tomboy needs desperate help.......
alapoint89
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I really need help with being a girly girl and really want to do it for me and no body else but i am a stay at home mother what can i do for just at home and going to the park kind of things....
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That is really hard to answer without any specifics.
How do you dress?
Ever put on make up (not needed but to make you feel girly)?
Hairstyle?
You can look feminine without a lot of fuss.
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I'd need help knowing more about you. Do you have T shirts? Throw them all out. It's okay to show cleavage. Heels, boobs, and lipstick are the greatest parts of being a girl; however, you don't have to "rid" all the tomboy. I like playing xbox and doing "guy" things- I consider myself girly too, though.
I'd like to add, I know how you feel. I'm a single stay at home mother- so I know what it feels like to be cooped up. Doesn't hurt to get dressed up, even if you don't have anything to do.0 -
sweats and a tshirt hair in a bun no make up but i do on occasionThat is really hard to answer without any specifics.
How do you dress?
Ever put on make up (not needed but to make you feel girly)?
Hairstyle?
You can look feminine without a lot of fuss.0 -
I used to be a pretty bad tomboy and now I'm fairly girly girl, though I still have my tomboy tendencies. Not sure exactly when I started to change, somewhere during my second pregnancy I think. It hit full force right after I left my ex-husband. Not sure what part exactly you're asking for help with. Shoes, clothes, make-up, jewelry, or workout and food (not sure how those last two are super tomboy vs girly but you never know)...
The best advice I can give is to go shopping. Seriously, head to the mall with a girlfriend and visit lots of stores and browse. You don't have to buy, just look and get a feel for what you think looks nice. Don't be afraid to wear it either, there's not much point in looking at stuff you'd never be caught dead wearing. Try some stuff on, when you're ready/able pick up a few things and start working them into your wardrobe.
People will notice and they will comment (hopefully nicely). If they're nice smile and say thanks, if they're rude smile and say "I can change my appearance, but rude is ugly and never goes away"
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When I was younger I was a total tomboy! I think to make you want to be girly you have to feel it (as silly as it sounds). Try going for a spa day or having a pamper day at home, with facials, manicures and things. Then instead of forcing yourself to be girly, you'll want to match how you're feeling after your day 0
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Paint your nails.
Try different styles with your make up.
Try different ponytails or buns or whatever. Personally, I think it's super cute when girls wear messy buns. Looks cute and is super quick and easy to do! It's cute any way you do it too. You know, low or high on your head. Just some simple girly ideas to start with.
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I'll go shopping with you! Lol0
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i would if i had long enough hair lolPaint your nails.
Try different styles with your make up.
Try different ponytails or buns or whatever. Personally, I think it's super cute when girls wear messy buns. Looks cute and is super quick and easy to do! It's cute any way you do it too. You know, low or high on your head. Just some simple girly ideas to start with.0 -
i live in texas and im brokeI'll go shopping with you! Lol0 -
Which part of Texas?0
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Girrl there is way too much to tell you in a message. You need to teach yourself. Subscribe to a few fashion channels and beauty channels on youtube. You'll get the hang of things soon.0
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sweats and a tshirt hair in a bun no make up but i do on occasionThat is really hard to answer without any specifics.
How do you dress?
Ever put on make up (not needed but to make you feel girly)?
Hairstyle?
You can look feminine without a lot of fuss.
Sweats and a t shirt are okay for around the house,not to go out unless for a jog.
Get your hair out of a bun and get it cut/styled.
I am not crazy about makeup and don`t think it is needed to look feminine but my opinion,if you do use some don`t overdo it and get some advice on how to discretely apply.
Get yourself a simple little necklace too.
As a guy I like seeing a lady "dolled" up when the occasion calls for it but just a nice girl next door is most appealing.0 -
<---- Tomboy! but I do my hair and a little bit of eye makeup chap stick!...
You can still wear sweats and hoodies and look cute... I could be wrong tho.. lols
You could tease your hair >:D! I love teasing its the best...
