Ever feel like you just wanna give up?

We all have days like that, some women experience this especially around TOM but don't let it get to you. Just think hard about everything you want and what benefits you wil receive after. It is okay to take a day off just get back into stronger than ever!

Arienna,
Don't set yourself up for failure! The mind is THE MOST POWERFUL tool in your arsenal to help you live a healthy lifestyle. I was JUST like you. I had decided that I was going to live out the rest of my life fat, but, I thought, I'd be happy. No worrying about dieting, the way I looked...none of that stuff.

Well, destiny had other plans. Living an unhealthy life is not that easy. I was admitted to the hospital last summer with what the doctors thought was a heart attack. I was only 40 years old! Plus, I was a smoker. How could I not see what I was doing to myself. Thank God, everything turned out okay but it was a definite wake up call. I started wallking in my neighborhood, at first. Then I started jogging and now I'm running and doing Pilates! Who'd have thought! No one can do it for you. It took me 40 years to figure out there is no "quick fix" to living healthy. It is a huge change in lifestyle. You have to change the way you cook, the way you look at food, everything. But, I promise you, it is sssooo worth it! You ARE worth it. Please don't give up. When we help each other reach our goals, we all succeed. Come on...join us!

Arienna-- what got me last year was the belief that "if she can do it, I can do it." And so can we all.

There's nothing special about anyone here who has lost weight, whether it be lots or little. They put their pants on one leg at a time-- they just hung in there.

You can do this-- don't give up.

Don't worry! We all have those day's, but don't give up! I have a LOT of weight to lose and there are times when I think, "Just forget it!" I have messed up and ate something that I shouldn't have. The difference now is I give myself a pep talk and try and realize that one mistake doesn't have to mean that my whole diet is over. We have crazy hormone day's, that's just the way it is. Just remember that tomorrow you will feel differently. If not tomorrow, then the next day for sure. This too shall pass! Don 't give up!

I don't know why, but I feel this way today. I see all these people losing extraordinary amounts of weight and it's soo great and inspirational, but I just don't myself losing that much. It feels like an eternity away, maybe I feel this way because my TOM is coming up very soon, I don't know. I just feel like no matter what I do, I'll always be this fat, ugly woman and I need to just deal with it. I can't even go to my gym that I pay for every month because I'm too embarrassed; I'm almost too embarrassed to go anywhere or do anything, I just hate that I let myself get this way, I used to be so thin and in shape and I dont know how this happened, I just hate myself for it

When I feel that bad about myself, which happens frequently enough. Where I want to just crawl back into bed and forget about the world, most of all forget about doing everything I need to do. I use it as ammunition to get things done. So I'll do a workout that is a little harder than I usually do or I'll do the bootcamp dvd I hate so much because it's hard and I'll curse Billy Blanks and then follow it up with yoga. That way I end up doing something that will help me achieve my goal AND something to be proud of. Which is a positive spin on a negative situation but hey, if taking a day off is what you really need that has it's place too.

Hope that helps.

Its normal to lose motivation like that, it really comes and goes as the days pass. You just have to have the comittment to stick with it and grind it out even though its hard. You may be overweight (like the rest of us) but there is no such thing as an ugly woman. Just remember that you're on the right path and you've already taken the first few steps that are the hardest when it comes to losing weight. It would be soo foolish to stop now, so just tough it out, keep your head up and know that we're all behind you 100%.

Everyone does at some point, change is hard and getting healthy and staying that way is also but well worth it. The only advice I can give you is this, care enough about yourself /your health to stick with it. do it for yourself and your loved ones. your young so don't wait until your old like me:laugh: (ok I'm not THAT old, but I wish I had made this healthy commitment sooner) hang in there:flowerforyou:

You know what? There are people at the gym who are larger than I am but they KICK MY REAR when it comes to how hard they work out. I actually can't keep up with some of them. There is also a guy on oxygen on the treadmill that blows my mind! We are all so different. You just have to remember that if somone is judging you, that is their self esteem talking, don't let it be yours. You are a lot more than just a body! The best thing I have found to get rid of the weight blues is to go work out. Get up and go do it. Then you will feel so much better about at least your accomplishment today! Then tomorrow, tackle it again. One day at a time!!!

Arienna,

I see that you, like me, have a lot to lose. It can be very overwhelming when you look at the amount left to go in your weight loss journey. I have been doing this for 5 months now and I am down 49 lbs. I figure 10 lbs a month is great and I have told myself that it will take at least 1 1/2 years to reach where I want to be. So far I am sticking to my plan.

I was very hesitent about going to the gym too.I felt people would look at me and wonder why I was there. I was afraid I would look like an idiot using the equipment .The reality is, they have made me feel welcome. The people at the gym are noticing the changes in me and they are very encouraging. A trainer can always give you a program that will help you lose more weight.

Take it one day at a time. Don't look at the whole journey. It's the steps you take that will carry you to your goal of a fitter and healthier body.

Arienna, Don't give up. It has taken me more then one year to lose 30+ pounds and I feel fantastic. Just keep on going and when you have these days get on here and vent like you did. It will pass.

Just try try try again. It will work and you will be so happy that you did.

Also get to the gym. Who cares what other people think. Sometimes it is just you feeling that way. I go to the gym and there are all shapes and sizes. We all have one thing in common. We want to look and feel good about ourselves.

Kathy

I feel like giving up too. I just started this site and its helping me view what and how I eat. I hate my body. I tired of not losing weight. My dad had a stroke last year and has dropped 1/2 his size. He dont excerise and keeps the weight off. I just want to give up. I am even trying to get a tummy tuck. My doctor told me my skin is strechted out. I dont mind being BIG other places, but just not my stomach!!

I feel the same way sometimes. I haven't really lost that much, but think about it this way...you lost 13lbs in one month! That's fantastic! I started about the same time as you and I only lost half of that. It's getting harder and harder, but I guess it doesn't matter bc in the end it'll all be worth it! Stay strong! :flowerforyou:

Hi Ari,

It sounds like you're going through some tough times. :frown: Hang in there, girl!!! :flowerforyou:

Maybe you could walk around a little at the game tonight (during inning change, etc.), instead of sitting on the bleachers the whole time--at least your butt won't get too sore! :happy:

Good luck to you and don't give up!!!!

Cheers, :drinker:
Deborah

That's the spirit!!! :bigsmile: