Flowers or no flowers on the first date?

VictorVegaJr
VictorVegaJr Posts: 31 Member
edited November 8 in Chit-Chat
I asked this on my news feed and got some good answers, but I wanted to get some more answers. Are flowers too much on the first date? I know the girl, its not like I just met her if that makes a difference.
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  • Pebble321
    Pebble321 Posts: 6,423 Member
    If you turn up for the date with flowers it would look to me like "trying too hard".
    Enjoy the date and if it goes well, send her flowers afterwards.
  • niknak2308
    niknak2308 Posts: 315 Member
    I'm a sucker for flowers. Personally I would love being bought some (though if you're out somewhere you may need to source some water for them somehow?) :flowerforyou:

    I mean what's she gonna do, moan you got her flowers? How ungrateful lol
  • bakingmadness
    bakingmadness Posts: 70 Member
    It depends on how long you have known her. If I've only recently met a guy (within the last few weeks to a month or two) I would see flowers on a first date as trying to hard. If you have know her for months/years (my boyfriend and I met in HS over 10 years ago and started dating a year ago) then I think flowers are ok (he brought me flowers on our first date). I would advise to stay away from red roses... maybe go for a mixed bouquet or carnations or pink or yellow roses.
  • mloftus2
    mloftus2 Posts: 8
    I'd go with a single flower. a bouquet might seem like your trying to hard or might freak her out, but if you do want to go with a nice gesture, a single flower (a nice flower) is romantic and thoughtful without going over the top. good luck!
  • Holly_Roman_Empire
    Holly_Roman_Empire Posts: 4,440 Member
    Save the flowers for the second or third date, as a kind of reward for her accepting said second or third date. ;-)
  • giggitygoo
    giggitygoo Posts: 1,978 Member
    Yes to flowers. No to giant ones =)

    A single flower is cute. Myself, I'm partial to gerbera daisies.
  • daniivdean
    daniivdean Posts: 105 Member
    Send flowers after the date, if it goes well and if a second date is arranged :)
  • ShrinkingChelle
    ShrinkingChelle Posts: 187
    I think a single flower might be cute, but a bunch too much for sure. 1 might even give me the hes trying to hard on the first date. But you said you know her so thats a little bit of a difference situation.

    Oh and it kind of depends on the location, if youre meeting her somewhere and she has to carry the flower/s around then Id say no, but if you are picking her up but then.

    Some much to think about, Keep us posted on what you decide :)
  • MissEllieF
    MissEllieF Posts: 13 Member
    I would love flowers to be brought on a first date, although I do think it's sweet to send them afterwards instead. I agree with staying away from red roses though. My personal favourite is sunflowers.

    Let us know how you get on!
  • queenpushycat
    queenpushycat Posts: 762 Member
    Hmm, good question.. I would want flowers. lol
  • hornedone
    hornedone Posts: 57 Member
    yes...a single red rose
  • wonnder1
    wonnder1 Posts: 460
    I like the flowers-or even better, a plant (cause it lasts longer) after the date.

    I hate that awkward moment, you're both standing in the door, I'm ready to go. What am I supposed to do with them? I don't want you in my house yet, but I have to put them in water, I can't throw them on the couch cause that's rude....see? Too much stress when it's stressful enough.
  • 623Hernandez
    623Hernandez Posts: 458
    Do what you want. If you like to give flowers do it! If she doesn't get it, she is not the right one for you. If flowers on a first date confuses a girl and she decides she doesn't want to give herself a chance to get to know you because of flowers, then it is her loss! What do you think of sex on the first date?
  • jumcadam
    jumcadam Posts: 95 Member
    A really really sweet thought!

    I'd go with sending them afterwards - might be a bit cumbersome for her to take them along with her on said date really. Or, as wonnder1 said, having to arrange them with you on the doorstep!
  • granolagrl85
    granolagrl85 Posts: 135
    I love flowers and other small gifts on dates. I tend to date nonAmericans and they always bring a small gift (one man brought me antique earings!). It's very romantic.
  • tylersmama1224
    tylersmama1224 Posts: 79
    Maybe a flower. You don't want to appear too desperate, lol.
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,831 Member
    Sounds, from the responses you got so far, like it depends on the girl. Most people say if you give gifts or flowers etc on the first date it makes the girl think you are trying too hard. But especially if you already know her and have been in friendship mode for a little bit, flowers could be a nice touch to let her know this isn't a platonic hanging out but a real date. Unless, like another poster said, she had to carry them around all night.

