Battling with self esteem..

Because of the topic, I couldn't let this fall off the page with no responses! lol

You're beautiful in your photo. I don't have an answer for your problem. Maybe you need antidepressants?

I think this is anybody and everybody! I always tell myself that who I AM the choices i make and what i do with my life is the true me. Not a number on a scale, a number on a pair of pants or shirts, not if i look "pretty" or if others think i am. Who you are is on the inside and nobody can take that away girlie! Do something to make yourself feel good abt being you.

I struggle with self esteem like many of us do in this world--I have it in mind where I don't see my 70lb loss, I don't love myself as much as I should as well as my body..I don't feel attractive, sexy, and unwanted...all those neg. thoughts is a lie!!..I wanna feel better about myself, say it and mean it..why is saying I'm beautiful, I've lost 70lbs and I'm proud! I'm sexy, and desirable, and could have anybody I wanted if given the chance? Why is saying all that hard? I tried therapy before, and that is no help..I struggle every day..

Because, for a lot of us, we are always our harshest critic. We see faults that aren't there and magnify the little ones that might be.

Not that the opinion of a random person on the internet matters much, but for what it's worth, I think you're beautiful :flowerforyou:

Humans aren't perfect. We never can be (well barring some insanely advanced scientific breakthroughs). If you're anything like me, you're a perfectionist and good is never good enough. You have to let go of that attitude when it comes to appearance and being human in general or it will drive you completely insane, ruin your whole life, and keep you in a miserable, lightless prison.

Okay, so I don't know if you are anything like me, but that's how I am about myself (much less so about other people, oddly enough, I can overlook their imperfections, but somehow, never my own!). It's not a happy way to be, and the sooner you start changing those perfection or nothing thought patterns the sooner you can start being happy.

It takes a while for our mind to catch up with a different image we see in the mirror. It's no secret it's a struggle. But it can be overcome. You can help achieve that by giving yourself space to get to the bottom of it and release whatever is holding you down. One of the great things that have helped me with all kinds of changes is keeping morning pages. Morning pages are three pages you write in the morning of just streamline thoughts. It's a great tool, because as soon as you wake up you get all of the junk off your mind on paper and out of your way for the day, which makes way for feelings and beliefs to find they way to the surface over time. Don't forget to love yourself unconditionally, and be compassionate towards yourself. You deserve all of the love and care this world has to offer, including from yourself Feel free to msg me anytime if you need to vent, or bounce thoughts off of someone. I've been through this, so I know how much it means to just have someone there you can count on to even listen.

Maybe try a simple journal. Every day write down one thing that's good about yourself, and one thing that you are grateful for.

"why is saying I'm beautiful, I've lost 70lbs and I'm proud! I'm sexy, and desirable, and could have anybody I wanted if given the chance? "

Look in the mirror EVERY day and say that. Say it even if you don't believe it and eventually you will.

Battling low self esteem is a very long, hard battle. It's completely rewriting how you think of yourself.

First things first, stand in the mirror naked and find ONE thing you like about your body (more if you want, but at least one thing) even if it's just your eyes or your feet or your lips. Keep doing that. Try to find more things you like about your body.

Tell yourself everyday that you're beautiful.

I always had self esteem when i was young. I was bullied at school, I was the chubby kid and I hated myself for it. I was suicidal at one point and very depressed for most of my school life until I turned it around. I started to think positive about everything, starting working out and stopped caring about what people think. Now I'm not overly chubby but a bit chubbier than I would like. But guess what? I LIKE my big butt (it's round and muscular, big but it's not all fat) and my stomach is a bit chubbier but it's soft and womanly and I do have some curves. I'm not completely happy with my body but I can see the beauty in what I don't like.

What are things you enjoy doing? Reading books? Taking walks outside? Watching movies? Make sure to take time out of everyday to do things that you truly enjoy doing that will help relax you. Or even just sit somewhere every day for ten minutes, breathe deeply and just be quiet, close your eyes and just breathe and tell yourself you are beautiful. Create a calm within yourself.

Don't expect this to happen overnight or even in a week. It does take time but if you start to tell yourself you are beautiful and amazing in every way eventually you will start believing it. And making your whole life positive will make a difference. Start thinking positively about everything in your life and try to completely banish the negative thoughts.