whats the first thing you did after your divorce???

My friend was actually having a bachelorette party and decided to include me in that. She wore the "Bachelorette" sash and I had on the "Divorced" one. Went out to a piano bar with a bunch of friends, got tons of free drinks and took loads of pictures. It still hurt, but that night I realized how many other amazing people I had in my life for support. Whatever you decide to do, make it a fun and happy time! :drinker:

I filed in April and wasn't final till September, but I still had little victories through out the summer. I got my hair done, I treated myself to a Personal Trainer 5 times a month, I bought new running shoes and I started getting healthy again. I lost 160lbs (of husband) and I felt fantastic. I still do. The day I finalized I looked smoking hot in a fitted grey cow-neck 3/4sleeve dress with thin black belt that came just under the bust and nude 3in heels. I never dress like that (work in the medical field) but I felt amazing. I turned heads at the courthouse. And even though there was a bitter sweet edge to the day, I still took my parents and daughter to dinner and talked about everything in life BUT him. It was wonderful. Good Luck!!! Took me 2 years to file, it was long over due.

Went to Vegas and later that year got a convertible...:)

I threw a HUGE damn party! My friends and I all went out for drinks, I had a sash that said 'Just Divorced' - it was awesome! He asked for the divorce on the 5 yr anniversary of us being together, and I filed on our 4 yr wedding anniversary! It took 12 days shy of one year from the time he asked for the divorce for it to be finalized....because I told my attorney in August, that come year end I'd either be divorced or widowed! It was final less than 30 days later! lol

I did my ex-bartender from a club I used to go to. (Ironically enough, it was the club where the ex and I met.) :laugh:
I hadn't been touched since I was 3 months pregnant and at the time, baby boy was 13 months old...I needed some!!

it is definately going to be a day for me to celebrate...he has been ugly and abusive to me for many of these 19 years and i was told daily that i would and could not make it without him...and you know what? i am making it, so i will celebrate, thank you!!!

Wow, divorce after 19 years? That's terrible in ways but if he was abusive, etc then it's best. I'm glad you got out! I always see girls too "afraid" to leave cause he might hurt them or something.

I always say if a man ever hit me I'd be gone just like that. But, I haven't been in that situation. Hope I never am.

I thnk you should celebrate in your own way. Even if it's going shopping or something just to make yourself feel better and help yourself know you can do it without a man.

Some women just have to have a man and I think that's silly. Don't get me wrong. I love the attention and affection but I know I can be happy without one.

Good luck

The ex and I went out and had a couple beers after our final hearing and had a great time... Probably not going to work for you, but it did for me :bigsmile:

I celebrated by living my life in just the way I wanted it. I moved downtown in to a teensy apartment right in the heart of the city, I started homebrewing (something my ex thought was too involved and messy), I went out with friends, I practiced playing the trumpet whenever I wanted (as long as it wasn't during sleeping hours.. I did live in an apartment!).. and well, I just started living well.

He wouldn't let you brew b/c it was too messy? WTH, did he have a vagina??

I cut my hair. He always would get pissy if I talked about cutting my hair and loved it long. It was very long when we split up and I cut it to my shoulders and sent him a picture haha.

awesome!!! my hubby hates my hair short too

Hi

It was a long time ago but I pawned my engagement ring and paid for my waist length hair to be bobbed and new clothes and a few nights out to 'celebrate' getting rid of the cheating so-and so!!!

martyxx