They said WHAT????!!!!!

rebawagner
rebawagner Posts: 199 Member
edited November 3 in Motivation and Support
Did anyone say something to you (good or bad) that motivated you to start your weight loss journey? Or that keeps you going when you want to quit?
I can remember when I was in high school there was a boy I liked :heart: . I FINALLY got the courage to ask him out with the help of my friends being the messengers (give me a break it was HS). He started laughing and said “NO WAY”, my girlfriend said “Well, your loss!” and he replied “Yeah, like a 200lb loss”. :sad: This was over 20 years ago and I can still remember it so clearly!!!!! When there are days I don’t want to work out or I just feel like giving up this comment haunts me… I was just wondering if anyone had a similar situation. I would LOVE to know if anyone had a POSITIVE comment that motivated them rather than a negative.
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  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    Did anyone say something to you (good or bad) that motivated you to start your weight loss journey? Or that keeps you going when you want to quit?
    I can remember when I was in high school there was a boy I liked :heart: . I FINALLY got the courage to ask him out with the help of my friends being the messengers (give me a break it was HS). He started laughing and said “NO WAY”, my girlfriend said “Well, your loss!” and he replied “Yeah, like a 200lb loss”. :sad: This was over 20 years ago and I can still remember it so clearly!!!!! When there are days I don’t want to work out or I just feel like giving up this comment haunts me… I was just wondering if anyone had a similar situation. I would LOVE to know if anyone had a POSITIVE comment that motivated them rather than a negative.

    where is he? i will beat him up!
  • rebawagner
    rebawagner Posts: 199 Member
    I should have added that I am over it LOL!!! I just replay it in my head for motivation. I actually need to thank the guy (if I could remember his name) because I am a much healthier person because of him :flowerforyou:
  • TiffanyW1014
    TiffanyW1014 Posts: 599 Member
    My daughter said to me one day... I want a flat mom NOT a FAT mom. That was all it took. I have been working on becoming FLATTER ever since. I tell you 4 year-olds can be mean lol!! But she very possibly saved my life with those words!
  • renderol
    renderol Posts: 21
    I had a similar thing happen to me when i was in highschool. My friend asked when said guy and i were getting together. THe guy's response was not ever with that body :(

    It was heartbreaking but the motivation i needed.
  • angela72023
    angela72023 Posts: 25
    My grandma passed away in December and so all of my family was together (never happens) and we took some pics (I never let my kids take my pic) and I was like, I don't want to not be in the pics with my kids, how sucky of me to take that from them? Then, my sis-in-law told us she is having WLS. And I was like, ok, this is it. You will be the last fat girl in the family.

    I have been fat forever. Seriously. I lost a lot of weight a couple of years ago, then life sucked again and I gained it and more. Diets have never worked. So now I am here and we are going to Disney World Spring 2013 and I'll be da**ed if I'm not going to be in the pictures then!

    So my moment is pictures...I want to take a family picture and not have to delete it because I'm in it.
  • theginnyray
    theginnyray Posts: 208 Member
    Bad: Out buying office supplies one day, the young worker (male, early 20's), in attempts to be nice to the customers, asked me when I was expecting. I wasn't. Not even close. I don't think I ever wore that specific shirt again! This happened five or six years ago.

    Good: A few years after I started running, my sister in law (a casual runner for years) told me that my running inspired her to run more. Just a really nice compliment, totally unexpected. She had been an inspiration for ME!

    Good: Got together with some friends from high school (graduated almost 10 years ago). They were athletes then, I was a couch potato. They gushed about how they could not believe that I am a runner now, by choice. They said they were really proud, and surprised.

