Feel like giving up :(

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  • Finally22
    Finally22 Posts: 305 Member
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    How cute are you?!!! That just about made me cry LOL
  • jhartram
    jhartram Posts: 165
    Instead of wishin and hopin, decide! You've gotten a lot of support and great ideas on this thread. Use them! I'd love it if you added me as a friend... and I'd cheer you on like no other. My top weight was almost 400 pounds, and it quite literally took the support of an entire battalion for two years to get me to lose half of it. I gained some back after a heart attack, and now I'm functional again and ready to rumble. If I can do it, you can too.

    The secret, for me, was deciding that rather than letting the world stress me out and get me to do things I knew weren't healthy I would spit in it's eye and prove them all wrong. Instead of listening to people who say I can't, I do anyway. It isn't easy, but it's definitely doable.

    Even if your boyfriend doesn't support you, there's a huge support system here on MFP.

    This is about YOU! YOU have to be the one to do it, and YOU are the one we're believing in. Notice not one person on this thread has written you off as a lost cause. In my experience, everyone that the world sees as overweight has a skinny and energetic person trapped inside. Why would you leave her hidden away, when you could work toward a jailbreak and show the world who YOU really are? YOU are worth it. YOU can do it. YOU just have to fight for it, and you have an army at your side.

    There's no better position to be in. You will never find a way to have the energy or joy in life if you give up that you could have if you JUST MAKE THE DECISION and GO FOR IT! Show the world that no matter what it dishes out, it can't hide the beautiful person you really are.

    I won't give fitness advice or nutritional advice... that's already been covered. My advice is a change in grammar.
    Instead of "Can I..." say "I CAN!"
    Instead of "I hope..." say "I WILL!"
    Instead of "Maybe someday..." say "I'M GOING TO...!"
    At first it will sound weird, and you might not completely believe it in the beginning, but it will seep into your mind and you will feel more motivated. Find motivational sayings online and save them in a folder called "Success", and read them all when you need a little boost. Come talk to us on MFP when you need support. That's why we're all here, and we all understand struggling.

    DO NOT give up! YOU can do this for YOURSELF!
  • sandown12
    sandown12 Posts: 648 Member
    Maybe this will help you out. I started this thing in September. I have not lost my first Solid 5lbs either. But you have to stay the race. You have to crawl before you can walk, walk before you can run. Do whatever it takes to get to your finish line. Celebrate the small victories.Think about how misreable you were just staying in your current situation and now you are doing something about it. So don't give up now!

    sorry did you say youve been doing this since september and youve not lost 5lbs? Oh do you stick to your calorie allowence and exercise? x
  • leaso75581
    leaso75581 Posts: 103
    don't give up....we only have one alternative and that's to keep going.
  • clsxplor
    clsxplor Posts: 15 Member
    It is totally normal, especially if you get on the scales often. Best to only weigh once a week, and remember that water retention can affect your recorded weight, while you may still have lost fat pounds. If you are staying within your calorie goals, the weight will come off....some weeks are just tougher than others.....and some weeks you can be really good, and not show any loss at all....but keep at it and it WILL come off! You can do this!!! Stick with it!
  • Jayneoh
    Jayneoh Posts: 20
    This happened to me last year. I tried for a month and didnt get the result I wanted to I gave up and put on what I had lost and MORE as usual. if I had just kept going I might have lost 80lb by now!! Or 100 if I had lost 2lb a week! Heck even 1lb a week would be a great loss over a year... 52 lbs! I wish I had not given up then.

    if you give up now the same thing will happen and you will be in the same position this time next year. Give it a chance and keep at it!

    Another thing I think your doing is weight every day? I also do that and last year when I gave up that is the reason why I gave up. I was expecting to rid myself of 1lb a day which I did for the first week then suddenly nothing would happen or I would gain and it put me in such a bad place emotionally. I still do weight myself every day now and I don't mind if I gain or stay the same as this is a long term thing.

