siblings

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this sweetheart. Nobody has the right to make you feel bad about yourself, and nobody has the right or power to decide what you put in your body but you. Keep your head high and stay strong as hard as it is. You're beautiful and strong and you've come so far! Don't give your sister the satisfaction of taking that pride away from you.

Sisters are a funny relationship. I think maybe your sister worries you will be maybe smaller than her with your weight.

I dont know you and i am not trying to make any assumptions. But for instance, i used to eat when i was upset and angry. If that is how you are, your sister might be saying such things to get you to eat more for fear of you becoming smaller than her. Or maybe she doesn't know how to deal with your success. Sometimes seeing other people accomplish big things makes us angry, annoyed and jealous at our lack of success.

But either way, you have no fault in the matter. You shouldn't let it bother you. When people treat us wrong they know that they have. If you know that you did nothing wrong i wouldn't not let it worry you. That person knows what they did. It will bother them. It should not bother you.

Smile:) its family. They love you. Sometimes they just have weird ways of showing it:)

I hope that you guys are right. I feel like they want me to get fat again based on their comments. Half the time I don't get hungry because of my Topamax and they know it, but I run and mountain bike, snowboard and ski. Plus a bunch of other sports that help me get healthy.When I eat it usually is healthy.

sometimes family members do want you to stay fat because of their comments and actions. my husband is extremely jealous right now and makes comments like im on the divorce diet and stuff like that. im still here after 20 yrs so what gives? but i might have to kick him to the curb if he keeps it up! my mil tries to send home crap with him all the time. its for the kids, she says, bull****! the kids dont need it either and she knows how hard of a time i have if stuff is in the house. who knows what peoples motives are sometimes but just stay strong and know we are here to help you and they can suck it when we are healthy and hot!

If I were you in that situation:

Sister: hey sis, do u want some food?? Its good to taste things once in a while. (I have more to say but that's enough for on here)

Mother: it would be great to have your support now and in past. In the past it would have been a great stepping stone to have proper eating habits made and now it would be great to have your support in me trying to make those habits now.

siblings can be weird. i have a brother about 18 months younger then me, and when we're together i never know how he's going to be. is he going to have his sense of humor, or is he going to be mean? worst is when he's being sensitive.

lol, one time we were out, and he had his shirt unbottened so low, you could see his wife-beater and his chest hair was going crazy, and then the cross on the chain just sealed it i was going to make fun of him. i didn't go with the easy jersey shore joke, so i told him "tommy, your collar is so deep, its studying eastern philospohy in college." he effing lost it. yelled at me about making fun of him to make myself feel better. i left it alone and barely talked to him the rest of the day.

he seemed to have forgotten about the week before when i took him to a new york rangers game for his birthday, and he teased me for wearing a cowboy-esque shirt. he told me "noooooo, next week is when the garden is hosting the bull riding championships." it was funny, and i laughed it off. we had a great time and no one's feelings got hurt.

but like i said, siblings can be weird. sometimes in open competition, sometimes best friends, and some times worst enemies. just be the bigger person, and you'll always come out ahead. younger siblings are the worst though. they know just how to get you in trouble.

Your mom and your sister are rude and out of place. I wonder if your sister is the youngest? My brother is the youngest and my mother babies him and always defended everything he did and said. It was the same story as yours. He's be so obnoxious to me and the one time I'd step up to defend myself I'd get in trouble. It was bullcrap and it's the reason today my brother acts so immature and obnoxious and I don't speak to him. Keep doing what you are doing. You know you are doing the right thing. You're on the right track. What goes around comes aroung and if that's how they wanna act karma will get them. Just remember you are doing the right thing and it's too bad they can't be more supportive but just stay dedicated because it's your life here and you need to be happy and healthy. Good job! Don't let them get to you! Don't let anyone bring you down. You rock!