    I like to remind myself of the "good" comments when I'm having a moment of self doubt. It's a nice reminder to see how far I've come.
    PS. Reading the "bad" comments are heartbreaking :-(
  • chefswife07
    chefswife07 Posts: 58 Member
    I had a very similar thing happen to me my freshman year. I had a crush on this guy for a year prior to entering High School. One day we were walking alone down the hall to art class and he turned to me and said "you are so ugly". I think the worst part was that we were alone, no one was there to impress. And, I actually had been feeling pretty good about myself that day with my new dress on. People can be so cruel!!
  • changling82
    changling82 Posts: 137 Member
    There were a couple of things that spurred me to the right path.

    the first was my daughter. She was looking over my dads shoulder as he searched the internet, and she saw one of those sensa weightloss ads where the cartoon woman is fat and then shrinks. As it was on the fat woman she pointed to it and said "look, it's a mommy". out of the mouths of babes.

    The second:

    I was at my kids daycare for a special occassion. I was all dressed up and feeling fairly good about myself. One of the teachers saw me from the back and called the name Jaime. My name is Danielle : P. Jaime is around the same height as me, but was at least 100 pounds heavier than I was at the time. That was the day that i finally joined the gym and never looked back.
  • maryjay51
    maryjay51 Posts: 742
    when i turned 50 i realized life was way more than half over. i asked myself at that point 'what do i want to do with the rest of my life?' one thing was to live again and be healthy so i COULD live the rest of my life. i still have 37lbs to go but ive lost about 80lbs and am finally living my life again. the growth in myself and my life the last two years is what keeps me movtivated to stick this out and reach my goal
  • DawnMarieMomofTwo
    DawnMarieMomofTwo Posts: 186 Member
    my 4 year old son thinks when you become an adult you are supposed to be fat! i want to show him this is not true,

    and just recently my husband told me im never going to loss the weight and i might as well give up.. that is pushes me harder to prove to him I CAN loss the weigh!
  • sruffin9834
    sruffin9834 Posts: 80
    my 4 year old son thinks when you become an adult you are supposed to be fat! i want to show him this is not true,

    and just recently my husband told me im never going to loss the weight and i might as well give up.. that is pushes me harder to prove to him I CAN loss the weigh!

    My eyes still water when I think about what your husband said to you. Even though I know that it was weeks ago and he doesn't even know that I exist, I still feel the pain! I have a little request though. If you don't mind, please tell your husband that I said thanks. He has inspired me to get to where I want to be with even more spunk in my step! When I want to go get french fries, I think of the words that he spoke to you and I turn away from them! When I don't feel like going to do cardio, I think of those words and I pound the pavement even harder. So please, thank him for me. I am like the incredibly shrinking man because of the words that he spoke into the atmosphere!:) I hope the same goes for you, your husband did us favor....
  • jamiemnoonan
    jamiemnoonan Posts: 27
    My 5 year old daughter came home from school upset one Day near the end of December. She did not want to tell me why at first (she said it would hurt my feelings) but when I got her to open up about it it turns out one of the little girls on her bus told her her Mommy was fat and needs to stop eating so much sugar. it is one thing for people to look at me differently for my size I will be da**ed if someone is going to treat my children differently!
  • Lisadal
    Lisadal Posts: 1
    my 8 year old lad just kept calling me fatty..thats all it took for me to want to lose a few pounds.
  • linzirussell
    linzirussell Posts: 116 Member
    my ex boyfriend said the titanic didnt sink till i stepped onto it.
    ahahhahha i can see the funny side now im 100lbs lighter, im glad he said it really or id have never done anything about being so unhealthy lol
  • kylee_marie
    kylee_marie Posts: 299 Member
    i was dress shopping and had to take my son into the dressing room with me at a store. i went to put one on and he said to me "mommy you are too fat to wear that" i told him it wasn't nice to call people fat and he tried to make up for it by telling me i am pretty... i couldn't be mad, he was only 3 but it was definitely motivation!
  • eoney
    eoney Posts: 35
    This is an incredibly motivating thread!

