Is it bad to lose weight just cause I don't like the number

ConsciousGirl
ConsciousGirl Posts: 56
edited October 2024 in Health and Weight Loss
Many people have said that I don't need to lose weight but I don't like the number on the scale which is why I want to. I like the idea of being light.
Anyone else think the same?
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  • Sidesteal
    Sidesteal Posts: 5,510 Member
    So you somehow aren't happy with how hard gravity is effecting you, but you don't have an issue with your appearance or health?

    Is this correct?
  • rgrange
    rgrange Posts: 236 Member
    Unless you have an eating disorder, then if you're not comfortable with your weight then you should definitely try to change it and not worry about what others think. But then again, those with eating disorders rarely have the insight to realize that they have an eating disorder.
  • shad1018
    shad1018 Posts: 191 Member
    Depends on the number? If you are in the healthy range for your height and don't need to lose...
  • ConsciousGirl
    ConsciousGirl Posts: 56
    Well actually I'm not completely happy with my appearance I guess and I'm very concerned about health (I don't like any fatty or junk foods). In honesty I probably just want to tone up but I'm scared it'll make me gain weight so I'd rather lose weight than tone up.

    @rgrange: no I don't think I have an eating disorder

    and I guess I'm considered to be in the healthier range but I'd rather be in the lower range.
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
    " In honesty I probably just want to tone up but I'm scared it'll make me gain weight so I'd rather lose weight than tone up."

    It sounds like you might have an eating disorder.

    Weight is just a number on the scale.


    Who is going to weigh you or comment on you weight when you look more fit?

    Just sayin
    Well actually I'm not completely happy with my appearance I guess and I'm very concerned about health (I don't like any fatty or junk foods). In honesty I probably just want to tone up but I'm scared it'll make me gain weight so I'd rather lose weight than tone up.

    @rgrange: no I don't think I have an eating disorder

    and I guess I'm considered to be in the healthier range but I'd rather be in the lower range.
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
    Anyone have that thread where that woman (short dark hair, red top? I think?) is 120 something in one and 135 in the next but she looks MUCH thinner because of muscle?

    Anyone know what in talking about?
  • pupcamper
    pupcamper Posts: 410 Member
    and I guess I'm considered to be in the healthier range but I'd rather be in the lower range.

    So you are saying that you don't want to tone up to look good cos you will put on weight and would rather put your health at risk because you don't like a number on a scale! hmmm I think you may have a bigger issue than a couple of pounds.
  • juls262
    juls262 Posts: 41
    you've got it a little backwards if you ask me. even if you tone up and gain a little bit, you would still probably lose inches. Muscle weighs more than fat, but it takes up less room. A number is just a number, listen to your body. It's okay to lose and feel great about yourself, but make sure you're being smart about it.
    Eating disorders start when you can't draw the line between being healthy and satisfying a weird obsession or idea (such as your number deal)
    Like I said, just be smart , good luck!
  • thecrossfitter
    thecrossfitter Posts: 424 Member
    Personally I'd rather have gravity pull down on my body a bit more and be leaner/trimmer/more toned/ smaller dress size rather than having the scale say a smaller number but my pants size be larger.

    We all can make our own choices of course, but remember that the scale is only one tool of measurement :) I also think a strong toned body is easier to maintain rather than a very thin one. I've had both, and I had to maintain my calories very very low in order to maintain a lower weight and be thin. I'm now getting a stronger body (same clothing size as my thin body yet I weigh more) but am finding I am actually able to eat to a point I feel satisfied rather than just feeling hungry all the time!

    I know it may be tough but consider trading in your scale for a tape measurer?
    Best :)
  • hollyeverhart
    hollyeverhart Posts: 397 Member
    I totally get it. I want to weigh 110. I don't care if I am sometimes happy now at 118 or happy at my first goal weight of 115, I WANT to see 110. Every day when I weigh myself the scale always says 117-119 its super annoying. I'm 5'4, I only eat 1200 cal a day, sometimes my exercise calories. I'm vegetarian, pretty much vegan 90% of the time, I don't eat fast food/fried food, I have a sweet tooth but I keep in under control. I never gain weight, but I never lose it either, I went from 132 to 118 in 2-3 months, now I'm stuck! I just want to be skinnier and see 110 on my scale :/ Ugh.
  • ConsciousGirl
    ConsciousGirl Posts: 56
    I totally get it. I want to weigh 110. I don't care if I am sometimes happy now at 118 or happy at my first goal weight of 115, I WANT to see 110.

