A first??? :)

I like a bit of positivity.

I'm getting married next year. I'm not saying we have the perfect dynamic, but we work hard and I love my fiance with all my heart. We believe in strong communication, working through our worries and getting through things together, and there's a lot to look forward to.

I got into debt quite a few years ago in order to help him after he almost died, back when we were best friends. It's been difficult, but I'm due to get out of debt this month and I can't wait - I look forward to that pressure being gone, and having money to spend on things I want for the first time in my life! Definitely something to be positive about.

We try and support each other with food/weight, too. We're not the best at it. I've been living a healthy lifestyle for 15 months, and he's still in the on-off dieting stage. I sometimes find that hard as he's much less healthy than me, and I'll be honest in saying it sometimes hurts to know that in making myself healthy whilst he's not following I'm likely to lose him early and have many, many years lonely without him, but I know that's all the more reason to treasure what we have now. In a few years we plan to start a family, and I know that we'll be strong and happy when we do. I learnt a lot from my own childhood, I work with children now and I have a very strong maternal instinct. My career's very successful right now, and with a decent income, a strong relationship and in future a happy family, I know I've got nothing to feel down about!

Looking forward to reading other replies to this - it's good to remind ourselves what we can be thankful of sometimes! I'm aware some of my post SOUNDS a little negative, but it's only for explaining my positivity now!

Nice! As I've mentioned before, I also have an awesome and supportive husband. He loved me when I was 35 lbs heavier, but he's ALL OVER ME now that I'm smaller and more fit. He never complains when my alarm goes off around 4ish every morning to leave for the gym and he's usually up for a nice long bike ride with me in the nice weather. For my Christmas gift this year he took on the monthly fee at the expensive gym I wanted to join.

Additionally, my brother, in-laws, friends and parents have been super complimentary about my weight loss and fitness goals. With the exception of some odd comments (like "don't lose too much", or "you're going to waste away") from people I really don't even know that well, nobody has been anything but supportive.

I feel bad for the people who have no support, and am glad to see many who are still plugging away and doing this for themselves, but it makes me appreciate my support system so much more!

The sad reality is that most people don't have another place to express their frustrations because most of us tell all of our "real life" friends that everything is fine. So even though I don't want to hear it all of the time, I try not to let the negative posts get to me. Someone posted something like this the other day and asked for positive stories. I am thankful that even though my life is in total chaos right now (both my husband and I are unemployed) that I am able to remain positive in most if not all aspects of my life. The reason I can do that is because I am vulnerable and share about what's going on with friends and family so it's not all bottled up inside of me. There are definitely some constant whiners on here, but it's real life stuff that is happening to people and they have the right to share it however they please.

I'm happily married and still crazy in love with my husband. We've been together 10 years and married for 7 1/2. He is very supportive and encourages me to be the me I want to be. We have 2 amazing kids...our daughter is 11 (he adopted her when she was 5) and is taller than I am (5'4"). She plays softball and is the kindest person I know. Our son is 8 and is the funniest kid. He is smart and amazing. I have a good job that allows my husband to attend school full time after working in the car business for too many years and spending too many hours away from the family. I love that he can be there for the small and big things.

I feel sad for people who don't have support or are having a rough time, but its nice to hear some happy stories too!

I have a husband that supports me in everything I do, he loved me at 250 and he loves me now! I have 2 beautiful children who love their momma and make my life brighter everyday. I'm very blessed!! It's sad to see all the sad stories on here of unfaithful spouses, unsupportive spouses, and all around a miserable life. MFP is such a great website, we can uplift when life is hard and celebrate each other when life is good!

Not really a “guy” topic, but I’ll answer anyway.

When I was single, I used to say that anyone could be fun on extravagant dates or vacations. I wanted to marry someone who was fun to go to the grocery store with, because there were a lot more trips to the grocery store than vacations. And I did. Tngirlygirl is everything I could want in a wife.

