Picky Husband Dilemma!

Maybe he can just have a few protein shakes to ADD to whatever healthy stuff you guys are eating already? I would hate to cook two different meals...

Maybe he can just have a few protein shakes to ADD to whatever healthy stuff you guys are eating already? I would hate to cook two different meals...

I like this idea -- and suggest that he make them will full fat milk/yogurt if more calories are needed.

I know you said you are getting sick of bbq'ing chicken, but what about cooking a whole chicken in the crock pot. It literally falls off the bones. Then you could have in tacos, enchiladas, burritos or he could just have it by itself. Another one is meatballs, another one you can cook in the crock pot. They could be all beef, beef and turkey mixed or just turkey. You could put them with pasta and sauce, he could have a meatball sub. Beef Roast in the crock pot with some mashed potatoes and veggies or sweet potatoes. I also do bbq korean spare ribs in the crock pot. Just google that one to find the recipe.

Protein shake with a high calories (weight gainers), they have a ton of carbs and protein. Some are very nasty tasting others are not so bad specially if you mix with something other than water. Some have close to 1000 calories per shake.

Steaks?

^^^Oh yeah steaks,
can get really expensive

Probably not the advice you're looking for...but a grown man shouldn't be so picky. He should either eat the food you make (if you are the primary cook) or make his own food! I would hate making a meal just to accommodate his taste. It's not like the foods he dislikes are abnormal, and it's not like you want to make exotic dishes. My roommate is a picky eater like that, and if I was her boyfriend or husband it would drive me nuts! Couldn't do it!!

When we were kids my dad was the primary cook. He would say "eat or go scratch." If you didn't like what was for dinner, you got up and didn't get to eat! I will raise my kids this way too!

How does he do eating healthy fats? For example, avocados, nuts, olive oils? You can add all of them to a basic salad and it will add a ton of calories and still be good for his heart and health.

If he's a picky eater and if he doesn't really want to add the weight there isn't much you can do to change that. And as long as he eats healthy and doesn't binge on crap I wouldn't sweat it. Focus on you and getting healthy.

How does he do with veggies,Tiff?? There are quite a few that are high in protien and can be calorie boosters too. As well as some different type of beans.

Does he try different things at least or does he just automatically say "Nope, don't like it." I have that problem with Evan. He doesn't like anything cold, sandwiches, salads, cold sides, that sort of thing, and hates a LOT of stufff, like will my eat anything with even a tablespoon of mayo, no sourcream, no cream cheese, no jelly. Nothing like that. I've made him things and just not mentioned if one of those is in it and he usually likes it since he doesn't know it's there.

There are also good protien and calorie bars out there that might help him
Throughout the day. They come in non-sweet flavors too.

Maybe make a main dish that is healthy for both of you and then make him a high-calorie side dish, like mashed potatoes, or mac n cheese?

So, here's my dilemma....

My husband works a VERY physical job and he does NOT eat enough throughout his workday, he really needs to put on some weight..... while I am trying to drop some! Uh-oh!

Plus the guy is a picky eater.... no soups, no pastas, nothing "tomato sauce" based, no casseroles of any sort, not whole grains or wheat.... Oy! He really loves healthy meals, grilled chicken and salad for example but thats not helping him gain weight, the same thing gets so boring after a while and firing up the grill every night? What a pain!

I'm looking for meals for him (high calorie, filling and tasty) AND meals for me (low cal in moderation, healthy and full of the nutrients I need while getting in shape). This seems so difficult! But I am sure I'm making it harder than it needs to be....

I LOVE using my crock pot, it's so easy to come home and just serve it up...any suggestions there?

Why does he need to put on weight? If he is underweight, is there an underlying health issue?

I have a similar situation. I am on this site to lose weight. My hubby is 6.4 and skinny. He is trying to bulk up a little so our feeding routines are completely the opposite.

At the minute i give him what i make the kids. Carbs, veg and meat but when i put his out i give him a larger portion of carbs and also he eats 4-5 times a day. All exremely health stuff, pasta, wholemeal sandwiches the lot, but if you make his food then here are a couple of sneaky tips.

1. Its like when mums try and hide veg in their kids meals you basically have to do the same thing. Hide higher calorie foods on his plate.
2. Mix milk AND cream In his breakfast cereal. If u use little enough he shouldn't notice.
3. Use butter more. Tell him that all margarines are plastic fats and enter the blood stream which can alot more harmful than ordinary butter.


Information and education is probably the only way that you are going to get through to him. At the end of the day it has to be a higher calorie habit he has to take on himself. Hes probably in the food habit that im trying to get into, and that is food discipline.
The only thing is that he needs a higher calorie intake, have you thought about putting him on here, it may give him a bar to work at.