How do you handle a comment like this?

Instead of telling someone what I really thought (like It's none of your freaking business what I do with my body so you don't need to comment"), I'd say "Thanks for your opinion. I'll take it under consideration" and change the topic. I am dealing with a coworker who is starting to tell me this (mostly to get me to eat things) and she apparently sees it as a compliment.

I tell people straight to their faces, "I am a very healthy weight for my height and body type, please stop questioning me about this," I might also add that it's not a diet, it is a lifestyle choice and I will be doing it forever, actually, or that I'm not interested in getting fat again, depending on the person's attitude.

I honestly find these comments incredibly insulting, and I can't think of why someone would say them other than jealousy.

I agree with the poster who said it's probably motivated by jealousy or insecurity with their own weight. Good for you for reaching your goal. If it's just someone you don't know very well, I'd just smile, say "don't worry" and change the subject. If it's someone who knows you well, I'd probably talk a little longer and say that you're talking with your doctor about the right levels and they shouldn't worry.

Woah, it's like you're in my house.

"You're wasting away to nothing..."
"Be careful, you don't want to lose TOO much..."
"You're not STILL on a diet, are you? You're thin enough...."

My mom says things like this to me everyday while she sits back enjoying a bowl of ice cream. As much as I hate to think it, I'm pretty sure it's jealousy. I stick to a healthy diet and exercise around 1.5 hours a day and she acts like I'm anorexic. People really shouldn't make comments like this because it makes me want to go to a buffet.

Also...to put other people in a more positive light...sometimes people just think those who have lost weight look so tiny compared to where they used to be, that they actually are suprised/confused where it would come from. Generally people aren't trying to be mean or hurtful..at least that I've had experience with.

Also...to put other people in a more positive light...sometimes people just think those who have lost weight look so tiny compared to where they used to be, that they actually are suprised/confused where it would come from. Generally people aren't trying to be mean or hurtful..at least that I've had experience with.

^^^This! When I first really started showing that I was losing weight everyone kept asking if I changed my hair. I had to say, "No, I've changed my face!"

Haters gonna hate!

i tell them that the healthy range for my height is still (at this point) 28lbs away. i lost 192.....i can lose 28 more. watch me.

Also...to put other people in a more positive light...sometimes people just think those who have lost weight look so tiny compared to where they used to be, that they actually are suprised/confused where it would come from. Generally people aren't trying to be mean or hurtful..at least that I've had experience with.

I have to agree here. Just take it as a compliment!

Unfortunately, I think most Americans have a distorted sense of what is a "healthy" weight. I found this out when I was in Europe last year and was the heaviest person I saw by at least 40-50 lbs. My BMI is 29 (borderline obese) and my family thinks I'm skinny because everyone around them is overweight/obese.

Just keep working toward your goals and enjoy yourself. They will come around to the new you eventually.

Hmmm...jealousy makes people say strange things. My BMI says I'm obese, yet I see people my size that are way bigger, so if I'm obese what are they? I think our society first labels people overweight and unhealthy pretty quickly. Secondly, I think that those of us who are doing something about becoming more healthy know our own bodies and our limits. Third, make some silly comment like, " I know I'll never get to where I was when I was twenty, but I need to be healthy so I can live another twenty or forty, or sixty!"

Also...to put other people in a more positive light...sometimes people just think those who have lost weight look so tiny compared to where they used to be, that they actually are suprised/confused where it would come from. Generally people aren't trying to be mean or hurtful..at least that I've had experience with.

Although I agree that most people (in my experience) are not trying to be insulting or hurtful, it does sabotage your efforts sometimes. There will be some who are jealous, and probably it'll be those who are closest to us. I think more than anything they are trying to gain control over you, because they are confused and uncertain about the new you. They don't quite know how the new you is going to act towards them---will your personality change because your appearance has changed?---so they try to control the situation and you by saying these kinds of things, or worse yet by actively trying to sabotage you with food, or by keeping you from exercising.

When this happened to me with my sister, I told her that just because I lost weight didn't mean I thought I was better than her, or would change in my attitude toward her. I would just be eating more healthfully, and unavailable at times because I was taking care of myself. Then I invited her to join me. After that she became one of my biggest supporters!

I have found when i lost weight previously people like to see you look good but not TOO good! You are most likely making them feel uncomfortable with their own weight issues now so they are trying to sabotage you in your efforts! ignore them!

i get a mix of statements like this from a couple of people i see about once every few weeks, like my MIL. last time i saw her she said "Oh, you lost those little cheeks!!!!" LOL
Yea ma'am, i did.
seriously, when people tell me i am "so skinny" or "so thin" i correct them gently: "I am not skinny, i am lean. there is a difference" and i smile. and sometimes flex something at them