Don't text or call for a week after a first date, what about
I really don't get this whole thing. Maybe it's because I'm 23 now and the dating world has changed. In high school we'd watch a movie, make out when our parents weren't in the room, and BAM, I'd have a boyfriend.
Man have things changed.
So I had gone out on Thursday night with this guy. We had a great time. He tried to cuddle me while we watched a movie and although I liked him, I didn't reciprocate cause well, I was still in the "getting to know him stage" (a few years ago, I would have just jumped him). However I would really like to hang out and see him again.
I'm being told I need to wait at least a week, and infact, I should wait for him. If he doesn't offer, he's not interested. No texting. No calling.
Does that even work anymore? We're friends on Facebook. We comment on each others status's. So it's not like we're...not communicating? Is a few days too soon for me to message him on Facebook and go "Hey, I laughed my *kitten* off with you the other night, wanna split a six pack and chill?"
When did dating get so complicated.
Man have things changed.
So I had gone out on Thursday night with this guy. We had a great time. He tried to cuddle me while we watched a movie and although I liked him, I didn't reciprocate cause well, I was still in the "getting to know him stage" (a few years ago, I would have just jumped him). However I would really like to hang out and see him again.
I'm being told I need to wait at least a week, and infact, I should wait for him. If he doesn't offer, he's not interested. No texting. No calling.
Does that even work anymore? We're friends on Facebook. We comment on each others status's. So it's not like we're...not communicating? Is a few days too soon for me to message him on Facebook and go "Hey, I laughed my *kitten* off with you the other night, wanna split a six pack and chill?"
When did dating get so complicated.
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text him right now0
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Take the initiative and text him. What's the worse he can say? " no thanks, not interested "... you haven't lost anything then.0
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Send him a text and tell him you had a good time
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Here's the thing. Guys get in touch if they're interested. It is fine to initiate, but I figure you want a man, not an indecisive boy.0
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Here's the thing. Guys get in touch if they're interested. It is fine to initiate, but I figure you want a man, not an indecisive boy.
My thoughts exactly. My only worry is I may have given him the idea that I wasn't interested because I didn't return the cuddling effort, instead called him out on being tired and ended the evening.0 -
Don't do this! If you're interested in someone show them. Don't play around with them because it gets very confusing and annoying.0
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He probably thinks you weren't keen cos you burnt him when he tried to cuddle you.0
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Here's the thing. Guys get in touch if they're interested. It is fine to initiate, but I figure you want a man, not an indecisive boy.
My thoughts exactly. My only worry is I may have given him the idea that I wasn't interested because I didn't return the cuddling effort, instead called him out on being tired and ended the evening.
Maybe I'm not getting you. If you just cut bait and ended it, he may be reading into things. Just not wanting the physical is normal, guys get past that all the time. But if you ended the night over it, then maybe you do need to let him know you had a good time.0 -
He's probably thinking the same thing. Forget those stupid "movie rules" and just communicate. It can actually make someone disinterested if you don't speak... I know it would for me anyway.0
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Nobody listens to that bull****. Take some initiative. A lot of guys dig that.0
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I'd text him exactly what you said. Now. Because you want to.
Ditch the game you've heard you should play;) it just ends up confusing you both!0 -
Forget the rules.. just be the way you normally would be.. if both people like eachother then communication shouldn't be an issue..0
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Don't do this! If you're interested in someone show them. Don't play around with them because it gets very confusing and annoying.
this. no need to play games.0 -
That was Thursday. This is Sunday. Relax.
If you want to text him tonight, do. But trust me...if he's interested, he'll get in touch. Try not to obsess. It'll only drive you crazy.0 -
Text him.
Those rules are an ok benchmark for people who REALLY don't know what they're doing but the dynamics of any random two individuals isn't going to fit neatly into a little box with rules stamped on it. I went out with a guy, didn't hear from him for a week and had totally written him off by that point cuz it had been a freaking week! I wasn't interested in him enough to both texting him, but if he was interested and I'd heard from him earlier I'd have given him another shot.0 -
def just text him. It will give you an answer and you wont have to just wait i hate the waiting gam elol0
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text him now. say this: "hi, had a great time the other night, and would love to do it again." but only if you really are intrested to. if he doesn't get back to you within 12 hours, delete the number.0
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Send him a text and tell him you had a good time and good luck!
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If you want to talk to someone and don't in order to see what they do, you're playing games. Games don't help relationships.0
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I'd listen to the guy's responses and get ahold of him. We girls tend to complicate things because we overthink them. He probably has been looking at his phone every 30 seconds hoping you'd call or text because he doesn't want to scare you away. Rules suck, I break them every chance I can.0
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text him now. say this: "hi, had a great time the other night, and would love to do it again." but only if you really are intrested to. if he doesn't get back to you within 12 hours, delete the number.
