Now that you've lost weight.....

anhancock10
anhancock10 Posts: 148 Member
edited October 24 in Chit-Chat
Do you notice that guys are more douchy than normal? Ha I had a guy seriously have this conversation with me today!
GUY: what day are you off this week?
me:thurs
guy: thursday it is
me: ok what u wanna do?
guy: lunch and sex
me: excuse me, sorry i dont do that.
guy: well if im gonna be honest if there is no sex involved i really dont want to hang out.
me: your mom should have swallowed.

The last 4 guys that have asked me out have been like this...what the heck?
It semi makes me want to be fat bc i dont ever remember ever dealing with this when i was :( (Rant over, feel free to comment)
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  • JustGresh
    JustGresh Posts: 42
    Gain the weight back.
  • rsmithy89
    rsmithy89 Posts: 174 Member
    Noticed the same thing with women. They posess a little more tact though ;)
  • anhancock10
    anhancock10 Posts: 148 Member
    Noticed the same thing with women. They posess a little more tact though ;)

    good to know, i guess haha!
  • dlaplume2
    dlaplume2 Posts: 1,658 Member
    unfortunately society has adapted to this behavior. It almost seems normal to these people. Don't let it get to you though. You are healthy and confident and beautiful. Don't let a douchy guy get under your skin.
  • anhancock10
    anhancock10 Posts: 148 Member
    unfortunately society has adapted to this behavior. It almost seems normal to these people. Don't let it get to you though. You are healthy and confident and beautiful. Don't let a douchy guy get under your skin.

    Thank you!
  • george_ie_girl
    george_ie_girl Posts: 120 Member
    Definitely! Maybe not as bad as the whole lunch then sex comment - but I've had more douchy guys talk to me when I'm at a club or something... Or getting surrounded by bogan footy players who previously would not have looked my way.

    I like it though, makes me feel good about myself.
  • ChrisStoney
    ChrisStoney Posts: 479 Member
    I'm not even that foreward with my wife and we have been married 20 years.... where do you meet these's apes? Do you work at a strip club or something like that? You look pretty good looking from your pic, I think any normal guy would be thrilled to have your attention for an evening. that should be electric/exciting

    with my wife I almost had sex every day last week... almost on Monday, almost on Tuesday, almost on wed...etc...
  • bpurc22
    bpurc22 Posts: 180 Member
    seriously, it's pretty embarrassing that a guy would consider that normal.
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    I'm not even that foreward with my wife
    Really?
  • engineman312
    engineman312 Posts: 3,450 Member
    is the guy british? it sounds like something a british guy would do. we americans are much nicer.
  • yesiamaduck
    yesiamaduck Posts: 531 Member
    You live in an area full of *kitten*?
  • Going4Lean
    Going4Lean Posts: 1,078 Member
    I wish this happened to me once in a blue moon at least.
  • Justjoshin
    Justjoshin Posts: 999 Member
    I only suggest sex and lunch when I know the woman is going to be into it /shrug.
  • EngineerPrincess
    EngineerPrincess Posts: 306 Member
    This is why I avoid guys that talk to me and talk to the shyer, quiet boys, they tend to be sweeter, less forward and more grateful for the attention. :D
  • yesiamaduck
    yesiamaduck Posts: 531 Member
    This is why I avoid guys that talk to me and talk to the shyer, quiet boys, they tend to be sweeter, less forward and more grateful for the attention. :D

    I now have an image of a cute little owl at a cafe rotating it's head scanning for the awkward ones, it made me smile... thanks
  • JDMPWR
    JDMPWR Posts: 1,863 Member
    You must meet dudes with zero game. If he has to announce it without even knowing if he is going to get it then he is a failure at picking up women.
  • EngineerPrincess
    EngineerPrincess Posts: 306 Member
    This is why I avoid guys that talk to me and talk to the shyer, quiet boys, they tend to be sweeter, less forward and more grateful for the attention. :D

    I now have an image of a cute little owl at a cafe rotating it's head scanning for the awkward ones, it made me smile... thanks

    LOL you're welcome, I go for the owl pic because creepers are less likely to creepily message owls than girls. :)
  • anhancock10
    anhancock10 Posts: 148 Member
    I'm not even that foreward with my wife and we have been married 20 years.... where do you meet these's apes? Do you work at a strip club or something like that? You look pretty good looking from your pic, I think any normal guy would be thrilled to have your attention for an evening. that should be electric/exciting

    with my wife I almost had sex every day last week... almost on Monday, almost on Tuesday, almost on wed...etc...

