Don't text or call for a week after a first date, what about
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I really don't get this whole thing. Maybe it's because I'm 23 now and the dating world has changed. In high school we'd watch a movie, make out when our parents weren't in the room, and BAM, I'd have a boyfriend.
Man have things changed.
So I had gone out on Thursday night with this guy. We had a great time. He tried to cuddle me while we watched a movie and although I liked him, I didn't reciprocate cause well, I was still in the "getting to know him stage" (a few years ago, I would have just jumped him). However I would really like to hang out and see him again.
I'm being told I need to wait at least a week, and infact, I should wait for him. If he doesn't offer, he's not interested. No texting. No calling.
Does that even work anymore? We're friends on Facebook. We comment on each others status's. So it's not like we're...not communicating? Is a few days too soon for me to message him on Facebook and go "Hey, I laughed my *kitten* off with you the other night, wanna split a six pack and chill?"
When did dating get so complicated.
Man have things changed.
So I had gone out on Thursday night with this guy. We had a great time. He tried to cuddle me while we watched a movie and although I liked him, I didn't reciprocate cause well, I was still in the "getting to know him stage" (a few years ago, I would have just jumped him). However I would really like to hang out and see him again.
I'm being told I need to wait at least a week, and infact, I should wait for him. If he doesn't offer, he's not interested. No texting. No calling.
Does that even work anymore? We're friends on Facebook. We comment on each others status's. So it's not like we're...not communicating? Is a few days too soon for me to message him on Facebook and go "Hey, I laughed my *kitten* off with you the other night, wanna split a six pack and chill?"
When did dating get so complicated.
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text him right now0
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Take the initiative and text him. What's the worse he can say? " no thanks, not interested "... you haven't lost anything then.0
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Send him a text and tell him you had a good time and good luck!0
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Here's the thing. Guys get in touch if they're interested. It is fine to initiate, but I figure you want a man, not an indecisive boy.0
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Here's the thing. Guys get in touch if they're interested. It is fine to initiate, but I figure you want a man, not an indecisive boy.
My thoughts exactly. My only worry is I may have given him the idea that I wasn't interested because I didn't return the cuddling effort, instead called him out on being tired and ended the evening.0 -
Don't do this! If you're interested in someone show them. Don't play around with them because it gets very confusing and annoying.0
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He probably thinks you weren't keen cos you burnt him when he tried to cuddle you.0
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Here's the thing. Guys get in touch if they're interested. It is fine to initiate, but I figure you want a man, not an indecisive boy.
My thoughts exactly. My only worry is I may have given him the idea that I wasn't interested because I didn't return the cuddling effort, instead called him out on being tired and ended the evening.
Maybe I'm not getting you. If you just cut bait and ended it, he may be reading into things. Just not wanting the physical is normal, guys get past that all the time. But if you ended the night over it, then maybe you do need to let him know you had a good time.0 -
He's probably thinking the same thing. Forget those stupid "movie rules" and just communicate. It can actually make someone disinterested if you don't speak... I know it would for me anyway.0
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Nobody listens to that bull****. Take some initiative. A lot of guys dig that.0
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I'd text him exactly what you said. Now. Because you want to.
Ditch the game you've heard you should play;) it just ends up confusing you both!0 -
Forget the rules.. just be the way you normally would be.. if both people like eachother then communication shouldn't be an issue..0
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Don't do this! If you're interested in someone show them. Don't play around with them because it gets very confusing and annoying.
this. no need to play games.0 -
That was Thursday. This is Sunday. Relax.
If you want to text him tonight, do. But trust me...if he's interested, he'll get in touch. Try not to obsess. It'll only drive you crazy.0 -
Text him.
Those rules are an ok benchmark for people who REALLY don't know what they're doing but the dynamics of any random two individuals isn't going to fit neatly into a little box with rules stamped on it. I went out with a guy, didn't hear from him for a week and had totally written him off by that point cuz it had been a freaking week! I wasn't interested in him enough to both texting him, but if he was interested and I'd heard from him earlier I'd have given him another shot.0 -
def just text him. It will give you an answer and you wont have to just wait i hate the waiting gam elol0
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text him now. say this: "hi, had a great time the other night, and would love to do it again." but only if you really are intrested to. if he doesn't get back to you within 12 hours, delete the number.0
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Send him a text and tell him you had a good time and good luck!
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If you want to talk to someone and don't in order to see what they do, you're playing games. Games don't help relationships.0
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I'd listen to the guy's responses and get ahold of him. We girls tend to complicate things because we overthink them. He probably has been looking at his phone every 30 seconds hoping you'd call or text because he doesn't want to scare you away. Rules suck, I break them every chance I can.0
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