Spouse not getting it?

Same here, I get the "proud of you" or "looking great" but when I go to log my stuff in on my phone or we go grocery shopping and I'm reading labels I usually get a comment or 2. So it gets frustrating a lot of the times. Sometimes I get a big sigh when I say I'm going to the gym or for a walk if I don't feel like going to the gym.

I roll my eyes when he gets to a new level on his game...he rolls his when I go to the gym longer than usual. We just have different interests. But he supports me in everything else so I really can't complain. He's a pretty good guy.

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I couldn't care less when my gamer hubby levels up or completes a mission - he still tells me and I still "that's great dear... oh so What are we having for dinner tonight?"
And he tries hard to be excited for me, but I'm pretty sure his interests jsut don't lie in my running time PB/goal reached, or the amount of weights I stacked onto the leg press this morning, or how much I've lost thus far - I still tell him and he might go "Oh good job!" but then he goes "Can you find my work pants..." he supports and is right beside me as my cheer squad, but in reality he just doesn't care.

yea mine is the same i think it is cause he has been thin his whole life and does not understand what it is like to go through it.

i agree about the gaming thing I dont care about his games but i do the same and listen and say he is doing great lol

The fact that I'm cooking healthier (i.e. - less white grains, less meat, less processed foods) was actually the main topic of "the airing of the grievances" this year. My wife doesn't celebrate Festivus, but oddly enough, she always manages to pull off the "airing" every year.

She's happy to see me getting healthier, but it seems as though, from her viewpoint, it's a knife in her back because she is overweight and at a poor fitness level.

Today for lunch she had an entire bag of pizza rolls. But I'm keeping my mouth shut. Did any of you read the "And then the fight started..." post??

My husband doesn't support me, he thinks if i loss the weight that I'll leave him.

Sometimes I think that's my boyfriend's fear too. He questions me anytime he see's a guy talking to me.. especially at the gym. He doesn't "like" one of the trainers at our gym because he checked my HRM and tightened my handlebars on the spin bike once.. seriously.. That's his reason.

Some (ok, a lot) people have very low self-confidence and tend to think this way as a result. What can you do?

My husband doesn't support me, he thinks if i loss the weight that I'll leave him.

Damn, that's just insecurity... if he cares that much about keeping you, he should understand why you want to lose weight and do it himself. I can't stand hearing someone holding someone else down just because they're insecure.

Give that bloke a run for his money!

I guess all husbands, wives, bf/gf, or domestic partners just don't care or understand the struggles everybody goes through to change themselves for the better. We all wish they would show the struggling person more compassion and more praise but we have to face the facts that it's better to tell family members and friends about your weight loss than the person you're spending your life with.

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Yes, same here. My guy is small and has always been fit. He's never had to diet a day in his life, so doesn't really understand my struggle.

Thats why I love MFP so much!!!

Just curious anyone else have the issue of the spouse not really getting it? Not really understanding the excitement when you drop or reach a goal? Don't get me wrong he always says he is proud of me and is pretty supportive.

My husband came in from work and today I hit my end of 2011 goal, and I of course am excited and am telling him, and he didn't really say nothing, and then changed the subject about his game he has been playing, and well I just let the convo die. No it didn't hurt my feelings, but made me think "MFP is the only place that really get's it."...

My hubban (to-be) is actually quite supportive of me and will get excited when I reach a goal. The issue is that he's an enabler. I'll want something bad and instead of telling me "No" and taking it away, he lets me have it because he doesn't like depriving me or making me sad. It's sweet of him, but it doesn't end up helping in the long run.

my husband doesnt really get it either. he saw me first want to start loosing weight when i mentioned i hadnt had soda in two weeks and had lost 10 pounts then i continued for another week and lost another 5 pounds. he then tried the no soda thing and lost 15 pounds in 2 weeks. and he like me got stuck there so he started eating the same junk and went back to sodas though not as bad. he sees me counting calories and logging food on this site and he doesnt usually say anything positive or negative just rolls his eyes. what bugs me is how i have a picture of us together when we got together 7 years ago and i was 125 lbs and obviously smaller. and on the other wall we have our ramily photo we took a year and half ago when i was basically where im at now at about 155-160 and can tell im thicker. he will comment on how he likes me in the family photo better than the other photo ( the other older photo is a glamour shots photo and i look very pretty in that picture and the family photo i have dark circles under my eyes from chasing my baby all the time) he says he likes me better now since i got meat on my bones. says its more sorry TMI , cushin for the pushin. says making love used to hurt him cause i was thin now it doesnt hurt so he dont want me loosing weight.

then the other day he pulled out his phone and put on a song he downloaded. a country song, and told me to listen to it saying it reminded him of me. the song basically talks about a woman that went from being a hot woman to a mama and she is trying to hard to loose the weight and he is saying he loves her the way she is and doesnt need to lose the weight then the song basically says lets fu(k .
when he played that it kinda made me upset cause i want to get healthy not just to look better but to be healthy. i cant even walk up our stairs with out being out of breath. i feel like he should he all for me loosing weight to be healthy. but i guess he doesnt want me loosing weight since he is not motivated to loose weight, he is 240 lbs and has a big fat belly from his fast food work. i think he doesnt want me being so motivated to loose weight cause he is afraidif i get hot and he isnt that i will leave him or something. i just dont know. he will know that im about to put on my exercise video cause he can see me changing into my work out clothes and he runs to the tv and puts on a movie for him. so i cant work out. its like he wants me to fail. i just dont get it.