Spouse support

Doughnuts! Are you kidding me!!! This is why there is a pandemic of obesity in the USA - fast food, sugared water and doughnuts. Your analogy is spot on, take those doughnuts straight to the trash can.

This is YOUR journey. My husband is the origianl junk food junky. He can eat it and not gain as his job is extremely physical. I have never asked him to change his eating habits because I have a problem with self-control. He does comment on how good I'm looking (lost 45 lbs since May 15th) and he doesn't think I need to loose any more. About a year ago he started taking a medication that prohibits him from drinking alcohol. He has never asked me to stop having a beer when I want one. In fact, when I say something he has absolutely no problem with having a soft drink while I have a beer. Why should I ask him to stop having Cheetos if he hasn't asked me to stop having beer.

My wife and I are luckily in sync, we've both lost a lot of weight together in the past but have both put on the pounds recently. We are doing this thing together again and pushing each other at the gym, when we eat and everywhere in between. I'm lucky to have a supportive partner.

It can be frustrating for both of you when your not on the same page whether it's diet, exercise, raising kids, or managing money. It would be great if she joined you, there are many benefits, improved love life, new activities,and more. Maybe you need to offer up a cheat day once a week to enjoy a splurge with her and in return she supports your weekly exercise and diet routine.

A splurge once a week won't kill you and in some ways it will keep you sane.

This is off topic, but evonday, i your weight-loss tracker.

When I first started (which was only 2 months ago), my boyfriend wasn't very supportive at all. He was supposed to join a weight loss competition with my friends and I...so he did eat whatever healthier meals I made, and tried not to bring treats home...but that didn't last long at all. After a week or 2 he was asking me to pick up treats every time I went to the grocery store (and for the holidays I obliged, but that's stopping). The thing he was least supportive of was counting calories. He would get VERY annoyed every time I went on the computer to track, and definitely didn't like talking about it. He preferred not to know what was in the food he was eating. He hasn't made much progress at all with his own weight loss, but he HAS become MUCH more supportive of mine. He gets excited for me when I tell him my loss for the week, he motivates me to work out, and he doesn't seem to complain as much about my tracking (though maybe that's because I do it less when we're spending time together..). I know he doesn't want to talk about how many calories are in everything we eat, so I don't do it as much. Like many others have said, it's a lot of give and take. I'm happy with how much he's come around, and hopefully your wife will start to as well!

I'm very fortunate - blessed - that my Dear Hubby is totally on-board with weight loss... he's losing too, and he does most of the cooking (I shop and do meal planning). He weighs things for me, he encourages my workouts, he works out...

but then, he is my best friend, and that's what best friends do. I'm very lucky to have married mine. :happy:

My fiance is supportive in general but, at times I feel like he is judgmental. Unlike your scenario our arguments are more over who has the better ideas about what is healthy or the best way to loose weight. We have a hard time seeing eye to eye on how to go about it but, we found a common ground. If she is flip flopping ( one day wants you active the next jealous of your new mistress...your health) than I would say try to get her involved. instead of going to the gym see about going indoor rock climbing or something active and together. We also got a Wii fit that we love to play together and I am not a fan of video games so it was nice to find some we both enjoyed and it was still active. If she cant handle your new healthy life than just point out to her how she acted before and ask what she wants. Not in a patronizing way but, just ask. I am sure once she sees you getting healthy and looking better she might catch on and stop with the sweets lol until then willpower will have to prevail. Maybe add shopping as one of your chores? that way she will be less likely to stop at the store just to get sweets and you can get her ones you hate and she likes?

I agree with the person who thought your wife was jealous. Sounds like it bothers her that you are making great strides and she is not doing anything.
My husband is supportive but he has never struggled with weight so he doesn't really get it.
However I have an amazing group of friends who are doing this with me and keeping me on track. So my suggestion is that you should try to find some friends who will do this with you and who will be thrilled and excited for you when you lose three pounds. This ha made all the difference for me.
Aside from that, personally I would chuck the food she brings into the house. You've asked her not to and she isn't respecting your wishes. Your health is more important than her sweets. Just sayin'

Sounds to me like she is jealous of your dedication to the plan. She may not have the same constitution that you do and while she may want to support you she is having a hard time because she wishes she were in that same place as you are mentally. Sticking with a diet is hard work and everyone knows that. She may not be ready for the sacrifices involved with weight loss and from her perspective she sees all the pluses (you losing the weight) but since she's not the one doing the work she doesn't understand the challenge of it. If she would buckle down with you and work for a small weight loss goal I'm sure she would quickly see that it's worth the challenge and why you so very much don't want to back track due to the amount of work it takes.