Moving on and starting to date?

There is no universally successful way to get over a relationship. The only thing that truly heals is time. I'm sorry you have to go through this; it's always hard. Focus on bettering yourself for a while. Don't jump into a new relationship out of fear of being alone. Love yourself and eventually you will stumble upon the perfect person to love you.

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Making an independent, full and interesting life for yourself is the most important thing. If you feel good about yourself and confident in your life you will find that makes you very attractive and I am sure the dates wil follow. Good luck.:flowerforyou:

I've got out of a long term relationship some months ago and Im having a hard time in that area of bring single etc... But the best thing to do I found out is to heal, work on myself, and someone will come along when he does ...

I am quite a bit older and truly I am done. Well, I was married twice, have 2 sons who are grown. I was involved with someone for 21 years. Yes, 21 years. He was diagnosed with terminal cancer and left me for his family. He had never been close to them, but hey...Long story...

I was lucky in that I was thin or average weight my entire life. I got heavy a few years ago, due to a serious illness. I am having a really tough time losing. I cant even imagine going out with a man. I feel like a beached whale. I am so self conscious . I refused to be intimate with my ex. I feel so gross!! I applaud you ladies who are overweight and still feel good. I have heard all the cliches, sadly, I cannot believe them. Once again, I applaud you all.

Making an independent, full and interesting life for yourself is the most important thing. If you feel good about yourself and confident in your life you will find that makes you very attractive and I am sure the dates wil follow. Good luck.:flowerforyou:

This!

I got out of a LTR 18 months ago. It ended with him cheating on me. It took 16 months for me to stop blaming myself and take a chance again. People can tell you what worked for them but this is your journey, no one can walk it but you

Take time for YOU. Don't even think about dating yet. People who hop from relationship to relationship never learn and grow. Be comfortable being by yourself first. Once you reach a place emotionally where you think, "You know what? I'm really happy now and I don't give a damn if I EVER meet someone!"... that's when you'll meet someone.

A month for every year...because that's how long our denomination recommends having an interim pastor serve a congregation after the prior pastor has moved on or retired...

This is a tough one - as only you will know when it is right for you to start to date again. However, as some of the other replies have indicated - its probably best not to jump into anything right away to try and fill that gaping hole that can occur when we miss having someone close to us.

Although my circumstances will be different than yours, I am dealing with similar questions due to a very recent breakup that literally came from nowhere (his grief) - how does one suddenly fill the time that used be spent with that person you were close to, what does it mean about who I am - how do I redefine "me" as a single person rather than the "me" who was part of a couple. While this is my process, I offer it in hopes that something might fit for you: I am trying to be patient with myself and I am working on moving from feeling crappy to feeling just a little bit better - maybe I only cried once today rather than three or four times - but I am focussing on those little steps forward. And I am not letting anyone tell me how I should be feeling or how I should be reacting - but I am working hard to be respectful of my needs and that includes not looking for a quick fix with someone else out of a need to just have another living breathing being next to me.

I think it is so important to honour who you are - spend a bit of time doing what you need to in order to heal - don't be afraid to reach out to friends who can offer positive support and a listening ear. Focus on taking it one step / one moment / one day at a time and let yourself grieve as you need to. More than anything - keep an open heart - this one situation does not define who you are or who you will be for the rest of your life - only you can do that.

I wish you well on your journey

no - rebounding is not the only way and not neccessarily the best way. There are MANY other ways to occupy your mind than to clutter it up with ANOTHER man.
Bed hopping is not for me and I don't jump from one relationship to another. I've been divorced over a year, been on about 4 or 5 dates.
I keep busy with 2 dogs, a full time job - 4 kids & 10 grandkids, fitness - bicycling ... you get the idea. Just get your *kitten* out there. You'll see and be seen.
Life will go on, you develop new interests - grow as an INDIVIDUAL. You MIGHT find out you're not even attracted to that person. or his type.
who knows?
Have fun being single. Don't buy the hype. Too many people see it as being 'alone' I see it as being FREE! I can date who ever I want. When ever I want. Dump them when I want. for any reason I want.
Go where I want, do what I want. I make my own plans. Wear what I like. Get my hair all chopped off if I want to. Last summer I did bold blond highlights. this summer will be choppy & bold blond too.
There's A LOT to be said for being single. I love it

Making an independent, full and interesting life for yourself is the most important thing. If you feel good about yourself and confident in your life you will find that makes you very attractive and I am sure the dates wil follow. Good luck.:flowerforyou:

I absolutely agree with this!! I am arriving at this point, content with my life as it is but eager to work on the areas of me that need to be improved.... just met a man I find incredibly intriguing, I would love to go on a date with him, but if it doesn't happen I am not going to be devastated. A year ago, I would have been crushed if the attraction was not mutual because I was too fragile and insecure from the breakup drama....

Take time and focus on you!

I think the best thing is to understand why the relationship went sour. Now keep in mind that doesn't necessarily equal blame for yourself or your ex. Then too sometimes there is no sane reason. Recognizing the latter is tough.

+ absolutely not communicating with ex-boyfriend.

THIS!!! I spent more than a year still meeting him for lunch and walks. Break it and move on!