    This time next year will come and go, its your decision that will matter. Are you going to keep the weight or shred it? I know what I'm aiming for!!
  • UltraRoyal
    UltraRoyal Posts: 49
    Hoenstly that was me, loose a couple pounds gain em back....back as your body builds muscle thats what happends...then later the fat will start melting off. I havent weighed in for 3 weeks for this reason, giving time for my body to adjust and keep off the weight. My clothes fit way better and I can see an amazing difference in my body, so dont give up.....persevere!
  • jennalor
    jennalor Posts: 84 Member
    Here is a quote that I really like.. "Why do you choose to fail when success is still an option?" - Jillian Michaels

    Believe me, I know its easier said than done, but try taking it a day at a time. A meal at a time if you have to.You can do this!
  • thekacks
    thekacks Posts: 146 Member
    I am just starting out too, and I understand your frustration. I too am a daily weigher... and need to quit that... I have done good the last 3 weeks doing every 4th day weigh ins... and it is helping, because I lose a pound at each one so far! I'm only 5'1" and weigh 230... in a size 20/22 jeans... and WE CAN DO THIS! To keep me motivated, I come online to these message boards and look for those tickers that say "lost 50... lost 60... lost 70....etc." and add those people to my friends list. They are very inspirational and have been where we are. When I need a little push, I go to their photos and think "That WILL be me!!!"
  • grace_c
    grace_c Posts: 28
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    this is great! an eye-opener for me
  • wish21
    wish21 Posts: 602 Member
    Maybe this will help you out. I started this thing in September. I have not lost my first Solid 5lbs either. But you have to stay the race. You have to crawl before you can walk, walk before you can run. Do whatever it takes to get to your finish line. Celebrate the small victories.Think about how misreable you were just staying in your current situation and now you are doing something about it. So don't give up now!

    sorry did you say youve been doing this since september and youve not lost 5lbs? Oh do you stick to your calorie allowence and exercise? x

    Yes I do. I just have not found something that works for me yet. I have dropped 1/2 -1 size in pants. My tummy looks smaller, I have some crazy definition forming in my thighs and legs. Its all gonna come together in the end. When I 1st started I was at 1200 (2lbs a wk) cals a day wasn't working, then I tried TDEE 2000 that didnt work, I recently tried 1400 (1lb a week) again not working, So here I am now trying 1600 cals a day(1/2 lb a week). I have started upping my water intake. Like I said I am seeing and noticing the results physically, but scale wise I am not. Slow and steady ALWAYS wins the race.
  • Lozze
    Lozze Posts: 1,917 Member
    Besides FaithLifeHope is still quite small. It's a LOT harder to lose 20 pounds when that's all you have to lose. Good work FLH!
    Here is a quote that I really like.. "Why do you choose to fail when success is still an option?" - Jillian Michaels

    I LOVE this quote!
  • ohnogogo
    ohnogogo Posts: 110 Member
    I tried really hard, lost 5lbs the 1st week, gained 3, lost 6, and now i seem to have ended up heavier than i started. I've ended up getting obsessed with weighing, which doesnt help, as i've apparenly put on 4lbs since monday which I dont think is possible.
    My food has been getting worse, because I just dont see a point now.

    Just needing a kick up the *kitten* really, and is it normal to be like this?

    Stop weighing yourself and instead start weighing and measuring your food. Biggest mistake we have all made at some point is under-estimating quantity, portion size and calories.

    Drink water. Not diet soda, not sugar-free punch. Water.

    Watch how much fat you eat and only eat healthy fats. Lean meats, avocado, peanut butter.

    Don't fool yourself by frozen diet meals that say they only have X amount of calories. Some of the worst fat gram offenders are frozen diet dinners . You would do you body better by having some lean meat and a steamed veggie for dinner.

    If it is white, don't eat it. White flour, white rice, sugar. Go for whole wheat, brown rice and just cut the sugar. If you must have a sweetener try agave nectar or stevia.

    Are you moving daily getting some form of exercise? Go buy yourself a pedometer, you can get a cheap one for under $10. Try and take 5000 steps a day and work yourself up to 10000 steps a day. That number looks scary then it truly is.

    Try to find other ways to work in exercise. If you cannot afford a gym there are lots of exercises you can do at home. Look on YouTube or Hulu for free workout videos. Go look at Shape.com and Fitness.com, they both have lots of exercises shown that you can do from home.

    Most of all, don't give up. One of my favorite motivational quotes is "If you are sick of starting over, you have to stop quitting"
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