People Haven't noticed and I don't care

First, I would tell people that do notice and ask exactly how much you have lost. It is a great accomplishment ... you should be proud of that number!

I can't imagine why your family hasn't noticed or at least said anything if they have. Do you see them really often? Sometimes if you see someone on an almost daily basis it is harder to notice changes but when it's been awhile since you have seen them a weight loss (or gain) is much more dramatic to them.

Congratulations! You are doing an awesome job!!

Do it for yourself, noone else

So what if they dont notice, its you who should be noticing the differences.

But it happens with people you see everyday they dont notice changes cause it happens gradually, if you went away for a week or so then came back to them, they would notice lol

Most people didn't notice until I had lost nealy 3 stone adn then they were interested in how I was doing it.

Congradulations on the loss.....and it is so important that you do it for yourself.

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Good for you, but I will be so bold to suggest that maybe you do care and that is why you made this post. Without information on your loved ones who have not mentioned your weight loss, this is difficult to give any reasoning into their behavior. If they are bad people (they are your parents, not trying to offend) then the reason is obvious. But could it be that they are reserved, or do they not want to encourage you do believe that they thought you were fat before? Have you yo-yo dieted before and they are afraid to make a comment because you have gained back weight before? The possiblities are endless, and it might be as benign as them being polite, or as low as them just being jeaolous, but you won't know until you talk to them.

Congrats on your success so far. I can relate because my husband hasn't said one word - even when I mention my accomplishments, NSV etc... I'm not sure what that's all about but it is something I am doing for myself and I try to focus on the reasons I started this journey - to be stronger, healthier and look better. It's just nice if someone as close to you as a spouse would compliment and notice the changes. Best wishes for continued success!

I think you are doing a wonderful job! And you look lovely! :flowerforyou:

Oh I am so sorry you aren't getting positive feedback from those closest to you! That is so hard. Hang in there. Find ways to give yourself positive feedback. A friend of mine who lost a fair amount of weight went to the same store once a week (after weigh in) and tried on a pair of jeans that were a bit too tight. Once they were too big she would just keep going back and try on smaller and smaller sizes of the same brand of jeans! It was a way to affirm what she was doing was working but didn't continually focus on the number on the scale. Congrats on your journey to a healthier you!!!

First! Great job on your accomplishment! You should be proud!! Look in-ward for feedback!

I am sure people notice, but may not always know what to say to be supportive for you!

I'm a private person around some people and I notice that they don't say anything to me either, I think it is there way of respecting me.

Could it possibly be that you are replacing your lost weight with muscle and that's why they haven't commented? Also, some people lose weight evenly and not all in one location. That may be what's happening with you. You may not be losing it all through your stomach but elsewhere as well, therefore they may not be seeing it as much. I'm not trying to make excuses for them but maybe try to look at it through their eyes for a moment and see what they are seeing. BTW - good job on the weight you've already lost.

congratulations on the weight loss


and my best friend is like that...she didn't tell anyone but me that she is trying to lose weight right now because she doesn't want people asking her everytime they see her how she is doing and how much weight has she lost so far. but in her case she has been trying to lose the weight for a long time and she feels like if she fails (her words NOT mine) this time then no one knows so who cares? i never ask when i talk to her, i let her bring it up IF she wants...in fact just last week she informed me she had hit the 10 lb lost mark...i am SO VERY proud of her

see i always tell people, then i end up failing at losing weight...so this time it's my little secret...and MFP's,lol

Are your parents and/or in-laws overweight?

I ask because if they are, perhaps they are a little jealous? Sounds crazy, but I do know people who, out of jealousy, refuse to acknowledge others' accomplishments...

My in-laws seem to not care about if I'm trying to be healthy or fit. My husband and parents notice, but just about no one else does. In fact, my in-laws and those who don't notice I've made progress but know I'm trying to loose weight & get in shape, seem to be trying to sabotage me more than help.

On the other hand, My husband has gained 25-30lbs (he constantly fluctuates in weight) and I honestly would never have noticed if his jeans hadn't gotten tight on him. I mean, I literally cannot tell he has gained the weight at all. It just doesn't show much. When he was telling me a few months ago he had lost all that weight, I could kind of notice, but his body is really good abouit distrubuting things in a way that make it hard for him to look like he has lost/gained weight. So I guess I'm saying some people may not actually be able to notice the difference.

Congrats on what you've lost though!

Maybe they've noticed but don't want to mention it? Many people are very sensitive about their weight and a compliment --even as innocent as" You look great" --is taken the wrong way. If they notice how good I look now, did they think i looked bad before? type of thing.. You are doing great!! You know it and I'm sure your spouse does too!

I agree with this. I know people tend to jump to the "jealousy" conclusion quickly, but since I've lost weight this year, I've gotten more than my share of incredibly awkward compliments from people at work or the gym, who are clearly concerned that it might be somehow offensive.
To the OP - I'm going to guess your family has either noticed and hasn't wanted to say anything that might imply they thought you needed to lose in the first place, or they simply haven't really noticed the difference yet (on a guy your height, it might not be that extreme of a difference to people who don't see you all the time...especially if you're wearing your same 'big' clothes, and they're baggy). Depending where you are living this time of year, you might be hiding it under loose clothing, jackets, etc....

I've lost a little over 20 now, I myself didn't see the changes in the mirror, it was in my clothes. NOT even my husband said ANYTHING! So I agree DO IT FOR YOURSELF! And you will knock the socks off ppl when you treat yourself to a NEW, CUTE & smaller size! GOOD LUCK, keep up the GOOD work