Body Dysmorphia

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  • I often feel the same, although I AM obese...when I get all dressed up/made up I look in the mirror and feel like I look better than someone who weighs well over 200lbs should look, then a week later I see pics someone took and think "gah...am I really that fat?"
  • amberrrrh
    amberrrrh Posts: 63 Member
    whenever i was 140, i saw myself as being as big as i am now.
    but since i'm bigger, i look at myself and think that the scale doesnt match what i see. i see myself as smaller, about 20 pounds smaller than what i actually am.

    Weird.
  • Karamonster
    Karamonster Posts: 40 Member
    Mine is opposite. I don't feel as big as I am...then I see a picture and am horrified.

    Even at my thinnest, I felt huge. Now I'd give anything to be that size again!


    Yes!!!!! Me too it's horrible
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    Mine is opposite. I don't feel as big as I am...then I see a picture and am horrified.

    Even at my thinnest, I felt huge. Now I'd give anything to be that size again!

    Same here. I think I must be anorexic, because when I look in the mirror, I see a fat person! :laugh:

    Seriously does make me sad that when I was thin and reasonably fit I didn't know it so I couldn't enjoy it.
  • rsj206
    rsj206 Posts: 36 Member
    I have this issue too. My problem is that I have several girl friends who are very petite, so even though I wear a 6/8 I feel huge next to them. I would *never* look at someone in size 6 pants and think "boy she could lose some weight", so why do I think it about myself? I don't know. It's a struggle.
  • luvsherhubby
    luvsherhubby Posts: 135 Member
    SAME here! Always looking back and saying, I was not that thin!! Now im actualy overweight after years of thinking I was, extreem dieting & stuffing later- when i was hungry has caused me to gt here.
  • Amber82479
    Amber82479 Posts: 629 Member
    Thank you all so much for sharing how you feel... Like I said before, I wish none of you felt like I do (or the opposite)... I wish we could all see ourselves for just how we are and love ourselves for it, but I guess it's just not that easy! It does make me feel less like I'm a crazy person, knowing that there are so many other people out there who struggle with this issue. Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone <3 Here's wishing that we are all able to learn to love ourselves just as we are in 2012!
  • soccerella
    soccerella Posts: 619 Member
    I'm your same stats (plus a couple pounds) and feel the same way....infact i'll even see someone bigger than me and think they look fine.....i think we're our own worst critics and its prob pretty common, esp in women
  • kristen11joy
    kristen11joy Posts: 114 Member
    Strange how we see ourselves... I was always the skinny kid in high school (5'8, 110 lbs) and still "felt" skinny, even when I was overweight. And my pants were too tight. And then last summer, I had NO clothes that fit! I bought one pair of pants (on sale!) and joined MFP and the gym. I've lost 20 pounds and I don't see the difference. But I FEEL it. My clothes fit better, and I have more energy. My husband sees it, and some friends have commented -- some days I see it, some days I don't. Where I do see the change is in photos -- maybe they are more objective than the mirror? Take a photo of yourself that you like to remind you that you DO look great -- even on days you aren't feeling it.
  • ebaymommy
    ebaymommy Posts: 1,067 Member
    Yes, I totally feel that my perceptions of myself and others are skewed. I'm 5'5.5" and 123lbs and a size 4 and many many times I feel totally fat. I look in the mirror and see me 45lbs heavier like I was several years ago. I see a flabby, non-exerciser, not a marathon runner.

    I am working on it. I've been working on it for a good year now and I am making progress. I figure I spent about 30 years of my life feeling (and being) overweight so it's going to take some time for my brain to catch up to my weight loss.

    Just the other day in the sauna at my fitness center I got to chatting with another lady in there and we started talking about running and I told her I'm training for my 5th full marathon. She said to me, "I figured you were a runner - your legs are so thin and muscular." Comments like that still blow me away. She's talking about me? Really?

    Some days I wish I could see myself through the eyes of other people. Just for a reality check. My hubby tells me (daily!) that I look fabulous, that I'm his smoking hot wife and he's so proud of the work I've done to get in shape. It's slowly sinking in.

    You just have to work on it a little bit at a time and surround yourself with supportive people who will help you with the process as well.
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