^^this0 -
Don't do this! If you're interested in someone show them. Don't play around with them because it gets very confusing and annoying.
^ This. I hate these stupid dating games.0 -
My successful relationships included give and take communication. I didn't have to wait for him to call and neither did he. We wanted to speak to each other and make plans to see one another. So, there was no making the other person wait or hesitation.0
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I really don't get this whole thing. Maybe it's because I'm 23 now and the dating world has changed. In high school we'd watch a movie, make out when our parents weren't in the room, and BAM, I'd have a boyfriend.
Man have things changed.
So I had gone out on Thursday night with this guy. We had a great time. He tried to cuddle me while we watched a movie and although I liked him, I didn't reciprocate cause well, I was still in the "getting to know him stage" (a few years ago, I would have just jumped him). However I would really like to hang out and see him again.
I'm being told I need to wait at least a week, and infact, I should wait for him. If he doesn't offer, he's not interested. No texting. No calling.
Does that even work anymore? We're friends on Facebook. We comment on each others status's. So it's not like we're...not communicating? Is a few days too soon for me to message him on Facebook and go "Hey, I laughed my *kitten* off with you the other night, wanna split a six pack and chill?"
When did dating get so complicated.
The longer you wait- the more he'll want u. So like, if u wait for 6 months he's gonna be madly in love w u0 -
text him now. say this: "hi, had a great time the other night, and would love to do it again." but only if you really are intrested to. if he doesn't get back to you within 12 hours, delete the number.
Yup....a text like this sounds about right.0 -
thanks guys, i appreciate all the advice.
Ill go ahead and text him tomorrow and at least give it the weekend space. I know he's not doing anything as he made it clear to me he has a lot of free time right now between being on tour and getting another job.0 -
Mike: So how long do I wait to call?
Trent: A day.
Mike: Tomorrow.
Sue: Tomorrow, then a day.
Trent: Yeah.
Mike: So two days?
Trent: Yeah, I guess you could call it that, two days.
Sue: Definitely, two days is like industry standard.
Trent: You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?
Sue: Yeah, but two's enough not to look anxious.
Trent: But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you...
Mike: Yeah, but you know what, maybe I'll wait 3 weeks. How's that? And tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and I just happened to run into her number.
Charles: Then ask her where you met her.
Mike: Yeah, I'll ask her where I met her. I don't remember. What does she look like? And then I'll asked if we ****ed. Is that... would that be... T, would that be the money?
Trent: You know what. Ha ha ha Mike, laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.
Mike: Well how long are you guys gonna wait to call your babies?
Trent, Sue: Six days.
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No, you should reach out, and just let the cards fall where they may.I really don't get this whole thing. Maybe it's because I'm 23 now and the dating world has changed. In high school we'd watch a movie, make out when our parents weren't in the room, and BAM, I'd have a boyfriend.
Man have things changed.
So I had gone out on Thursday night with this guy. We had a great time. He tried to cuddle me while we watched a movie and although I liked him, I didn't reciprocate cause well, I was still in the "getting to know him stage" (a few years ago, I would have just jumped him). However I would really like to hang out and see him again.
I'm being told I need to wait at least a week, and infact, I should wait for him. If he doesn't offer, he's not interested. No texting. No calling.
Does that even work anymore? We're friends on Facebook. We comment on each others status's. So it's not like we're...not communicating? Is a few days too soon for me to message him on Facebook and go "Hey, I laughed my *kitten* off with you the other night, wanna split a six pack and chill?"
When did dating get so complicated.
And you were right not to take things too fast.
If this doesn't work out, then the sea is full of fresh fish.
Have fun!0 -
I wouldn't call someone if they wouldn't let me cuddle with them unless I was really into them. Just call or text the guy. If he doesn't respond within a few hours, move on.0
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Mike: So how long do I wait to call?
Trent: A day.
Mike: Tomorrow.
Sue: Tomorrow, then a day.
Trent: Yeah.
Mike: So two days?
Trent: Yeah, I guess you could call it that, two days.
Sue: Definitely, two days is like industry standard.
Trent: You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?
Sue: Yeah, but two's enough not to look anxious.
Trent: But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you...
Mike: Yeah, but you know what, maybe I'll wait 3 weeks. How's that? And tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and I just happened to run into her number.
Charles: Then ask her where you met her.
Mike: Yeah, I'll ask her where I met her. I don't remember. What does she look like? And then I'll asked if we ****ed. Is that... would that be... T, would that be the money?
Trent: You know what. Ha ha ha Mike, laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.
Mike: Well how long are you guys gonna wait to call your babies?
Trent, Sue: Six days.
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