Coping with more male attention
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Elf_Princess1210
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Hi all! I have lost about 20 lbs so far, but now guys are paying more attention to me. It feels kind of weird, especially since I'm married. I love my husband and no matter what I weigh or what he weighs I'll always be attracted to him. I just don't know how to deal with guys flirting with me. Any suggestions?
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Mention your husband in the conversation0
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Hi all! I have lost about 20 lbs so far, but now guys are paying more attention to me. It feels kind of weird, especially since I'm married. I love my husband and no matter what I weigh or what he weighs I'll always be attracted to him. I just don't know how to deal with guys flirting with me. Any suggestions?
"...yeah thats what my husband thinks too!"
"...really? Is that so! Ill have to tell my husband that one!"
or for the persistent males who just cant take the message: "Hey pal, Im married!"0 -
I used to struggle with this when I was slimmer and since I have put on weight, I go out hassle-free and I actually found it to be a bit of a relief! But the plan is to lose weight so it will start happening again. Yeah, mention your husband or just smile and say 'thanks but I'm not single'! Some guys will respect that and some will not so you just have to be persistent and insistent. I have had a few negative reactions but as long as you are with friends/your partner, they will back off!0
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I've been finding that men at the gym are looking at me more now. One even attempted to chat me up the other day! I say enjoy it! You aren't cheating. You deserve to feel attractive!0
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But don't feel too guilty after slapping them down not to accept the compliment of having a guy hit on you. It's nice to see hard work rewarded, and there's nothing wrong with positive feedback. ;}0
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Mention your husband in the conversation
This. And mention how happy you are with him.0 -
I've been finding that men at the gym are looking at me more now. One even attempted to chat me up the other day! I say enjoy it! You aren't cheating. You deserve to feel attractive!
exactly, your husband will know you love him and thats all that counts! i can't wait to get a bit more attention again, it's a nice buzz!!0 -
Guess I should also say send the hot ones my way, but I really can't be bothered right now.0
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Enjoy it! There's nothing wrong with some harmless flirting as long as it's clear to both parties that's all it is. Definitely mention your husband, but otherwise, enjoy the attention!0
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When he approaches you take your water bottle and spray him while shouting "DOWN BOY!"
If he is very persistent then beat him with a stick!
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Let it be known that you are married if someone gets serious,if it is casual just be proud of what you have accomplished.
Remember,it is you who are in control of your life,no one else has that power so go with the flow and enjoy with your husband the new healthier you.0 -
Whats wrong with flirting, does it not make you feel good? We went out a few weeks ago (doesnt happen often) i was wearing a black mini skirt crop top huge heels, blonde extensions (hair was blonde then) actually theres a pic on my profile i think. Anyway i got a lot of attention, i even had one guy come up and compliment my OH on his "fit missus" his words!! haha, my OH loved it, he says he feels very proud0
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When he approaches you take your water bottle and spray him while shouting "DOWN BOY!"
If he is very persistent then beat him with a stick!
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You total boaster!! Haha, good on you.
I don't see the problem as you have the upper hand in every way. Some blokes will be attracted, find out you are married and move on, ego plus. Others will be attracted, find out you are married and still like you as a friend, friends plus.0 -
Hey just tell them your married and if they really want to have sex then just be nice and do it but tell them no drama! (What did you expect from a guy!)0
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Whats wrong with flirting, does it not make you feel good? We went out a few weeks ago (doesnt happen often) i was wearing a black mini skirt crop top huge heels, blonde extensions (hair was blonde then) actually theres a pic on my profile i think. Anyway i got a lot of attention, i even had one guy come up and compliment my OH on his "fit missus" his words!! haha, my OH loved it, he says he feels very proud
Brb - flirting with all the hot honeys on MFP0 -
Hey just tell them your married and if they really want to have sex then just be nice and do it but tell them no drama! (What did you expect from a guy!)
I like your style!!0 -
Casually bring up your husband in the conversation. That should do it for the majority of men. It tells us that you're thinking of your husband while you're talking to us.
If there are more persistent men, then let them know that you're offended and feel insulted that they would think you'd do break your marriage vow.
Now, put some clothes on.0 -
I KNOW THIS MAY SOUND CONCEITED, BUT IT IS THE HONEST TRUTH. I am not an egotistical brat, I actually have very low self esteem. With that said..........
I honestly understand what you are saying OP. Especially if you have spent many years socially awkward and suffering from low self esteem from the weight. It's not "normal" to notice people are actually looking at you and making eye contact. It's a struggle I have been having as well. I also will mention my husband in any conversation. My husband is deployed and my kids are in school during the day, so I am usually shopping/exercising/college alone. I also live overseas on a military base, so there are lots of single marines and soldiers. I honestly have stopped making eye contact with men. It just feels wrong to catch them looking at my body, or them trying to start a conversation. I am hoping that over time I can get used to it and be happy or proud about it. Maybe if my husband were here, I wouldn't notice or care if a man was paying attention to me.0 -
If I saw a girl and said "Wow, you're beautiful," and she said "Thanks, I'm married" I'd think it more than a bit odd. That comes off as sooo conceited, "Every male that's nice to me only wants to sleep with me so I'll cut them off at the pass."
So I guess it depends on the kind of attention and what they say. If it's a compliment - take it and say thanks. If it's "can I get your number" or an obvious line, then bring up the husband.0
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