Don't text or call for a week after a first date, what about

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  • SafireBleu
    SafireBleu Posts: 881 Member
    text him now. say this: "hi, had a great time the other night, and would love to do it again." but only if you really are intrested to. if he doesn't get back to you within 12 hours, delete the number.

    This exactly!
  • LaurenAOK
    LaurenAOK Posts: 2,475 Member
    Go for it. Text him, message him, whatever. He may be confused because of the cuddling thing and that's why he hasn't gotten in touch. If you wait for him to initiate you could miss out on a good opportunity.

    My boyfriend and I "dated" for three months before we became an official couple. We each really liked the other person and wanted to get serious, but both of us thought the other didn't feel that way. So we kept casually dating until FINALLY we had a talk about it and realized we wanted the same thing. Now we look back and laugh at ourselves for being so dumb and taking so long to get things moving. I know that's not the exact same situation, but it's similar. Seriously, go for it, you will probably both appreciate it and it will save you a lot of trouble.
  • RaeLB
    RaeLB Posts: 1,216 Member

    The longer you wait- the more he'll want u. So like, if u wait for 6 months he's gonna be madly in love w u

    :laugh:
  • I_give_it_2_u_str8
    I_give_it_2_u_str8 Posts: 680 Member
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  • jlnk
    jlnk Posts: 188 Member
    If you were really that into him, you would have called him already and wouldn't be posting this question...
  • MyFeistyEvolution
    MyFeistyEvolution Posts: 1,014 Member
    Here's the thing. Guys get in touch if they're interested. It is fine to initiate, but I figure you want a man, not an indecisive boy.

    My thoughts exactly. My only worry is I may have given him the idea that I wasn't interested because I didn't return the cuddling effort, instead called him out on being tired and ended the evening.

    Oh man, I didn't even read the rest of the responses but if you worry about giving him the wrong idea, just call him now. If he got the wrong idea, he'll be happy to hear from you. If you wait, he may be waiting as well thinking YOU weren't interested.

    Hell...if you like someone and want to see them again, take the big leap of faith and just call them. No limits to days and such (well just don't call three minutes after he drops you off at home) but follow your heart and just do it.

    Worse that can happen is he says "THanks but I'm all set". Then you move on to the next. It's that simple :smile:
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    I have no idea.... but i'm right there with you. i am seeing a guy who i really like.. it's been a LONG time since I've liked a fella.

    anywho, these rules have me crazy. i'm the type that has no problem speaking my mind and if i want something, i go for it.. but dating is all new to me since i've been out of the game for so long.

    i'm trying to take it slow and let him be the initiator but it gets hard when i really like him. so tonight.. i texted him to call me (haha). it was my passive aggressive method of getting him to initiate in some sort... he did and we had a great chat.

    i say be a go getter but also let him do some of the work. (i should listen to my own advice!!) there has to be a balance so it's not just you but it's also not only him..
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