Parents who have younger kids! HELP!

Straight Jacket??

I am joking.

Good luck, sister!! Hopefully something that he will grow out of soon?

i count to 3 very firmly if the bad behaviour doesn't stop, i smack them on the bottom, and it works and i dont ever have to smack them because i never get to 3

He's looking for attention. You know the saying Negative attention is better than no attention at all.

Yep, mine is 3. She gets the 1-2-3 and then gets put in her room with the door closed for a few minutes to "work it out". When she's calm, I open the door and explain why she's in trouble, ask her if she understands, then let her back out with the understanding that if she does it again, it's back to time out. If I open the door and she flips out again, door gets closed. Seems to be working but she sure does like to test us.

Pushing the bounderies are in their nature. Sometimes it's cute but most of the time I have to pull my hair in frustration.

I worked at a daycare for 3 years and time outs work so well but usually not for the parents haha. Since they are used to getting away with stuff with you it usually doesnt work, We would sit a kid down and sit down next to them and talk to them like you would an adult " you cannot do that because it hurts our friends" If they continue to whine say " i will not talk to you until your ready to talk " and make them sit there until they are done having the tantrum. If that doesnt work i use the corner for my 7 yr old...all i have to do is threaten it now and she is good Kids do not like to stand and stare at the wall! if that doesnt work then....um i have no idea i am a semi strict parent and my kids only act crazy in my home around me....everyone else in public thinks they are soooo good...im like well come home with me sometime and you will see the real them haha!!

Oh yes. I always get "Wow, they are SO well behaved, you're so lucky"

Yeah okay. I have 3 year old twin boys and a 2 year old daughter.... you think they are always like this?? In their home environment where they are comfortable, their true colors show!

When my five year old starts acting inappropriately like that, I tell her in a firm voice that her attitude isn't called for, and she'll go in the time-out chair if she doesn't stop. Then I start counting. If I get to three, which sometimes I do, sometimes I don't, then she goes in the chair for four minutes. I re-explain why she is getting a time out, and proceed to *not* give her attention for the duration of her time out. At that point *nobody* is allowed to give her attention, and she's not allowed to have toys in the chair. If she continues to scream/cry/irritate, etc, I let her know she'll stay there another four minutes until she's quiet and calms down.

Needless to say, she doesn't like getting time outs. She doesn't like being ignored for those few minutes. I think the boredom is the worst of it for her, but it definitely gets her to shape up.

When the time out is over, I re-explain why she got a time out and why her behavior was inappropriate. We hug, I have her apologize, and then she's allowed to continue playing again.

No spanking or yelling needs to be involved, she knows I'm the boss, and her attitude usually shapes up after she's had a chance to settle down.

Usually I walk away, maybe tell them I will not do whatever its is they are wanting until they can ask in the correct way (by now they know what that means) My walking away and not putting up with their behavior usually works. Sometimes they do end up in their rooms.

My daughters are 8,6 and 2. Recently I just had a talk with my 6 year old about the more she behaves badly about whatever it is she's wanting, the more and more we will not be willing to listen or do. Luckily my girls are pretty well behaved, the youngest is probably the first one to ever go through a "terrible two" type phase.

But my girls know I mean business. I don't argue with a child. I say this is what will happen if you continue and I almost always follow through. In a few situations I have allowed them to redeem themselves. They get no excuses. I don't care what their age, theres no get out of jail card because they are "younger". They each have an expectation on how to behave and while they are in my home I will be sure that they will continue to behave this way.

I am not a spanker although there have been times I wanted to! I just didn't see how it would be effective in my type of parenting. I teach them not to hit, they have heard me say over and over that you don't hit someone you love (I came from a violent home so this is an important lesson for me to instill in them) I am not judging those who do spank, but like I said how can I tell my kids not to hit, we don't hit those we love but turn around and hit them? They just would't take me very seriously.

All kids are different and some are harder than others. Be firm and follow through and start while they are young. No begging or being wishy washy. Yes, being a parent is work and not always fun. It may take you half the day to get them them so stay in their room and to stop coming out, especially if this is a new thing in your house. Also taking something away then explaining how they can earn it back seems to work to.

Good Luck!

Also to add, I run a daycare in my home and sitting out of an activity works on those kids also. I do have some that are more work, but don't let them monopolize my attention since that is usually what they are after.

I ignore tantrums OR I put them in time-out......

I currently have 4 three year olds screaming and running around my living room. I'll trade ya.

i count to 3 very firmly if the bad behaviour doesn't stop, i smack them on the bottom, and it works and i dont ever have to smack them because i never get to 3

Oh yeah I used to do that a long time ago, he laughs and then starts counting with me! That does NOT work for mine! Glad it works for you though.

oh dear! then try ignoring him completely, or putting him somewhere he doesnt want to be, my son had such a bad tantrum once and threw a pack of rice crispies on the floor, it spilt everywhere, then he continued to scream like a lunatic so i put him outside and closed the front door! only for a few minutes and i knew he was safe, he was so shocked he forgot about his tantrum

I walk away, before I start laughing.

I have a 6 1/2 yr old and an almost 4 yr old. When they are in the midst pitching a fit, I make sure they cannot hurt themselves and I CALMLY explain that I will talk to them again when they pull themselves together, and I ignore them. I go do something else with the ohter child or alone in the next room and soon they amble in. They have to apologize for pitching the fit, and they have to explain as best they can why they got upset. At this point I can usually nip in the bud before they get too upset and in time you'll be able to do that, too.

We have two boys - 4 1/2 and a 2. about 6 months ago before our oldest son started pre-k - he really acted out a lot. we began consistently following through on punishments (timeouts & taking things away) even when it wasn't convenient for us - instead of just threats. It has made a huge difference in his behavior. it took a week or 2 to get things going the other direction. Good luck.

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