Curl your eyelashes
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I think you should look at clothing websites for style ideas. Like Old Navy has "looks" that you can create with their clothes. Take those ideas but shop at Goodwill if you're broke. Add makeup and paint your nails!0
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ah, the mom uniform.... hair up, no makeup, sweats and ratty tshirts. I know it well. It is good for you to take a little extra time on yourself every once in a while. It will make you feel better. Doesnt mean you have to do a full face of makeup or even any at all. Do get up and put on some moisturizer. Wash your hair and style it. Slap on a little tinted chapstick or gloss. Jeans and a fitted tshirt are an improvement over sweats. Little things like that can help brighten your mood and look. You dont have to go full out "girl" if thats not your style. Tom boys are cool too. But DO spend some time making YOU feel good.0
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would help more if we could see a pic of your hair
.. but everyone here has pretty good ideas ;D 0 -
ACCESSORIZE :happy: A cheap stylish pair of sunglasses. I found some awesome ones at the dollar store! A couple little necklaces and a couple earrings can also be found there. Some mascara and lip gloss in you glove box is a wonderful last minute pick me up (but not when you are driving)
When I take my kids to the park I don't doll myself up. I do put a small set of silver hoops in, some lip color and mascara. My hair is just pulled back in a pony or messy bun or left down in natural waves. Sometimes I'll put a headband in for another accessory. I just were tennis shoes and jeans with a zip up hoodie black, so it doesn't show kids goop and dirt. Plus has a nice slimming factor!0 -
I wear glasses my daughter is at the pully pully bitey bitey stage so no can do with list of tisACCESSORIZE :happy: A cheap stylish pair of sunglasses. I found some awesome ones at the dollar store! A couple little necklaces and a couple earrings can also be found there. Some mascara and lip gloss in you glove box is a wonderful last minute pick me up (but not when you are driving)
When I take my kids to the park I don't doll myself up. I do put a small set of silver hoops in, some lip color and mascara. My hair is just pulled back in a pony or messy bun or left down in natural waves. Sometimes I'll put a headband in for another accessory. I just were tennis shoes and jeans with a zip up hoodie black, so it doesn't show kids goop and dirt. Plus has a nice slimming factor!0 -
I wear glasses my daughter is at the pully pully bitey bitey stage so no can do with list of tisACCESSORIZE :happy: A cheap stylish pair of sunglasses. I found some awesome ones at the dollar store! A couple little necklaces and a couple earrings can also be found there. Some mascara and lip gloss in you glove box is a wonderful last minute pick me up (but not when you are driving)
When I take my kids to the park I don't doll myself up. I do put a small set of silver hoops in, some lip color and mascara. My hair is just pulled back in a pony or messy bun or left down in natural waves. Sometimes I'll put a headband in for another accessory. I just were tennis shoes and jeans with a zip up hoodie black, so it doesn't show kids goop and dirt. Plus has a nice slimming factor!
I am not trying to be snarky so please don`t take it that way but you asked for some help and advice...the word "can`t" needs to be forgotten.
You can do this for yourself and how you want to feel about yourself.
Believe me,you really can. :flowerforyou:0 -
I found the thing that worked the best for me to feel feminine was to wear form fitting clothes. Not tight, but fitted. Tapered T shirts instead of baggy ones, a little clingier sweater with a good bra to show off the girls, good fitting jeans. And earrings.
Put on a little clear lip gloss and mascara and I'm good to go.0 -
Instead of wearing old baggy t-shirts with writing on them, buy solid colored tees fitted for a woman. You'll still be comfortable but will feel more girly.0
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I am a serious tomboy, always have been and always will be. I have found that as I get older I do enjoy the days of being a girl. I do get my nails done and always love that! I also have days where I do hair and makeup so that I feel a little girly. I say do what is comfortable and will boost your own self esteem!0
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Watch "What Not to Wear" and "How Do I Look" . Both shows give great tips but they also address some issues that keep women locked in comfort zones that don't always feel good.
This may sound silly, but I would shop for one inexpensive thing (a necklace, pair of earrings, or scarf) that you see that shouts feminine or sexy to you. Pick something you like, maybe it is whimsical and you haven't let yourself be that. Maybe it is ultra sexy which is a part of you that has been hiding in sweats. Wear that for a bit and admire it, remembering how much you like it and the image it brought to your mind. Then make other small steps like that.
On a more practical note, Goodwill, thrift stores, consignment shops are a great way to get a cheap wardrobe.