    BTW, 4-year olds ARE brutal...while we were watching tv on the couch, mine asked if she could lay on my tummy because it was softer than the pillow. Ouch.
  • mruntidy
    mruntidy Posts: 1,015 Member
    I was told 'If you get a body like David Boreanaz you can do anything you want to me'



    well there was an ACME puff of me shaped smoke as i hit the gym
  • chelsea_thatsme
    chelsea_thatsme Posts: 138 Member
    Yes I do! the other day i went shopping with my mom and saw this cute jacket (the last one) that was on sale. it was a little tight but i thought it would be some motivation for me to lose some extra weight. then my mom said you are only losing weight for graduation (which is in june) and then your gonna gain it all back....:O i couldn't believe she said that. but instead of being insulted it motivated me to want to lose weight and maintain it
  • Spinelli2288
    Spinelli2288 Posts: 188 Member
    My mother has never gotten off my back about my weight, even when I was at 140 and LOVING myself. She is a small frame, always been 110 pounds. I am a medium frame, if I weighed even 120 pounds I would look disgusting. Now, my mother is subtle about making jabs, and will outright say something mean from time to time. I hated Christmas and my birthday because of my mother. When I was 8 years old she bought me weights and an instruction book on what work out techniques would flatten your stomach. When I was 9 she bought me work out DVDs and a juicer. When I was 13 she started buying me clothes that I wanted so badly that were two sizes too small, when I asked why she said "because it'll will make you work harder so you could wear them." She still does to this day, the only reason she didn't do that to me this Christmas is because I told her I was starting the HCG diet and to get me a nook card so I could get a couple of HCG cook books. I never heard her so happy when she said "Finally! It's about time you did something about that." Last summer I told her I was looking into the HCG program and she told me "Good, because I don't understand how Rick(my boyfriend) can even be seen with you."

    I'm happy to say that it doesn't bother me anymore. Unfortunately my mother won't be happy unless I weigh 100 pounds, but that's okay. When I get down to 135-140, I'm going to love every moment of it. I'm doing it for ME and no one else.
  • DawnMarieMomofTwo
    DawnMarieMomofTwo Posts: 186 Member
    my 4 year old son thinks when you become an adult you are supposed to be fat! i want to show him this is not true,

    and just recently my husband told me im never going to loss the weight and i might as well give up.. that is pushes me harder to prove to him I CAN loss the weigh!

    My eyes still water when I think about what your husband said to you. Even though I know that it was weeks ago and he doesn't even know that I exist, I still feel the pain! I have a little request though. If you don't mind, please tell your husband that I said thanks. He has inspired me to get to where I want to be with even more spunk in my step! When I want to go get french fries, I think of the words that he spoke to you and I turn away from them! When I don't feel like going to do cardio, I think of those words and I pound the pavement even harder. So please, thank him for me. I am like the incredibly shrinking man because of the words that he spoke into the atmosphere!:) I hope the same goes for you, your husband did us favor....

    you are just a big sweetie i will most certainly tell him from you, and i will show him i can do it!!! it might take time but i will get there!!!
  • ColCul
    ColCul Posts: 53
    I was picking my children up at school and another mom screamed across the playground "Oh My God! you are pregnant". When I told her no, she wouldn't believe me and insisted I was, in front of my children, their playmates, and other parents. She finally left me alone when I started to cry, in front of my children, their playmates and other parents.

    I have lost 80 lbs since then. It is hard to believe that such an insensitive person would have influenced me so much. She doesn't chat with me much anymore.
  • Spinelli2288
    Spinelli2288 Posts: 188 Member
    I was picking my children up at school and another mom screamed across the playground "Oh My God! you are pregnant". When I told her no, she wouldn't believe me and insisted I was, in front of my children, their playmates, and other parents. She finally left me alone when I started to cry, in front of my children, their playmates and other parents.

    I have lost 80 lbs since then. It is hard to believe that such an insensitive person would have influenced me so much. She doesn't chat with me much anymore.