    I would actually probably prefer a small bouquet or single flower (that you pick up to the grocery store) than something delivered (costs enough more that I would wonder if you're trying to buy my affection or are desperate).
  • whitetiger011680
    whitetiger011680 Posts: 218 Member
    I don't like flowers...they just die. Getting them once in a while for a special occasion is ok but not on a first date. But that's just me.
  • tigger301780
    tigger301780 Posts: 12 Member
    I'd go with a single flower. a bouquet might seem like your trying to hard or might freak her out, but if you do want to go with a nice gesture, a single flower (a nice flower) is romantic and thoughtful without going over the top. good luck!
    I agree. I thought it was really sweet to get a single flower on a first date with a guy :) a whole bunch is really overdoing it in my personal opinion. Oh and make sure its a nice colour. Colour is important ;)
  • beskimoosh
    beskimoosh Posts: 375 Member
    For me, I'd love to be sent them afterward with a sweet note. I think that's more thoughtful :)

    Edit: In fact, I'm going to leave this open for my boyfriend to see haha
  • LemonSocks
    LemonSocks Posts: 238 Member
    I'd go with a single flower. a bouquet might seem like your trying to hard or might freak her out, but if you do want to go with a nice gesture, a single flower (a nice flower) is romantic and thoughtful without going over the top. good luck!

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  • Bysshe
    Bysshe Posts: 428 Member
    Where are these guys that even think of bringing flowers?
    I usually end up dating guys that "forget" their wallets. Ugh!

    I would personally find the one flower more romantic than a big bouquet. But that's just me.
  • DulceDollie
    DulceDollie Posts: 115
    I think that's a perfect idea. You can not, in any way go wrong by bringing flowers to a first date. Kudos to you for even considering it. It's respectful, shows interest and is always flattering. I would think you were very sweet if I was the girl, if I was any girl matter of fact. Go for it!
  • seal57
    seal57 Posts: 1,259 Member
    I'd go with a single flower. a bouquet might seem like your trying to hard or might freak her out, but if you do want to go with a nice gesture, a single flower (a nice flower) is romantic and thoughtful without going over the top. good luck!

    ^^^This.............
  • NightOwl1
    NightOwl1 Posts: 881 Member
    I think it varies widely on the girl, and if you're not sure, it's better to go with out. While I'm sure many women find flowers flattering (and they clearly do by the responses on this thread), there are also women who don't find flowers on the first date, or at all, appropriate.

    In my opinion, there's more risk than reward. If she's the type of woman who would like flowers, you still have plenty of other ways on the date to prove that you're sweet, funny, caring, etc. Let the date do that work for you. However, if she's the type of woman who wouldn't appreciate flowers, then you've pretty much blown it out the gate. As others have said, if it seems like she's someone who would like flowers, after the date would be more appropriate.
  • mideon_696
    mideon_696 Posts: 770 Member
    no to single red rose. Too corny. not a bunch of them either, even more corny still...

    but flowers would be nice. nothing over the top, just something nice.

    This is advice from my wife. :p

    I know my wife loves lilly's... :p
  • WannabeSexyBexy
    WannabeSexyBexy Posts: 104
    I would say no flowers on the actually date, but may be nice to send her some a day or two afterwards to say how much you enjoyed it. Good Luck!!!
  • Smuterella
    Smuterella Posts: 1,623 Member
    I'd go with a single flower. a bouquet might seem like your trying to hard or might freak her out, but if you do want to go with a nice gesture, a single flower (a nice flower) is romantic and thoughtful without going over the top. good luck!

    ^^^This.............

    Yep, a single gerbera would be perfect. No roses.
  • eayal002
    eayal002 Posts: 186
    Some how find out what her favorite flower is, if she hates (some gals do) roses but loves tulips then showing up with a single tulip is a +. She will feel special you took the time and found out what she likes I could be wrong here so ladies you can correct me if I'm wrong, but it will be more about the effort and time taken to find out more about her than the actual flower.
  • BerryH
    BerryH Posts: 4,698 Member
    Flowers for a date are very inconvenient as you have to carry them round all evening and they'll die without water!

    I second the suggestion to see how it goes then send flowers with a thank-you note later if you want to see each other again.
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