Hubby is not on the health train!

When I first decided it was time to really focus on healthy eating and a better lifestyle my hubby wasnt' interested either. He was fine with me doing it, very supportive actually but no desire to do anything to change himself. He has FINALLY hit a time in his life where he is ready. About a year ago he quit smoking which caused him to gain weight and then his position at work changed from a very active one to only sitting at a computer....on went more weight. He only continued to gain weight at that point. It wasnt' until he tried to take off his wedding band and it wouldn't budge that he realized he had to do something! So for the past few weeks he has agreed to eat whatever healthy meals I make, stop eating junk food at work (they order in a LOT, especially on night shift). I've found he even chooses healthy snacks now too! I'm still working on getting him more active but at least the healthy eating is in place. Anyhow, what I'm trying to say is, although it may seem rather hopeless right now, if you continue to eat healthy and speak with him about how good you feel, maybe he'll come around! Most people have a breaking point where they finally realize that it's time! Don't give up!!

My hubby isn't interested in eating salads and healthy meals.

He eats lots of bad food so it's not like I can do the out of sight out of mind trick because it's all over in our house.

How do you deal with not necessarily an unsupporting hubby but one that is supportive of you but doesn't have a desire to change his own habits.

It's frustrating to say the least

Well - to be very honest... it is not your place to make your husband follow you on this path..

He shouldnt be made to do anything he doesnt want to, nor be coerced into something that he himself should be making that decision.

If he wants to bring home his junk food, he is just as entitled to having it as you are in having a bowl of salad.

Talk with him about how it would be nice if he could please keep it away from your reach - until you can learn not to touch it and be capable of controlling yourself if you dont trust yourself..

But, you never have the right to tell him what he can and cant have. Only he can decide for himself if he wants to do this for himself...

Hey,

My husband is a double whammy. He eats fairly well but won't exercise, has a sedentary lifestyle (in the Navy) AND is a amateur Baker. Yeah i get pretty bad food shoved in my face A LOT - spumoni cookies, really?

I don't think you were in any ways implying that you wanted your husband to jump on your health wagon. But as for what to do to stay the course, build up that willpower. My husband always wants to order Chinese or Pizza and it's tough. So I try to stick to cheese pizza and for Chinese food, I usually just get fried rice. It's still not healthy by any means but I could be adding a lot worse stuff. It's become a running joke when I invite my husband to go for a walk with the dog and I or come to the gym.

I agree with the people above. If you do the grocery shopping buy your healthy food and let him get his junk food on his own. That's what I do if my husband wants some chips he's on his own if he wants baby carrots we've got them at home. We keep separate accounts so I'm using my money to grocery shop. But if you don't want to give him that option then just work on your willpower, it's all you can do.

I have that problem for both husband and child...but I have noticed that hubby has seen me drop 15 pounds, so he has been working out here lately.Now if he would only get on the food wagon with me !! I have sweets and chips around the house, but its not worth giving up my weight loss and I tell myself that everytime I think I want to cheat. Maybe your success will rub off and they will step up and do it with you.

You could do the grocery shopping, then he doesn't have a choice.

Or you could always request that since you are looking after yourself while he isn't that he increases his life insurance significantly so you're not screwed when he pops his clogs on you at 50.

I'm in the same boat in regards to my husband. I grocery shop, so I don't buy any junk that I know I'm tempted by. I know that he loves to have some sort of snack in the house, so I try to find something that he'll enjoy that I don't care for (e.g. cheez-its). Maybe when your husband buys chinese, ask if he'll also stop by Subway or somewhere else where you can buy something at least semi-healthy. Or, on his days "cooking," have leftovers from a healthy meal you've made the night before or something convenient like a Lean Cuisine. Also, I make sure to send my husband to work with all the unhealthy leftovers for lunch the next day (chinese, pizza, etc). I've learned that I can't have that stuff around the house all day without eating it. Good luck!

Also, in regards to "pizza night," we often make our own pizzas at home. He makes his on dough, and I just make mine on a high-fiber whole wheat tortilla and use low-fat mozzarella with veggies or whatever we have on-hand.

I too have a hubby who wants to eat healthy and says that he will, but never really does. We, as a family, have always done things together mostly involving going out to dinner and always including drinks.

The other day we went out to our favorite bar and grill. I had of course, saved some extra calories and worked out hard for this night, but once there decided to make good decisions. My husband was bummed that I didn't order a drink or two and even called me a "party pooper". I then made a comment about him trying to sabatoge my hard work. He immediately was hurt and felt very bad.

I wasn't trying to upset him, but now I know that he wasn't trying to sabatoge me, he just had no ideas about how hard it is to stay on a healthy lifestyle plan. Maybe your hubby doesn't either. Let him know exactly how you feel.