    That is horrible! At the same time it's awesome that she doesn't chat with you anymore, your confidence probably makes her insecure as hell! You go girl!
  • Heidi64
    Heidi64 Posts: 211 Member
    I'm sorry to say that nothing motivated my big butt, couch potato self to lose weight. I stumbled on MFP purely by chance. I never even expected to stay with it let alone be successful. I will be on MFP for one year on February 15th. While I still have some weight to lose, I am soo very happy with how far I've come. My motivation now is to not ever be so heavy that I can't walk with that spring in my step, to be able do that little hop, skip, jump gracefully. I have so much energy now and zest for living, why would I ever want to go back to being a slouch?! I hope that keeps me motivated for the rest of my life!
  • kyoules
    kyoules Posts: 37 Member
    I'm happy to say that it doesn't bother me anymore. Unfortunately my mother won't be happy unless I weigh 100 pounds, but that's okay. When I get down to 135-140, I'm going to love every moment of it. I'm doing it for ME and no one else.
    Wow, you have SUCH a positive attitude for having such a terrible sounding mother! Seriously, she has issues if she tried to make an 8-9-13 year old feel self conscious about her body.

    I was super embarrassed and hated myself when the bank teller asked me once if I was expecting and I most definitely was not. :(

    Just today a friend posted on facebook about an exchange with her 4 or 5 year old son:
    Mason was calling himself a Chicken Nugget this morning.. and I said well then I guess I'm a french fry.. He looks at me and says, "You can't be a French Fry, but maybe a whole potato.." Keep 'em coming Mason, you're my inspiration to lose weight, even though you don't know it...
  • Italianyc84
    Italianyc84 Posts: 192 Member
    this wasn't to me, but to my partner--a friend told her that her "boob to belly ratio is way off"! My partner had a laugh about it...BUT...it prompted her to lose 50 pounds!!
  • Shoechick5
    Shoechick5 Posts: 221 Member
    You guys are awesome. Some of these are just so sad that another human would actually say them to someone!
  • rebawagner
    rebawagner Posts: 199 Member
    WOW! I love all the "I'll prove you wrong" stories on here!!!
  • jenlb99
    jenlb99 Posts: 213 Member
    HOLY CRAP, Rebawagner -- that guy would be kicking his own *kitten* for turning YOU down if he caught a glimpse of you now!

    I had a similar experience. I'm long over it, but it's funny how these things stick in your head. I was 13, he was 14, and we were friends. He was telling me he had a crush on me without saying my name.

    He said, "Most people think she's a dog, but I don't."

    Such a charmer. We went on one date, he tried to feel me up, and that was it. Turns out, he could overlook my appearance because I had a big rack. lol He's still nice looking, but the shock on his face when I bumped into him a few years ago said he was surprised how unlike a dog I really am! lol
  • beckywotring
    beckywotring Posts: 1
    This was a really uplifting post!!It gave me a laugh, but also made me feel a bit better knowing I'm not the only one having these 'moments'. Everyone keep on going- I'm only a month in but I'm down 11 lbs. and looking forward to 30 more!
  • dimplez711
    dimplez711 Posts: 88
    I've heard those types of comments most of my life, and they do usually get to me. However I think with time, and a loving husband, I've started to ignore them. Except on our recent vacation...

    We were on the island of Boracay (Philippines) walking around the tourist area where they had a bunch of souvenir shops. Being Filipino myself, I already knew the culture/mentality (women are supposed to be petite), and I could already sense that the shopkeepers were ignoring my husband and I when they saw us, because we are fairly big people (he's 6'4, in the 300s, I'm 5'2 around 230). Finally, while sifting through t-shirts in one shop, the salesperson said to me "Are you looking for souvenir shirts for other people? Because nothing we have would fit you." I tried to keep it from ruining our trip by obsessing over it, so I didn't say anything to my husband, but it's pretty much been eating away at me since then.

    When that fun little memory plays in my head now, it pushes me to work harder for our trip next year. ;)
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