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kailysimpson
kailysimpson Posts: 56
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I know someone, someone close to me (family) who just makes me crazy! She weighs maybe 120 on a bad day, is taller than me (I'm 5'7), and constantly is "dieting" and complaining about how fat she is, and how much dieting sucks, etc. but she doesn't eat. Today she was whining about how 1 scrambled egg isn't filling enough for breakfast, but it "has enough calories in it for a whole meal" - 1 large egg is like 90 calories. If she is eating 90 calories per meal, she certainly is not eating enough.... but dear GOD don't tell her that!!! :noway: :sick: I have tried to invite her to MFP but I think she sees it as a place for us hugely fat people who have a "real" problem :grumble: She has been accused by other family members in the past of being annorexic, but she gets really upset and denies denies denies. I think I personally am just sick of looking at her beautiful, tall, skinny @ss and hearing her constant "I'm fat" garbage. To me, of all people. :laugh: :sick: I could understand if she felt her body could use improvement, or more muscle tone, or just better in-shape in general, everyone has things they desire to improve about themselves no matter their fitness/weight level - and that's fine but OMG the constant "I'm fat" "I'm hungry" "This sucks" just makes me want to smash my head into something hard. :sick: :sick:
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  • Jessica2Skinny
    Jessica2Skinny Posts: 118 Member
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    My best friend is 5'8'' and 115 pounds, all bones. She always says "i can't fit my fat *kitten* into my size 4 jeans... and it makes me wanna puke.
  • Kelly_1981
    Kelly_1981 Posts: 472 Member
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    Sounds like she has bad body image and possibly an eating disorder...OR she could be looking for attention eiter way doesnt sound too fun.
  • sunshinesonata
    sunshinesonata Posts: 241 Member
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    Omg, I know this all too well. Even when someone is small, they still have things they want to change, but I don't see it as someone being fat, or even worth complaining about.

    People don't realize that they need to FEED their bodies in order to get the results that they want.
  • tig_ol_bitties
    tig_ol_bitties Posts: 561 Member
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    Keep the focus on yourself and stop dwelling on this other person. Simple as that.
  • bella_babe_86
    bella_babe_86 Posts: 503 Member
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    My mom is kinda like this, she is constantly telling me she needs to eat more because she's so skinny...and Im like really mom im working my butt off to lose weight and you're complaining that you need to eat more!!!! The other day I just told her to eat a biscuit and shutup...that didnt blow over very well! I guess we all have our own body image issues whether we are overweight or underweight or virtually perfect. All you can do is give her pointers and be supportive as hard and annoying as that may be!
  • jenbk2
    jenbk2 Posts: 623 Member
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    Some people do it for attention. Next time she says how fat she is- say " yes you are huge" and then walk away
  • BlondeLisa1
    BlondeLisa1 Posts: 106 Member
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    My mother complained about her weight all the time. Always has. Finally, one of her friends drug her along to WW and they refused to let her join because she was underweight. She still complained * rollseyes* but I agree with others, it sounds like an eating disorder, body image disorder or attention seeking.
  • ashleynicoleb
    ashleynicoleb Posts: 376 Member
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    I used to let these kinds of things frustrate me SO much, but have since then realized that it doesn't help me move forward in my own progress at all. You'll be much happier if you decide to totally focus on improving yourself :) Let other people do and say what they want, and, if it annoys you, just let it go!
  • LuciaLongIsland
    LuciaLongIsland Posts: 815 Member
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    Omg, I know this all too well. Even when someone is small, they still have things they want to change, but I don't see it as someone being fat, or even worth complaining about.

    People don't realize that they need to FEED their bodies in order to get the results that they want.

