How do you handle a comment like this?

Most people don't want others looking better than them so they will encourage you to go back to your heavier/unhealthier ways.

I hear those plus "Hey skinny minnie!"

I'm far from 'skinny'....but I have lost a lot of weight, so I just smile and move on.

If they tell you "you're too skinny", then say "you're too fat"

AS if suddenly losing the amount of weight you want gives us the excuse to go back to eating more again and not exercising! Someone once told me.."YOu can't change how other people are or what they say..but you CAN change how you react to them"...No one wants to hurt the "fat girls" feelings..People can see Im overweight and look my weight! They are just trying to be nice and not hurt our feelings but when we get thinner they think they can just open their mouth and say whatever they want! Good for you for taking control of your health..you do what makes you happy..sometimes we have to try to not be sheepish in our desires.. Put your foot down and they should leave you alone. I had to tell one person that my body and weight was not something we could talk about!

It depends who says these comments.

I tend to find if it's a work colleague I can dismiss it entirely (they're always on diets and it doesn't make a difference) but if it's a family member I'd take hede. My family always have my back.

With Family I'll always remember when I was little (10/11yrs) my mum telling me that if I kept spending my dinner money on snacks she'd have to make me cut back in other areas (looking back I was an overweight kid) If my mum said she thought I was looking too thin I'd take her advice and probably see a doctor to make sure I was a healthy weight.

I think it depends on who it is and their motives but if your confident you're healthy then it's water off a ducks back.

I have had this type of feedback from friends and relatives as well.

I have two thoughts:

1. In North America, 50% of people are to some degree overweight. Because of this I do not think that many people know what is a good weight/size for themselves or the people they know. So, some versions of these comments are most likely well meaning people who do not know better and are gauging size based upon how you, we, I looked before we lost any weight.

* Subset to #1 - I also feel that once a person sees a certain amount of success. People who are not trying to make any changes feel threatened and make derogatory comments for the purpose of making themselves feel better.

2. Where I go with my weight loss is completely up to me. Just like I never took anyone's advice about dieting when I was over weight and over eating. I seek no one's input on my goals/directions now that I am trying to make a change in my life. I do not hold any bad feelings towards those who make insensitive or inane comments. Basically, I smile, thank them for their concern and go on about my day. For me, what I think is possible today is completely different from what I thought was possible last year at this time. Who knows what will possible next year?

If you are working towards a goal and you are seeing success. Congrats!! YOU have done the work and it is YOU who will reap the rewards.

Best of luck for your journey.

A few people have said this already, but in my opinion, the best thing to do is to fib about your goals a little. Nobody else sees the number on the bathroom scale, so it's pretty easy to say "I'm really not trying to lose any more weight, thanks!" or "I'm just focusing on toning now".

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I actually get this all the time. At home and on mfp
I am still 15 pounds away from being underweight, but continue to cut so that I can see my abs

It bothers me a lot more than I admit to really

"You're wasting away to nothing..."
"Be careful, you don't want to lose TOO much..."
"You're not STILL on a diet, are you? You're thin enough...."


I'm no where CLOSE to looking like I'm UNDERweight- in fact, I decided to go into maintenance mode,
rather than lose another 10 pounds-
because I didn't want to lose anymore- and I'm very comfortable where I'm at now.

But I find these comments very hurtful.
Seriously, where were all these people when I was OVERweight, and my health was in jeopardy then?
I'd make comments about *needing* to lose about 50 lbs......and hardly anyone agreed with me...
in fact, they said "no way do you need to lose that much weight."
Sorry, I did.
And I did.

And I don't think I look gaunt or unhealthy....

Just need some advice.

I have ran into this exact same thing!!! I am 5 ft 6 in and weighed 183 and now I am at 139. I have lost almost 45lbs which for some ppl is a shock if they haven't seen me in a while. I also do a ton of toning exercises so I am sure that my 45lbs gone may look like more gone. However, I know my body and I know I am not underweight or too thin. I feel very happy where I am but if I feel the need to take off another 5lbs I will. I think after all is said and done it's prob a shock factor to some. They are happy for you but don't know exactly how to express it. I have an idea for these ppl. Just say, " you look great". and be done.