    Finally someone understands :) However I'm heavier than you.
    Apparently I look a lot less than I weigh and that is a good thing I guess but I HATE the number! It makes me feel fat whether I really am or not.
  • hofosho1020
    hofosho1020 Posts: 179
    I'm getting people telling me I should be happy where I am, etc....I just for ONCE in my life wanna see 149 on the scale. I want to know what it's like to be on the close to 100 than 200 side of the scale!!
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
    It's just a number. I'm 114. So what? It's about how you look and feel
    I totally get it. I want to weigh 110. I don't care if I am sometimes happy now at 118 or happy at my first goal weight of 115, I WANT to see 110.

    Finally someone understands :) However I'm heavier than you.
    Apparently I look a lot less than I weigh and that is a good thing I guess but I HATE the number! It makes me feel fat whether I really am or not.
  • hollyeverhart
    hollyeverhart Posts: 397 Member
    I totally get it. I want to weigh 110. I don't care if I am sometimes happy now at 118 or happy at my first goal weight of 115, I WANT to see 110.

    Finally someone understands :) However I'm heavier than you.
    Apparently I look a lot less than I weigh and that is a good thing I guess but I HATE the number! It makes me feel fat whether I really am or not.

    People drive me nuts because (men mainly) no offense are not a good judge of weight, when it comes to me at least, when I weighed 132 everyone would say "oh what are you like 115?" now that i'm 118 I get "oh your probably like 100 pounds" when In my head I wish I was those numbers, so I get super obsessed with numbers, not what I see in the mirror. I thought 118 was "skinny" when I weighed 132, but now that I weigh 118 it sounds fat to me, like its not good enough because its not 110. Most of my issues are in my head and bdd (body dysmorphic disorder) I think. Because I just know when I see 110 maybe that will make me happy so I will feel happy in my body. I doubt it though, I don't think I will ever be happy, I spend 90% of my day picking myself apart & finding things wrong with me. If I eat more then 1200 cal a day I feel like a fatass, If I eat more then 400 cal a meal I think I pigged out, I am disgusted by my own body, even though I am a stripper, Which messes with me because I compare myself to "skinny" girls all the time thinking all never be that... I could go on forever. I'm kinda nuts when it come to my body issues :/
  • hollyeverhart
    hollyeverhart Posts: 397 Member
    It's just a number. I'm 114. So what? It's about how you look and feel
    I totally get it. I want to weigh 110. I don't care if I am sometimes happy now at 118 or happy at my first goal weight of 115, I WANT to see 110.

    Finally someone understands :) However I'm heavier than you.
    Apparently I look a lot less than I weigh and that is a good thing I guess but I HATE the number! It makes me feel fat whether I really am or not.

    ....maybe to you its 'just a number'. But sometimes the number on my scale sets my mood for the day, or what I eat for the day, etc... So to me, Not just a number. I want to be 110, according to my bmi the healthy weight for my height is like 111-135 so I want to be 110 because then in my messed up way of looking at things that will mean i am skinny enough.
  • sarah44254
    sarah44254 Posts: 3,078 Member
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    Anyone have that thread where that woman (short dark hair, red top? I think?) is 120 something in one and 135 in the next but she looks MUCH thinner because of muscle?

    Anyone know what in talking about?

    yep. not always about the number. focusing on look and feel instead of number is hard to do, but very worthwhile.
  • rgrange
    rgrange Posts: 236 Member
    I don't think I have an eating disorder
    I probably just want to tone up but I'm scared it'll make me gain weight so I'd rather lose weight than tone up.

    pick one.
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
    Will It be enough?

    I am readjusting my goals to 108. But let's be honest- when will it be enough? I'm 5'4 too, that's how I got to 92 lbs... I'd see people eat and look at them like they're disgusting. Like I was better because if I wasn't the prettiest or the best atleast I had the most control. I'm just saying your teeter tottering on an eating disorder and it controls every aspect of your life.

    Clearly you'll do what you want to do, and maybe youll stop before you get too far-but I can tell you the sexiest thing about a woman is confidence.

    Peace
    It's just a number. I'm 114. So what? It's about how you look and feel
    I totally get it. I want to weigh 110. I don't care if I am sometimes happy now at 118 or happy at my first goal weight of 115, I WANT to see 110.

    Finally someone understands :) However I'm heavier than you.
    Apparently I look a lot less than I weigh and that is a good thing I guess but I HATE the number! It makes me feel fat whether I really am or not.