    Did you really just ask if i worked at a strip club bahahahaha! UM ...no...i work at verizon...i sell phones:)
  • anhancock10
    anhancock10 Posts: 148 Member
    Most of the guys are guys that mutual friends have hooked me up with, i told them NO MORE! :)
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    You get used to it.
  • MrsNoir
    MrsNoir Posts: 236 Member
    Yeah, it's the downside of being fit and fab, all guys, even your best friends' boyfriends make strange comments everynow and then, you get scared of being left alone with men in general. I hate the lift at work! 7 floors and loads of weird students! thanks to my very loud mp3 I manage to pretend I don't hear a word!:D, students are not so bad, but how do you feel when you see an important guy of the company complimenting you? and worse for me as I'm foreign and sometimes I don't even understand what they're saying, so if I say "sorry, I didn't get that" I make the situation even more ackward!. Yep, I used to walk up and down the 7 floors, excellent way to keep fit, but when I was 7 months pregnant wasn't that easy!:D

    And I think to myself.. wow, and I'm not even close to my goal weight yet, and I'm not that that beautiful, I'm plain normal!!, it must be horrible to be a model!! I had a guy from the red cross trying to convince me to donate some money, and at the end of the speech he said.. "and you've got very beautiful eyes".. and I said. "is that part of what the red cross is about?" "he said, "no", but one doesn't get to see beautiful eyes that often".. yeah yeah, whatever, I still didn't donate, baby has to be fed first :D
  • rachemn
    rachemn Posts: 407 Member
    OMG! I'm so glad that I'm not the only one having this problem! There are so many creeps out there. I only gained weight in the last 10 years and now that I've taken the weight off I've had some real jerks approach me like that. I'm always shocked that they think that's appropriate....or that it's going to get them anywhere. I'm continually getting inappropriate messages on facebook all the time too...so much that I've stopped signing into fb messenger. How do you get these guys to back off??

    I'm 38 and it seems like the guys my age are the worst...they think it's totally fine to ask me about my sex life or just proposition me! However I've met some really nice 24 year olds~!! lol
  • AllanMisner
    AllanMisner Posts: 4,140 Member
    If young women would quit pining after the Jersey Shore kind of guys, the mid-stream guys wouldn't try so hard to be *kitten*. In the mean time, hang around nicer guys. Maybe not the rockstars you're most women are drawn to, but we can turn out to be gems when you get to know us.
  • stephanielindley422
    stephanielindley422 Posts: 273
    with my wife I almost had sex every day last week... almost on Monday, almost on Tuesday, almost on wed...etc...

    You sound just like my poor husband. LOL.
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    at least he was going to get you lunch first?

    Kidding. Your "your mom shouldve swallowed" comeback made me snort though.
  • MrsKunz
    MrsKunz Posts: 151 Member
    is the guy british? it sounds like something a british guy would do. we americans are much nicer.

    haha this makes me laugh NO CHANCE!!!
  • Xandi
    Xandi Posts: 319
    Damn I kinda was digging the honest approach... :)
  • robinxhope
    robinxhope Posts: 125 Member
    I had a guy ACTUALLY ask me "What race are you?". WTF?
  • DeeJayTJ
    DeeJayTJ Posts: 355 Member
    its a two way street. the things guys say to you, im sure some women say to guys.

    now that im in shape and all that, i get a lot more attention, women are very to the point.....
  • SetecAstronomy
    SetecAstronomy Posts: 470 Member
    Do you notice that guys are more douchy than normal? Ha I had a guy seriously have this conversation with me today!
    GUY: what day are you off this week?
    me:thurs
    guy: thursday it is
    me: ok what u wanna do?
    guy: lunch and sex
    me: excuse me, sorry i dont do that.
    guy: well if im gonna be honest if there is no sex involved i really dont want to hang out.
    me: your mom should have swallowed.

    The last 4 guys that have asked me out have been like this...what the heck?
    It semi makes me want to be fat bc i dont ever remember ever dealing with this when i was :( (Rant over, feel free to comment)

    I apologize on behalf of my gender.
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