diets...pills... that crap doesn't work, and neither does the mindset where it's not your fault for being fat, because 9 times out of 10 (barring actual REAL medical issues) it is indeed your fault for being fat.

Once you get past the blaming everyone else thing, and start taking responsibility for your own life... things will start to improve.

Yes it sucks being fat. It's lonely. It's rejection. It's not feeling good. It's being weak and having no energy. It's being judged. If those things aren't enough to light a giant bonfire under your *kitten* I don't know what is!

*note "you" is not pointing at anyone person in particular.