Date Night...Terrified!

ncrissey460
ncrissey460 Posts: 97 Member
edited November 8 in Health and Weight Loss
So Friday night i have a date with a guy i went to college with and havent seen in a while. Im pretty darn excited except for the dinner part. He mentioned that hes a really good cook so i dont know if he is going to cook for me or if we are going to go out to a resturant. I dont wanna be one of those girls that "oh im trying to lose weight" and be picking at my food and making it akward. I thought about eating before i went but i dunno. what would you do?
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  • beckie4442
    beckie4442 Posts: 132
    Maybe tell him you're eating healthy at the mo and if he could try and fit in around that..... If he doesn't understand then there's no real point in seeing him! :happy: :flowerforyou:
  • ncrissey460
    ncrissey460 Posts: 97 Member
    ive honestly just been hitting the gym hard this week and trying to stay under my calories so that if he cooks something i would be okay. Resturants i can order pretty healthy so thats not as scary as him actually cooking. lol. Ill be hitting the gym before i go so that my body will be burning afterwards. I just get so nervous putting bad food in my body anymore. Its so crazy lol
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
    Make it your "cheat day", and if he cooks, just have small portions. If you go out, order a salad. You might consider telling him you are on a special diet and asking what restaurant he wants to go to so you can look at the menu or call ahead of time and decide what you will eat. You don't have to say you are trying to lose weight, you might say you are on a low sodium diet or something like that .
  • fetchfury
    fetchfury Posts: 84 Member
    oh my gosh, don't worry about one cheat night! it'll prob just give your metabolism a boost!
  • shvits
    shvits Posts: 249 Member
    Eat a BIG salad at dinner (dressing on the side). order something that is baked or broiled, either chicken or fish. Too full for anything else. You will be fine. Remember this is a forever eating change for you and you want to go out!
    Enjoy!
  • josery1630
    josery1630 Posts: 205 Member
    Enjoy it as a cheat night guilt free. One day won't hurt, and you may find you don't have anything to worry about. Have a great time! :happy:
  • jrich1
    jrich1 Posts: 2,408 Member
    Its life, enjoy yourself, eat whatever in moderation..
  • onedayillbamilf
    onedayillbamilf Posts: 662 Member
    My only advice would be take plenty of Pepto before the date so you don't end up having to go poo while you're on the date.
  • Fit4_Life
    Fit4_Life Posts: 828 Member
    It's only for one night.. You'll be fine.
  • CallieM15
    CallieM15 Posts: 910 Member
    If hes a good cook he will probably have a vegitable of some sort. If his main is is kind of unhealthy, stock up on the vegitable and go less on the unheathier parts!
  • vim_n_vigor
    vim_n_vigor Posts: 4,089 Member
    So Friday night i have a date with a guy i went to college with and havent seen in a while. Im pretty darn excited except for the dinner part. He mentioned that hes a really good cook so i dont know if he is going to cook for me or if we are going to go out to a resturant. I dont wanna be one of those girls that "oh im trying to lose weight" and be picking at my food and making it akward. I thought about eating before i went but i dunno. what would you do?

    I would enjoy my date. Pick something reasonable and enjoy it, or pick whatever you want and enjoy it. You can exercise more before you go or after if you are that worried about it, but one meal isn't the end of the world.
  • lovecellomusic
    lovecellomusic Posts: 26
    If you are holding a good conversation he won't be paying attention to how much you eat. Just be yourself.
  • CraftyJenguin
    CraftyJenguin Posts: 28 Member
    If he wants to cook for you, that's awesome! I would just try to make sure I had a healthy breakfast, a light lunch, and maybe some sort of snack while you get ready. That way you will have calories to spare and you won't be STARVING by the time you do get to eat. Most of all, enjoy yourself!
  • Rayjewls
    Rayjewls Posts: 96 Member
    This sounds very exciting...just work out hard before and during the date explain then what you are doing. I'm sure he will
    understand...you will learn allot about him with his reaction. Relax and enjoy the date...worry abbot the calories the next day.
  • PeaceLoveVeggies
    PeaceLoveVeggies Posts: 673 Member
    Make it your "cheat day"

    This!
  • NiciS72
    NiciS72 Posts: 1,043 Member
    Exercise your *kitten* off beforehand and burn 1000 calories or more so you don't have to feel like not eating. This is what I do when I am invited somewhere where I know I can't totally control the calories. I will be doing this on Valentines Day, my Birthday, our Anniversary, etc. Works well. Just make good choices if you do go out somewhere!
  • Sabresgal63
    Sabresgal63 Posts: 641 Member
    If he cooks for you, eat it. If you go out, you can try to make some good choices.:bigsmile:
  • b417adriana
    b417adriana Posts: 56 Member
    I say enjoy the evening!!! If you worry too much about what dinner will be you might get distracted from the actual "date". If he makes food and its high cal, then hit the gym harder the next day. Plus if you've been busting your butt all week, its a nice reward for you! Have fun girl!!!
  • grag79
    grag79 Posts: 70 Member
    So Friday night i have a date with a guy i went to college with and havent seen in a while. Im pretty darn excited except for the dinner part. He mentioned that hes a really good cook so i dont know if he is going to cook for me or if we are going to go out to a resturant. I dont wanna be one of those girls that "oh im trying to lose weight" and be picking at my food and making it akward. I thought about eating before i went but i dunno. what would you do?