    ....maybe to you its 'just a number'. But sometimes the number on my scale sets my mood for the day, or what I eat for the day, etc... So to me, Not just a number. I want to be 110, according to my bmi the healthy weight for my height is like 111-135 so I want to be 110 because then in my messed up way of looking at things that will mean i am skinny enough.
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
    groups_812_75159.jpg
    Anyone have that thread where that woman (short dark hair, red top? I think?) is 120 something in one and 135 in the next but she looks MUCH thinner because of muscle?

    Anyone know what in talking about?

    yep. not always about the number. focusing on look and feel instead of number is hard to do, but very worthwhile.

    Thanks <3
  • ConsciousGirl
    ConsciousGirl Posts: 56
    It's just a number. I'm 114. So what? It's about how you look and feel
    I totally get it. I want to weigh 110. I don't care if I am sometimes happy now at 118 or happy at my first goal weight of 115, I WANT to see 110.

    Finally someone understands :) However I'm heavier than you.
    Apparently I look a lot less than I weigh and that is a good thing I guess but I HATE the number! It makes me feel fat whether I really am or not.

    ....maybe to you its 'just a number'. But sometimes the number on my scale sets my mood for the day, or what I eat for the day, etc... So to me, Not just a number. I want to be 110, according to my bmi the healthy weight for my height is like 111-135 so I want to be 110 because then in my messed up way of looking at things that will mean i am skinny enough.

    I totally understand. The number sets the mood and what I eat as well. However even when my BMI is at a normal low range, I seem to be very bony. I think it's cause I have big bones. I like that look and so I am aiming for the borderline "normal".
  • Saffyra
    Saffyra Posts: 607 Member
    You are only 16 years old. You have most likely not even finished growing. Limiting your calories so drastically at your young age may not be safe.
    Please contact your doctor to discuss your goals and mental state.

    MFP is also not an appropriate place for you to be.
  • FatgutBgone
    FatgutBgone Posts: 73 Member
    Well actually I'm not completely happy with my appearance I guess and I'm very concerned about health (I don't like any fatty or junk foods). In honesty I probably just want to tone up but I'm scared it'll make me gain weight so I'd rather lose weight than tone up.

    @rgrange: no I don't think I have an eating disorder

    and I guess I'm considered to be in the healthier range but I'd rather be in the lower range.


    I can't tell much without a picture. I have a friend here that has a disorder she was trying to loose weight. Remember it is Fat that you want to get rid of. I used to weigh 185 in highschool and I was over weight. Then I started lifting weights in school and I gained muscle even thought I still weighed about 180 lbs when I graduated I had a lot less fat. My ideal weight is around 155 lbs. I will never be that because I lift heavy weights and want bigger muscles. Even regular size muscles add weight. You want to be fit and healty not just skinny. like I told my friend I know a lot of sick skinny people. The only true measure is to find out your lean body mass. Some gyms or maybe your doctor can help you. I usually do the pinch test the old "pinch an inch" test.
    Friend me and I will help all I can.
  • kyrstensmom
    kyrstensmom Posts: 297 Member
    It's just a number. I'm 114. So what? It's about how you look and feel
    I totally get it. I want to weigh 110. I don't care if I am sometimes happy now at 118 or happy at my first goal weight of 115, I WANT to see 110.

    Finally someone understands :) However I'm heavier than you.
    Apparently I look a lot less than I weigh and that is a good thing I guess but I HATE the number! It makes me feel fat whether I really am or not.

    ....maybe to you its 'just a number'. But sometimes the number on my scale sets my mood for the day, or what I eat for the day, etc... So to me, Not just a number. I want to be 110, according to my bmi the healthy weight for my height is like 111-135 so I want to be 110 because then in my messed up way of looking at things that will mean i am skinny enough.

    Both of you sound like you may have an ED. It's not a healthy way to live. I recommend getting some professional help and throwing your scale away.
  • hollyeverhart
    hollyeverhart Posts: 397 Member
    Will It be enough?

    I am readjusting my goals to 108. But let's be honest- when will it be enough? I'm 5'4 too, that's how I got to 92 lbs... I'd see people eat and look at them like they're disgusting. Like I was better because if I wasn't the prettiest or the best at least I had the most control. I'm just saying your teeter tottering on an eating disorder and it controls every aspect of your life.

    Clearly you'll do what you want to do, and maybe youll stop before you get too far-but I can tell you the sexiest thing about a woman is confidence.

    Peace


    It's just a number. I'm 114. So what? It's about how you look and feel
    I totally get it. I want to weigh 110. I don't care if I am sometimes happy now at 118 or happy at my first goal weight of 115, I WANT to see 110.

