Now that you've lost weight.....

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  • fitaliciag
    fitaliciag Posts: 373
    WOW! What a douche! I am sorry you had to deal with that. Yes, it does come with the territory, unfortunately, but I think you handled it well. I am quite the *kitten* to those kind of guys. I would have ripped his ego out and set it on fire with one of my dirty looks along with what you said ;-)
  • MaximalLife
    MaximalLife Posts: 2,447 Member
    Do you notice that guys are more douchy than normal? Ha I had a guy seriously have this conversation with me today!
    GUY: what day are you off this week?
    me:thurs
    guy: thursday it is
    me: ok what u wanna do?
    guy: lunch and sex
    me: excuse me, sorry i dont do that.
    guy: well if im gonna be honest if there is no sex involved i really dont want to hang out.
    me: your mom should have swallowed.

    The last 4 guys that have asked me out have been like this...what the heck?
    It semi makes me want to be fat bc i dont ever remember ever dealing with this when i was :( (Rant over, feel free to comment)
    Yes, one sure way not to get the attention of guys is to put on the weight, and you'll seldom have this issue from a sober guy worth half a look.
    Or maybe you might want to consider a higher class of people to associate.

    Not all guys are so crude and unromantic.
    But don't kid yourself.

    No matter the approach, they all want and need the same thing from you. That's just nature.
    Accept it on your own terms, and ENJOY!

    I've been with the same lady since we were 16, and I still need to accept intimacy totally on her terms.
    Remember, when it comes to romance and love, you hold all the cards.
  • teagin2002
    teagin2002 Posts: 1,900 Member
    You live in an area full of *kitten*?

    This, I have been hit on a lot more but it is almost always tactful and respectful, not to mention those goofy and just plain silly ones :laugh: So sweet!!!
  • amonkey794
    amonkey794 Posts: 651 Member
    I apologize on behalf of my gender.

    Apology accepted lol
  • kellyrsmith82
    kellyrsmith82 Posts: 29
    Gain the weight back.

    So why does she have to gain the weight back bc some guys are being disrespectful? Just because she has worked her butt off to lose the weight dont mean she has to put up with that crap!
  • Mallory0418
    Mallory0418 Posts: 723 Member
    It must be in the air...

    The most gentlemanly men I have met lately are all on MFP. Thanks guys! :drinker:
  • supershiny
    supershiny Posts: 170 Member
    I can relate to that. I've had similar experiences before. This is actually one of the reasons it has been hard for me to keep the weight off. I lost all of my extra weight once before and the attention it garnered was very triggering for me. I know that women must do this sort of objectification to men, but the difference is that I have been afraid for my life when I have been cornered by creeps on the bus, sidewalk, and cafes due to their persistence and brashness.

    Bottom line: when you are much smaller than the other person, the attention becomes much more impactful and scary.

    also lol @ your mom should have swallowed! best comeback ever, will use that next time :)
  • alliecore
    alliecore Posts: 446 Member
    Wow........just wow. I've never had a guy be so disrespectful. Your comeback was awesome though! :drinker:
  • Banks01
    Banks01 Posts: 945 Member
    Do you notice that guys are more douchy than normal? Ha I had a guy seriously have this conversation with me today!
    GUY: what day are you off this week?
    me:thurs
    guy: thursday it is
    me: ok what u wanna do?
    guy: lunch and sex
    me: excuse me, sorry i dont do that.
    guy: well if im gonna be honest if there is no sex involved i really dont want to hang out.
    me: your mom should have swallowed.

    The last 4 guys that have asked me out have been like this...what the heck?
    It semi makes me want to be fat bc i dont ever remember ever dealing with this when i was :( (Rant over, feel free to comment)


    It's the garage sale


    Hahaha
  • lyssamichelle
    lyssamichelle Posts: 1,307 Member
    Even fat I have to deal with that.
    Like I give off some overweight easy slut vibe or something.
    Kind of worried what it would be like when I get down to my goal.
    I'm terribly sorry this happens to you.
  • ChrisStoney
    ChrisStoney Posts: 479 Member
    with my wife I almost had sex every day last week... almost on Monday, almost on Tuesday, almost on wed...etc...

    You sound just like my poor husband. LOL.

    I feel for him!
  • anhancock10
    anhancock10 Posts: 148 Member
    Do you notice that guys are more douchy than normal? Ha I had a guy seriously have this conversation with me today!
    GUY: what day are you off this week?
    me:thurs
    guy: thursday it is
    me: ok what u wanna do?
    guy: lunch and sex
    me: excuse me, sorry i dont do that.
    guy: well if im gonna be honest if there is no sex involved i really dont want to hang out.
    me: your mom should have swallowed.

    The last 4 guys that have asked me out have been like this...what the heck?
    It semi makes me want to be fat bc i dont ever remember ever dealing with this when i was :( (Rant over, feel free to comment)
    Yes, one sure way not to get the attention of guys is to put on the weight, and you'll seldom have this issue from a sober guy worth half a look.
    Or maybe you might want to consider a higher class of people to associate.

    Not all guys are so crude and unromantic.
    But don't kid yourself.

    No matter the approach, they all want and need the same thing from you. That's just nature.
    Accept it on your own terms, and ENJOY!

    I've been with the same lady since we were 16, and I still need to accept intimacy totally on her terms.
    Remember, when it comes to romance and love, you hold all the cards.


    A higher class...really i know realllllyyyy rich guys that act like this it has nothing to do with class. Im still pretty sure all males think with their penis most of the time. I work with all guys ( at verizon) so i know how they think i have to listen to them all day :)
    & yes sex is nature but to just expect it because they took me to lunch once...um no its called standards and i dont just screw every guy i meet! && yes i hold all the cards i know this, thats why he didnt get in my pants :)))
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