    I would go enjoy your night and dont be worrying so much about calories.You will prob be too nervous to eat much anyway and even if not im sure you wont want to stuff your face like a crazy woman on front of him.You can maybe do some extra exercise tomorrow and work it off.You never know you might find another way of working it off.Ah hmm am like dancing ;) xgx
  • BreakingUpWithObesity2013
    BreakingUpWithObesity2013 Posts: 276 Member
    If things work out between you two then he'll have to know eventually =) I personally think that when you tell someone your eating healthy and stick to it...you gain some respect. I wouldnt tell him "im trying to lose weight" I'd simply say that ur eating healthy. And good luck with your date!
  • Reedern
    Reedern Posts: 525 Member
    Just get a really good workout in ahead of the date so you have plenty of calories to play with. Then just enjoy your date!
  • brenteesha
    brenteesha Posts: 49
    I've only been calorie counting for just over two weeks, no exercise, and I've cheated at least twice a week. I've still lost about 3 lbs. Considering you exercise regularly, cheating once should not have the much of an impact! Especially if you are responsible with portion control. Order healthy... and if he cooks, just watch your portion size. If you watch your calories 24/7 and never enjoy yourself, you'll get burned out. In my opinion, at least. (:
  • jenna715
    jenna715 Posts: 201
    I wouldn't mention that you're on a diet before the date. Just go and enjoy yourself. If it's a restaurant, order something healthy. If he cooks, enjoy the food in smaller portions. If you talk about how you're on a diet he might take that as you not being happy with yourself and not being confident, or as a cry for attention. Its life and you have to deal with it like an adult.
  • heatherterp
    heatherterp Posts: 239
    go have fun. It is ONE MEAL. do your best and be honest with yourself. you can take a walk after dinner. Hey every 10 minutes helps.
  • jbahrami
    jbahrami Posts: 206 Member
    If he plans to cook for you, he should ask you about your preferences first to make sure that he's not making something that 1) you're allergic to and 2) something you hate. That would be a great time for you to give him some healthy ideas (without blowing your cover).

    If you go to a restaurant, you can figure it out on your own, like you mentioned.

    Either way, sit back and enjoy the date...don't stress and focus so much on the food...focus on the time you're having! Have fun!!
  • klmnumbers
    klmnumbers Posts: 213 Member
    Make it your "cheat day"

    This!

    x2. My cheat meal is always when I'm out with a guy, haha.

    Weirdly, my guy also cooks. He knows I'm trying to lose, so he makes moderately healthy things when he does like fish dishes, etc.
  • Mixmode
    Mixmode Posts: 332
    Eat LIGHT during the day to offset your total calorie intake for the day. Or eat something healthy like fish or chicken. Or use it as your cheat day.

    Regardless, don't be a bundle of nerves on the date just cuz of a plate of food!
  • springfan
    springfan Posts: 39 Member
    Just eat in moderation. If he makes something for you to eat, you are one lucky girl! Have a great time!

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  • GuruOnAMountain
    GuruOnAMountain Posts: 489 Member
    Live a little! Just eat what you want for a night.

    If he cooks for you, then it would look terribly rude of you to leave food on your plate so you can stick to small portions and would probably make him think that you're a bit high maintainance. I mean, yeah, it's nice to think that a guy should understand that you're trying to lose weight but for a start, he asked you out, so he probably fancies you as you are and doesn't think you need to lose weight and if on the first date the impression he gets of you is that you are being anal about your weight, well he's going to think that that side of you will only become more and more apparent if you guys start seeing each other more often.

    If you go to a restaurant then you can always try to go for something healthy but again, try not to be too obvious about being anal about your weight.

    There's more things in life than your weight. Who knows? This guy could really work out for you and you don't want to make a bad first impression. If things work out then sure, you can let him know how you feel about yourself and that you want to lose weight but the first date isn't the time or place for that. Just chill and enjoy yourself. I'm sure the scale isn't going to break with a weight gain of 42 stone after one special dinner and as you say, you've been working out loads to free up some calories for it.

    Enjoy yourself :)
  • laurenthomas91
    laurenthomas91 Posts: 9
    I love this post! I went out last night on a date for the first time in what seems like FOREVER!!

    We went out for dinner, and I just made smart choices!

    If he does cook for you (he is a keeper for one!) but he will also need to ask you what you like, so just make a few subtle suggestions, don't make it obvious that your watching what you eat though.

    Most importantly just enjoy yourself! I ended up being more worried about what I looked like and what he thought of me, than what was on my plate last night and it felt nice for the focus of my meals to not actually be about the food for once!

    Good luck, hope it goes well :)
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