I love her kids, she loves mine, and they love each other. We are getting healthier (she’s lost over 50 lbs and I’ve lost 30), and we are doing the exercise/better eating thing together, making it that much more fun. She was beautiful then, and she is beautiful now.

We are generally meeting our financial goals and helping our kids prepare to be adults. We share our faith with each other and she is an inspiration to me in that area as well.

Everything isn’t perfect of course, as we also get frustrated about jobs, schedules, occasional health issues, not having everything we want materially (I don’t think anyone does). And I stay mad at Washington DC most of the time, lol. But overall, I can’t think of anyone I would even consider exchanging lives with. And I can’t see mine without her.

There are a lot of drama kings and queens on any website, and this one is no exception. Some have real problems in their lives, but many worry about the little stuff. I feel sorry for them, but not because of their situation. Rather I feel sorry that they allow the negative to overcome the joy that exists in every life.

InTenn - I'd say positivity is a topic for everyone! I loved your post - thanks!

My girlfriend is pretty awesome; she supports me, cooks me dinner, eats yogurt with me [I hate yogurt], deals with me playing music 24/7, washes the dishes, doesn't mind that I'd rather work all night, and she cuddles with me when I'm just coming in from skating in thirty degree weather, and am cold. Win.

I've been with my husband 13 years - been married for 10. We have 5 beautiful children ages 19, 17, 8, 6 and 5! Our oldest just started college and our youngest just started pre-school - crazy times in our house!

My husband and I have a great relationship. We argue, we yell, we support, we love.

My boys just started wrestling and had their very first tournament - both took home 2nd place! It was a pretty good day!

It is so easy to focus on the negatives. It is one of my goals this year to be more positive!

I am so lucky to have a great boyfriend, who moved to the city to live with me almost three years ago. He loved me when I was 20 lbs lighter when we met, and he loves me still. I am sure he will love me just the same when I lose 40 lbs.
I love that the two of us share a fantastic sense of humor, that most people around us find weird!

I have so many positives in my life right now. I am lucky.

A positive story can always remind you of what we're all working for, thanks!

I have recently reconnected with my high-school sweetheart. For four years we stayed connected as I went to college and gained 25 pounds and he went into the Military, became extremely fit, and is a now trainer for Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. I have never been 100% confident in my body, but I have also never felt so much support from someone. He loves me, says he loves my body the way it is, and has never tried to be my personal trainer (I hate being told what to do, haha!). However, he listens when I talk about my exercise and diet, offers to help me whenever needed, and motivates me.

As great as a supportive boyfriend is, it is the girlfriends that make the difference to me! My roommie and coworker motivate me every second, whether they realize it or not! I look up to them!

First let me say that I LOVE this site. I love the support, friendships, banters, all of it! But each day I get on the forums and read about someone's affair, someone else's lack of home support, about people's unhappiness in general... GEESH PEOPLE! Is life really all that bad for people out there in the world:huh: ? I sure hope not!

This is the part of your post that struck me the most. Affairs, lack of support and unhappiness is actually happening and life is actually that bad for some people. I much prefer positive posts than negative, and I do understand that your phrase "GEESH PEOPLE! Is life really all that bad for people out there in the world" was probably meant to be sort of playful in order to inspire people to think positively, but I personally just felt like you were making light of some serious situations. The things you mentioned are very real hurts and difficulties in people's lives. I would rather read those posts and offer those people some hope than the posts where people are whining about the 3 cheeseburgers they ate today. Sorry if you think I am a jerk!

I'm about to make myself a cup of coffee! Coffee makes me very happy. That's all the good news I got so far...:drinker:

My husband first met me when I was a 90 pound anorexic high school student. He married me when I was a deeply depressed 260 pound college drop-out. If he has ever had a negative opinion about the size, shape, or status of my body, I have never been able to tell.

He's the only person in my life who has never made a weight-related comment to me, since he knows I don't do well with those confrontational talks.