    Finally someone understands :) However I'm heavier than you.
    Apparently I look a lot less than I weigh and that is a good thing I guess but I HATE the number! It makes me feel fat whether I really am or not.

    ....maybe to you its 'just a number'. But sometimes the number on my scale sets my mood for the day, or what I eat for the day, etc... So to me, Not just a number. I want to be 110, according to my bmi the healthy weight for my height is like 111-135 so I want to be 110 because then in my messed up way of looking at things that will mean i am skinny enough.

    Well I don't want to weigh 90 some pounds, or be grossly thin, I think that is nasty. Thats not my goal, but know I would look so much better at 110-115, I have weight issues, but not a ED, I eat very healthy, I don't starve myself by any means, I don't make myself puke up food etc... If I want something I normally eat it, in moderation. I just am frustrated because even though I exercise and eat healthy I don't lose anymore weight, and I am not happy at 118. I thought I could be but i'm not. And 115 is only 3 pounds from that so I feel like it won't be enough of a difference for me, so now i'm obsessed with 110. I'm happy half the time I look in the mirror the other half i'm grossed out, So for me to be I need to see it on the scale then I think it will flip a switch telling me I am thin enough now & I reached my goal.
  • ConsciousGirl
    ConsciousGirl Posts: 56
    I don't think I have an eating disorder
    I probably just want to tone up but I'm scared it'll make me gain weight so I'd rather lose weight than tone up.

    pick one.

    What do you mean? I know I don't have an eating disorder. I'm not thin or anything.
  • kr3851
    kr3851 Posts: 994 Member
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    OMG I love this photo!!! Have just saved it as my desktop background to remind myself that it's not about the number... it's about the body. I still have a long way to go - and many more kgs to lose before the muscle begins to show - but I want the muscle to show. I don't want to be a body builder, but I want my body to be strong and healthy.
  • Elzecat
    Elzecat Posts: 2,916 Member
    I don't think I have an eating disorder
    I probably just want to tone up but I'm scared it'll make me gain weight so I'd rather lose weight than tone up.

    pick one.

    What do you mean? I know I don't have an eating disorder. I'm not thin or anything.

    Having an eating disorder does not necessarily mean you are thin. It is a disordered way of dealing with and thinking about food (I'm too lazy to go find the official medical definition online). But it is entirely possible to be very overweight and have an eating disorder, just like it is possible to be underweight and NOT have one.
  • Elzecat
    Elzecat Posts: 2,916 Member
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    OMG I love this photo!!! Have just saved it as my desktop background to remind myself that it's not about the number... it's about the body. I still have a long way to go - and many more kgs to lose before the muscle begins to show - but I want the muscle to show. I don't want to be a body builder, but I want my body to be strong and healthy.

    It's a great reminder how the "number" doesn't always mean what we think it means, eh? I want her abs ;)
  • hollyeverhart
    hollyeverhart Posts: 397 Member
    It's just a number. I'm 114. So what? It's about how you look and feel
    I totally get it. I want to weigh 110. I don't care if I am sometimes happy now at 118 or happy at my first goal weight of 115, I WANT to see 110.

    Finally someone understands :) However I'm heavier than you.
    Apparently I look a lot less than I weigh and that is a good thing I guess but I HATE the number! It makes me feel fat whether I really am or not.

    ....maybe to you its 'just a number'. But sometimes the number on my scale sets my mood for the day, or what I eat for the day, etc... So to me, Not just a number. I want to be 110, according to my bmi the healthy weight for my height is like 111-135 so I want to be 110 because then in my messed up way of looking at things that will mean i am skinny enough.

    Both of you sound like you may have an ED. It's not a healthy way to live. I recommend getting some professional help and throwing your scale away.

    I don't have some ED I just don't want to be fat or feel fat. I have a pretty small frame, 110 is only 1 pounds underweight for my height according to bmi which isn't really anything to base your weight on, I prefer the thinner look, not grossly thin, not even 'tiny' just thin. When I start puking up my food/staving myself or beating myself up over a cookie i'll see a doctor till then, my scale obsession is not that serious. I know where I need to be to be happy so thats my goal.
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
    You don't have to be thin to have an eating disorder just like you don't have to drink alcohol every day to be an alcoholic. Why'd you post this topic if you knew deep down that you already know the answer to your question?
    I don't think I have an eating disorder
    I probably just want to tone up but I'm scared it'll make me gain weight so I'd rather lose weight than tone up.

    pick one.

    What do you mean? I know I don't have an eating disorder. I'm not thin or anything.
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