Do you get told "You don't need to lose any weight"

If my sister tells me one more time to STOP losing, idk what I'm going to say to her!

Oh, and a really good friend of mine--who also used to train w/me and has an 8pack
told me I needed to put bricks in my pockets when going outdoors in the wind!! :explode:

Boy I obviously don't have that problem - but really - you just gotta do this for you. You know your own body and what makes you comfortable and confident. That's all that matters. Everyone is different and people will get on your nerves about many things but in the long run it's none of their dang business!!

>>>Come to think of it there's this lady at work who has asked me if i'm finished losing weight. I look at her and nicely say no - in my mind i'm thinking "are you crazy?-Can't you see I'm still Obese??". This lady is much larger than me -and a very nice lady, but I think it's kinda funny she asks me that, as if i'd say yep. I'm done.

And on a side note -I don't desire to be rail thin - I'm 5 ft 7 and my goal weight is 160 but honestly it's been so long since i've seen anything under 210 - i'll probably start to feel pretty darn hot at 180!! To each his own

Today actually lol i made the paper for "what you do during the winter months" where they ask questions to random people walking out of walmart my answer was that i work out and that i'd lost 40lbs since last year. so now everyone has seen the paper and a co-work said i had no idea you'd lost that much weight (i didnt know her when i was heavy) she said congrats i said thanks im still trying to lose another about 30more lbs and she goes OH sweetie you look great now i said well for sure another 15 and then ill be deciding from there and she goes really you dont need to lose anymore. (its awkward what to say after that lol) well i plan to is usually my response

Exactly. I feel like people don't care what I'M comfortable with. If they think I'm fine they just seem to get mad at me!

I think a lot of it is also that we (I know I do) judge ourselves soooo much harder then a friend or family member would. I pick myself apart from top to bottom but of course other people don't do that to you (unless they are jerks lol). I mean I don't notice flaws on others (cellulite, stretch marks etc) Some girls I work with (I'm a dancer) are 10-20 pounds heavier then me, I think look great and I am envious of their bodies, when they probably have the same issues & body problems I have & they act like I am nuts for thinking I need to lose weight when I weigh 118 at 5'4. But I know what I want to weigh and how I want to look so I guess I have to be my own motivation/support.

im 206 and people think im 170 or so .. when i tell them i still need to lose 36lbs their eyes bug out and they say "you dont want to be too skinny !! better watch your health"... i do workout a lot and have a lot of muscle now so i probably do not look my weight but geeez .. no one ever said anything to me about my health when i was tipping the scales at 300.. i hear ''wow you never looked like you were that much'.. so what i say to you is to do what you feel you need to do., dont be worrying about what others say.. dont know if id want to be 130 at 5'8" but its not my body.. im 5'7" and ill be quite content at 170 ..

yes! i know i wont have the body i did in high school since having kids has alot to do with my weight gain but what they dont understand is how i feel when im naked. I may look ok with clothes on but once you see the nude self it puts a whole different thought in your head. I just try not to talk about it to anyone well except you ladies and gents. My thought is do what makes you feel great!

Yes, yes, yes. And it's really annoying. I have one friend at work who tries to feed me, "i have some yogurt, do you want some yogurt?" I have another "friend" who always tries to sabotage me, "wanna cupcake? how about this yummy fried food?" I had to actually get loud on her after I told her "no" like 20 times. She gets it now that I've bought clothes that fit my body. But, I know what weight/size feels comfortable to me. I will get there soon and that's all that matters.

No, not when I so obviously look overweight. I notice a lot of people who still want to lose weight although according to the doctors height and weight chart they are at a healthy weight for themselves, their weight maybe at the top of the weight/height chart but never the less it's a healthy weight . For instance the weight watchers chart says my bottom weight can be as small as 128 lbs which is way to small for me personally I haven't been that small since I was in my young teens early 20's and the high end of the weight chart for me is160 lbs which is actually a comfortable weight for me I look strong and healthy and not fat at that weight and it's comfortable for me and no one thinks I'm underweight or overweight at that weight, but if I was to strive to go to the lower end of the scale I beleive my family and friends would start commenting because that's just rather small for my 5 ft 7 inch frame. Everyone must do what is comfortable for them though, and not worry so much what others say or think because people will always have opinions about multitude of things wheather we ask for it or not. Keep up the good work:drinker:

I hear that same thing over and over... which is why a lot of times I just don't talk about losing weight. If someone asks if I've lost weight I just say "ya, maybe a bit" because I just don't want to get into it.
I made the decision to do this for myself, because just like you, I was uncomfortable with the way I looked and felt. The way I see it - it comes down to how YOU feel about YOU. Weight loss is very personal, and should never be done for the benefit of anyone else but yourself. After all, you have to live with yourself for the rest of your life...

Good luck!

Yes I always get told "your a nice size" However, my knees hurt because of my "nice size" I just say Thanks and keep moving litereally.

Yep, I've been told that. Right now I don't need to lose any more weight. I've been on maintenance for about a year and a half. But...while I was in "losing mode" I kept getting the comment..."You don't need to lose any more weight"
I had set goals and I was determined to achieve those goals...and so I just ignored what everyone ellse was saying and did what I wanted...which according to my husband I do anyway. :bigsmile:

Good luck to you!

All the time! I used to be 105 lbs (I'm 5'4). And I wasn't just skinny, I was lean and muscular and very tone. But most of the time when I would see one person in particular they'd say, have you lost more weight? You are getting too skinny. But I was never a size zero, I was a size 3. And although I don't really want to be that thin again, I would like to be about 120. I'm very light, like my best friend and I will both share clothes and wear the same size, but she'll be 20 lbs heavier than me. But we'll be the same size. So I feel like when I'm overweight. I was 170 after having my 4th baby. I felt like I looked about 200. Either way, Now that I'm back down to 135, and have 15 more lbs to get to my goal, its starting again. Sure, my size isn't that big, but its all flab!
I don't know why people have a problem with thin, healthy and muscular!

I'm only 5'3". I decided 13 months ago it was time to lose weight...so I started my journey...I was 273.4 at my highest weight. Of course, everyone agreed at that time I was doing a good thing. In this 13 months I lost 100.2 lbs for a lowest weight of 173.2. I've put a little back on and I range in the 175ish area...but I have kept it around this weight, so I am proud of myself. In the meantime, I am recommitting to my weight loss goals and have decided it's time to lose the last 20 - 30 lbs. When I express this out loud, people all over the pplace are telling me that same thing...You don't need to lose any more weight...you look great...You'll be too skinny - take your pick.

I'm tired of it. I am short, I need to weigh less to feel better about myself and feel better in general. Don't get me wrong, I feel better than I did a year ago and I am healthier, but I am not where I want/need to be yet.

Thanks for letting me share.

Yes, and it doesn't really matter if the person saying it is thinner or fatter than me. I usually don't even tell anyone other than my husband when I'm trying to lose weight because of this.

I get told this all the time. My response is: I'm not really even trying to lose weight, I'm trying to be healthier and define my body better. People seem to have something against other people dieting and exercising, it's like we all don't want to fall behind and would rather other people be fat than themselves diet and exercise.

So very very true!