Go Girl Go!0 -
Totally agree with above from Canroadrunner ...stick with what you like and just check the fit. Also get inspiration from people around you. What are they wearing, what appeals to you?0
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a little bit of bronzer and lip gloss will go a long way and takes 0 time There is nothing wrong with a tomboy if you do it with style... Yoga pants are part of my everyday because i'm always on the go with my little man.. 0
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I'm not going to be much help, I just have a question. Why do you want to change? I know you said it's for you, but what are your reasons? I am a tomboy and I never want to change! I love being a tomboy...jeans and a tank top, flip flops, hair in a ponytail or down...the most make-up I wear is eyeliner and maybe some mascara...
my two cents on advice though? Don't go so far to be a fake barbie....orange tan, super teased/poofed hair (I guess it's called a snooki? I have no idea what that means haha)
now don't get me wrong, I do dress up for a night out! nice pants and a sexy shirt...I rarely wear dresses or skirts...not my style plus I'm not yet skinny enough lol...so maybe start with that? Dress up for a night on the town? Have a date night with your man?0 -
Instead of wearing old baggy t-shirts with writing on them, buy solid colored tees fitted for a woman. You'll still be comfortable but will feel more girly.
I agree completely! I wear shirts like this all the time: http://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=72246&vid=1&pid=898489&scid=898489082
Sometimes they're on sale for 2 for 5 bucks. You can't beat that! You can wear them plain with jeans, with shorts, with cardigans...the opportunities are endless.0 -
you can do some nice things on a budget and sales ladies are usually helpful. I was a tomboy and in the Navy for 4 years so i get what your trying to do. I also made some great friends with girly girls and they were helpful as well...You can get free make overs from the ladies at makeup counters and then try to get the counterparts from the wal-mart after you get the makeup tips
if you need anything else you can add me i have a teen so i'm always trying to be thrifty and fashionable!! 0 -
I wear glasses my daughter is at the pully pully bitey bitey stage so no can do with list of tisACCESSORIZE :happy: A cheap stylish pair of sunglasses. I found some awesome ones at the dollar store! A couple little necklaces and a couple earrings can also be found there. Some mascara and lip gloss in you glove box is a wonderful last minute pick me up (but not when you are driving)
When I take my kids to the park I don't doll myself up. I do put a small set of silver hoops in, some lip color and mascara. My hair is just pulled back in a pony or messy bun or left down in natural waves. Sometimes I'll put a headband in for another accessory. I just were tennis shoes and jeans with a zip up hoodie black, so it doesn't show kids goop and dirt. Plus has a nice slimming factor!
I am not trying to be snarky so please don`t take it that way but you asked for some help and advice...the word "can`t" needs to be forgotten.
You can do this for yourself and how you want to feel about yourself.
Believe me,you really can. :flowerforyou:
I agree 100%.
You can do this . Small steps. Just look around at first and get a taste for things you like. Then buy one thing even if its a headband, a necklace or a blouse. Then as you feel comfortable but another and another. 0 -
I am a reforming tomboy at 45 years old. Once I lost weight and started getting compliments, it made me want to look more girly. Used to be I only wore makeup for work and scrubbed it off at the first chance I got. I'd stay in sweats and sweatshirts or Ts and shorts depending on the weather, except when I had to work, and even then, I dressed way down.
I think the thing that opened my eyes was when I was headed to the lake for the weekend. I had packed up the car and the dogs and made sure to scrub my face to get rid of my makeup. I stopped at the local store up there to buy worms for fishing (see? I really am a tomboy and I love to fish!). My husband was about an hour behind me and he stopped at the store to buy worms, too because he wasn't sure if would stop (won't if it's hot and the dogs are in the car). He asked if they had seen me and they said "oh, the blonde lady with all the dogs and no makeup?".
I thought that if total strangers noticed my no makeup status, it wasn't a good thing. So I started wearing makeup more. Then I lost more weight and my clothes started fitting me and looking really good on me, so I went shopping and bought more clothes and I get all sorts of compliments on my clothes. Now I dress stylishly for work and dress nicely on the weekends instead of wearing sweats and sweatshirts. It's actually helped my self confidence, too.
Look at catalogs, like Coldwater Creek to get ideas of what looks nice and then shop Old Navy for the clothes.0
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