    Tell them they are going to starve. No kidding. My poor girlfriend is very sick, the doctors are idiots, but she is 80 pounds. If she cant eat soon she is going to die.
  • quixoticmantis
    quixoticmantis Posts: 297 Member
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    Maybe in HER mind, she truly feels this way ( possibly an eating disorder? )

    Don't let it bother you. You never know what's going on with another person. We can only look after ourselves.
  • gwensmamma06
    gwensmamma06 Posts: 41
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    I have a friend who is a "recovered anorexic" and she drives me nucking futs!!! Some people are mental, just ignore her psycho babble and try to be nice. When all else fails remind yourself that you would never be a 120lb whiny beyotch because you have MFP and wouldn't starve yourself like an idiot! She is missing out by not getting on MFP.
  • taso42
    taso42 Posts: 8,980 Member
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    How far can she run? How long can she run for? How much weight can she lift? ....
  • EmCarroll1990
    EmCarroll1990 Posts: 2,849 Member
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    I have a cousin who does this. We were out shopping one day getting ideas for her prom dress, and while in the dressing room she kept saying she looked to fat, and the girl helping her was clearly larger than us, maybe a size 10 or so. I had to tell her when we left that she can't be making comments like that, especially in front of people that are larger than her. For all we know that could have hurt the sales girl's feelings.
  • SergeantSunshine_reused
    SergeantSunshine_reused Posts: 5,382 Member
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    I'm under 120 and do the same thing. I try not to do it too much around my bf and if i do we kind of joke about it. Like I will say "GAH i have been sitting on my FAT *kitten* all day long. Time to move" And we laugh. Usually I am being serious

    Thinner people are insecure too. Many think that food is the enemy. Somedays I feel like the fattest person out there. Others I walk around like a boss.
  • karensoxfan
    karensoxfan Posts: 902 Member
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    I work wit a woman who's short (maybe 5'2" tops!) and tiny. Like size 4, but upset that she wasn't a size 2 tiny. We had a WW at work session a few years ago, and my jaw almost hit the floor that she wanted to join to lose the last 5 lb. she had gained during a pregnancy. Fortunately, IMO, she was told she'd need a Dr.'s note b/c she already weighed less than the minimum BMI = 20 per WW guidelines.

    She didn't seem anorexic though, it seemed like the exact opposite. She could wolf down a footlong meatball sub with cheese or similar lunch on a regular basis, and was STILL tiny, despite her calorie intake. (I admittedly have no idea what else she ate).

    She never did go back with a Dr. note, so I'm guessing she either got over it, or lost the 5 lb. on her own. I was relieved as anything she wasn't part of that WW group though.
  • angiemartin78
    angiemartin78 Posts: 475 Member
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    I know this girl that is around 5'3" and weighs MAYBE 95 lbs. She too is constantly talking about how fat she is and how terrible she looks. She eats, but not a lot. Her family has been concerned in the past of her being anorexic. She actually had to have a surgery about 2 years ago and the doctors were afraid to operate on her until she got up to at least 100 lbs. SMH...There is also this woman that i have classes with, and she is about 5'5" and probably 130-140 and she too is always talking about how big her stomach is and how her clothes don't fit right. Well from where I'm standing, it looks like they don't fit right because they are falling off of your behind! These people frustrate the heck out of me too. I often say to people, that are obviously not fat but complain about being fat, I WISH I were as fat as you are.
  • DanaKinney
    DanaKinney Posts: 10 Member
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    I don't know anyone like THAT, but hey it could be an inspiration to make you throw-up and then you can have an eating disorder too (just kidding of course). Next time agree with her and tell her she should really cut back as she is getting a bit pudgy (lol).
    You may notice that I am suggesting that you apply humour to this relationship or it is going to drive you to some dreaded behaviour like eating poutine.
  • Richellebeatle
    Richellebeatle Posts: 42 Member
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    I used to know someone like this. I told my boyfriend I think it is plain rude to go on and on about this to someone who clearly weighs more than you or is just plain overweight. I mean come one. So if you think that about yourself then I must be a flipping cow to you!

    Just keep your eyes on your goals and tune that whinny little girl out! ;)
  • SergeantSunshine_reused
    SergeantSunshine_reused Posts: 5,382 Member
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    Also a lot of thinner people who complain about their weight do NOT think that people bigger than them are cows or disgusting. I see friends bigger than me and have absolutely no problem whatsoever. I am only concerned about myself. I know many others who are the same
  • Audddua
    Audddua Posts: 176 Member
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    haha I had a friend like that in college. She was always asking, "does this make me look fat" and she was a size 4! :grumble:

    One day I snapped and responded back with, "YOU LOOK LIKE A F#@CK$NG BEACHED WHALE! How can you possible consider wearing that in public?! The aquarium called because they're missing shamu."

    She never asked for my opinion again :laugh:

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